I don't want to have sex. i do not like females or males.

I'm a 24yo guy, pretty average in all aspects except I don't have a sex drive and do not find females or males particularly attractive. When i experienced puberty i didn't really have a genuine curiousity regarding either gender. Looking back now, I dont think i've ever felt sexually attracted to anyone in my life.

At the present moment i feel fine about this and feel i can live a content life. Do you guys think that im normal? is this okay? should i see a psychologist? I like to think of myself as pretty normal, i did have a couple of girfriends that i liked but didnt really want to have sex with, which kind of ended things. any advice (constructive) would be nice.

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  • Councilman

    Sex is pointless to me im 67 and never had it and never wanted to

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    • theytookthisone

      Old man, lookit my life...I'm a lot like you weeeerrre

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    • Nightwish27

      have you ever masturbated?

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  • Groucho_Lenin

    You are better than normal. I knew a guy who was the same way: he wasn't straight, he wasn't gay, he was A. As in asexual. All the energy the rest of us devoted to chasing tail,this guy used creatively. He taught himself fluid hydraulics and electronic circuit design. He was building a glider and restoring an Indian Chief motorcycle in his apartment, and he had a Jaguar XKE he was rebuilding that he had stashed out in the woods. Sadly, he died in a car crash on his way to take some parts out to the Jag ,but he probably would have gone on to do something great. So keep yer pecker in yer pocket and you will be the new Bill Gates.

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  • ttainted

    It's called asexuality. It is perfectly normal, although not extremely common. I've been juggling with the fact that I may be asexual as well, so you're not alone at all.

    I think I could enjoy life perfectly fine without sex. And, actually, it'd be far less complicated. So much drama surrounds romantic relationships. I'm 'attracted' to both sexes, depending, but I feel no need for physical intimacy. I'm twenty-one and a virgin, with no need to 'fix' my 'problem'.

    There's so much pressure to conform to society. Don't feel like a freak, you're not one.

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  • no there is nothing wrong with it your just asexual

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  • combatgal856

    Yeah, I think it is OK not to want to have sex. You are almost lucky, although sex helps reproduce etc, it does have its negative sides. There is too much emotions in sex and you need to deal with that (I am not sure about males) Plus sex may hold you back a little (relatiosnhips, getting urges etc)so you will probably do more acheieving in you're life than me since you are more focused if that makes sense.

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  • andrian007

    It's a rare thing, but there IS such a thing as asexuality. Go check it out at wikipedia and you might find that you are. Apparently, about 3%% of all people are asexual.

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    • BombTheMall

      I wouldn't say it's normal, neither would a doctor. But you surely are not alone. I'm in my 20s as well, and by medical standards we should want to be fucking anything with at least one tit. But I'd rather lift weights, watch a movie or eat a good meal than have sex. I'm aware that It's not normal, but I'm cool with it.

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  • serialkillerlover

    Your probably asexual, there is nothing wrong with that it just means sex is not your thing.

    the only thing weird about all this is that you think your weird/abnormal. trust me your not. you can still seek out a relationship, just one that doesnt involve sex.

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  • Dammitkortni

    I agree with Random. You're Asexual. It's not common, but it happens. Nothing to worry about.

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  • Merlion

    I don't see anything wrong with it Snake. Maybe your just not interested. Sex isn't the most important thing in your life.

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  • lwinnchick

    its called being asexual. some people just are. you could be a priest.

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  • randomname2345

    It's called asexuality, live with it.

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  • brodie12

    Ahhhh i see
    Your A-sexual.

    Wish i was.

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  • Personally I don't care too much for sex either, but I being a female am however attracted to men, and do thing about sex every once in awhile. I have had a few boyfriends but nothing really serious except for my first boyfriend, but I have not had sex in almost 4 years. I do not plan on having sex, especially casual sex anytime either.

    I don't see anything wrong with this and I've always said love is like life you go throughout it wondering what the purpose is and some discover a meaning in their own eyes for life and some dont. I would like to imagine there is a person out there for me to share the rest of my life with ("the one")but it is so hard to let people in and so hard for people to let you get to know them for who they really are. It's also even harder for people to genuinely accept you for who you really are vice versa.

