I dont hate gay people but i'm scared of them, am i crazy?

If a girl likes you that way and you dont like her it doesnt bother you, whats the difference if its a guy? You sound insecure about your own sexuality. If you were secure in your own sexuality then what other people do wouldnt bother you. Perhaps you are scared that you could be a percentage bisexual and that you may be seduced into having sex with him or any gay guy? Even if that did happen so what? Its no biggy.
So many people are overly concerned with what others think. I dont give a shit what anyone thinks. I do whatever the hell I want as long as it doesnt hurt others and fuck what anyone else thinks.

Well see here's the think. Pookiepoo has a point. In my experiance striaght guys tend to actually think that way (straight girls don't though). I know ALOT of straight guys that think that way about my gay friend. They were fine with him before he came out, but now they all seem to think he wants to jump them. It's a the weirdest thing.
It's not a sexism thing (I'm super against it), just the thruth (from my experience).

what crap wazup, shut the fuck up. i think its normal to be uncomfortable around homosexuals or bi sexuals, its wierd for a straight person to know the other person is attracted to the same sex.but as long as we are open- minded towards them and understand that they are human too, then its ok.

i know what you're talking about. i am the same way. i have nothing against people who are bisexual or homosexual, but i am also awkward around them. i think it's just a lack of understanding. with other people who are heterosexual we share common interests and people don't know how to react to someone with sexuality so different than our own. it is like two ppl of different religious beliefs, it can make some things very awkward. but i know what you mean and i often owonder if i am mildly homophobic.

thebiblesays - Why are you even thinking about guys having anal sex with each other??

^^^^^^To: thebiblesays^^^^^^Wouldn't the Bible, somewhere, deem it inappropriate that you are reading the blogs on this type of website? Hypocrisy makes Christianity so unnecessarily unappealing.

Totally normal! I am a gay woman but I know where you are coming from. We are all human...no matter the sexual preference. Try not to sweat it ok?

Don't flatter yourself if your afraid some big queer is gonna nail you. If your mind and soul were involved in a serious romantic relationship, and you were getting ld every night, you would grab the nearest guy and give him a big friendly kiss because you would be ecstatic over getting ld and being in live and secure. Nothing could rattle you if you had that security. Nut, sadly, you don't do watch out that some big queer doesn't snatch you iup

Completely 100%% normal I don`t hate gays either but they do frighten me too same with my two brothers.

Well, the defintion of any phobia is a fear, so technically hating gays doesn't make anyone homophobic, it's just handy to refer to them that way XD but, more to the point, nearly everybody is scared of things they have little experience of. It's the same with all manner of things- people can feel uncomfortable around different races if they've been raised in a monocultural society, etc. You need to get out there and meet more gay people, to prove to yourself that we're not different to anybody else.

I've always felt that subconsciously everyone may be bi-sexual but since i've never had the urge to jump the bones of the nearest female around me, i think thats unlikely. In your case, however, i think it is just the lack of time spent in getting to know the person befor e labeling them. We are all who we are inside. Im straight but i could be the most horrible person. And he is bi but could be the best friend you ever had.

Maybe I'm heterophobic, I know most heterophobics "hate" gay people and are very agrresive towards them.

But I'm not like that. Im scared of straight people and very nervous about them.
I have a straight friend. At first when we met, It was normal. but after he told me that he is straight, I kinda feel uncomfortable with him and now I tend to be quiet and kinda nervous around him.

Is this normal? Ive tried counceling and even to a physciatrist just to change this negative attitude so I can be with my friend "normally" once again but it seems not to work... :(

-Please get the fuck over it

Are you sure you're nervous about your friend because of his orientation, or some other part of who he is.

In my experience, the guys who are sure of their sexual orientation are usually NOT at all afraid of being close to openly bi or gays.

On the other hand, guys are are either fearful or hostile are usually guys who have some issues with their own sexual orientation. That does NOT mean they are gay. Just that they have some things that need to be worked out.

Spend more time around gay and bi guys and see if that helps you relax. People are people ... not totally different animals based on sexual orientation.

Why would a guy be scared of me? Please explain?

You're not comfortable with your own sexuality yet.

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you sound like typical sexist feminist who probably hates men though will never admit it. You generalize and blame every men in the world but hell ive also seen and hear straight women and even gay women treating gay men, straight men and even their same sex the same with unfairness (its all around the world and even in the net)

pls change that way how you think because it aint gonna help you in the long run. Respect people, if you hate someone or dislike someone, say their name but dont generalize/blame everyone because of your frustation or whatever your feeling to that person. In other words, dont be a ignorant sexist because it just shows how low your IQ is and tells me you know nothing about the world.

Sexist people like you are so hunged up go outside and stop watching movies and reading magazines about men/women crap lol

You sound like a typical straight guy who thinks that just because a guy is gay that he wants to have sex with you. Get over it.
Even if he is sexually attracted to you which I doubt, so what? Im sure there are girls that may like you that way that you dont feel the same way about. You could take it as a compliment.
Straight men are so hung up.

You might not be sure of your sexual orientation

You are perfectly normal. It should go away once you see that every gay man does not have a personal mission to have sex with you. I'm gay this does not offend me. You made it clear you don't hate gay men so why the huge uproar. Not everyone is comfortable with everything. It takes time to get used to some things. Bashing this poor guy for being uncomfortable around gay men is just as bad as bashing someone for being gay. Jeez

I get a bit uncomfortable around lesbians and drag queens. (mostly drag queens, giant living barbie dolls!)

I guess it's normal to be a bit uncomfortable around someone who keeps things about themselves secret. Because...What else might they be hiding? That's the real fear factor, not knowing something.

I am a straight male. I like working out at the gym. Sometimes, gay men approach me and ask me to exchange addresses, and sometimes after showering, gay men approach me and start toweling off their genitals in front of me. Or they remove their towels when naked and entering the showers, blatantly exposing themselves. Ok, I am all for live and let live. I am NOT uncomfortable with my own sexuality; I know this is going to elicit that kind of comment. But I AM uncomfortable with this kind of behavior. I do not say anything, but wish this kind of activity would stop, it is not appropriate in the locker room.

you might be sexually intimidated so there's a good chance you will end up having sex with a guy

they might be angry people, likely

If you "spot it", then you "got it"

Interesting choice of words for someone you call a friend "frighten". I think i would be uncomfortable if one of my platonic friends became in some way the opposite sex. I would then have to address some sexuality issues i may not be ready to address but what makes it worse. i could not do it in my own time, i would be scared to be honest about my feelings in-case i lost the friend. I could get confused between sexual love and platonic. You got a real live person bi in-front of you. That's heavy and complex. Gay people don't scare me.