    Don't let it bother you, and dont let anyone tell you that you need to date and have sex. It's your life, and love is free, whether you take it or want it is totally up to you.

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    • You seemed like you have been "scarred" by something and it left a soar taste in your mouth. hhmmm

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      • Fleabitten

        It's is perfectly normal. It is a real sexual orientation. I suggest you go to asexuality.org That is the website for Asexuality Visibility and Education Network.

        There are many people who are asexual, but they don't get much media attention because we live in a hypersexed culture.

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      • You might be right. I'm still young I still have a chance to change my mind about certain things, but I still feel like half the people I come into contact, particularly males are complete idiots and only care about getting fucked. Thats them, not me. There has to be people out there you have standards like me, and don't fuck anything that walks. If there wasn't then society could not function.

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        • I completely agree with you there are a lot of assholes out there who are only one thing. However, there are people who do genuinely care and seek longterm companionship. Its also the kind of people we allow to get close to us. My friend always would end up picking guys who were bad for her and treated her like shit, until she broke the pattern and matured.

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  • princesst76

    I think you just have to wait, until you find the right one.

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  • barebum

    It isn't normal but nothing wrong with it either. My question is then did you really find your girlfriends sexually attractive? If not then it is highly likely that they weren't the one for you.

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  • saddeningalien

    From what you wrote, I think you're probably just asexual. This is rare but perfectly normal.
    I myself discovered I was asexual in my early teens...and kind of thought it would just go away and I'd get myself a partner. I have been asked out numerous times (but I never agreed) and knew many people who had crushes on me. By the time I was finishing high school,
    I realized I was this way to stay and it was fine

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  • ValerieTDL

    Oh yeah thats totally normal, you have 4 different types of sexual orientation:

    Homosexual
    Hetrosexual
    Bisexual and
    Asexual.
    A- is the opposite of Bi, it means youre not attracted to any gender.

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  • technicallyhuman

    dude your lucky i want to have sex but can't and it drives me crazy. i don't know if its normal but its cool that you arent needy like me when it comes to sex and i wish i could be like that. i feel like i have more important things to worry about anyway.

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  • beautiful_dreamer

    Jesus was asexual. Be happy, dude's got yer back.

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  • A-Sexual.
    the end.

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  • sanejane

    i think that's kind of cool, actually. the whole asexuality thing. probably save you a lot of pain from gf/bf bf/bf relationships. no doubt you can still live a completely content life.

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  • sadali

    Dang....I wish you were a female saying this@!! i feel like you do, but I am 53, a female, and married. I feel so sorry for my husband, because i'm sure he misses sex, but I have no interest whatsoever. I always felt something was wrong with me, and still do. have to look up asexual.....don't know about that (old fart, you know). But, it does seem a little strange for a guy your age not to be interested....maybe couldn't hurt to talk to a doc. Personally, I think people put too much emphasis on the importance of sex, but I think most people don't think like me.

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  • lostinspace

    Don't force yourself into something you don't want to do just because other people tell you it is "normal" or you will regret it later. I wasted years of my life trying to deny my real feelings and fit in with other people and now I look back and it feels like I actually spent years being abused. Don't worry what other people think, it is yourself you have to live with the whole of your life.

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    • spyderr

      I agree. It's self-abuse to shut down a part of yourself and not accept it.

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  • AnonymousUser

    You are ok, there is nothing wrong with you. I have not had sex in over 20 years, and will never have sex again for as long as I live. It is perfectly normal.

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  • chickenfoot

    It's a relatively normal condition, I knew someone who felt the same way.

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  • russellnb

    believe it or not many women like a man who loves them and likes being with them without sex. Really

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  • That you are OK with it is fine. You might want to see a Dr about what is (or is not) going on. I do wonder where you are at with things that are more than sex like companionship, marriage, children eventually. I guess those things are off the radar screen.

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  • Synopsis

    You can go through life without sexual relationships. There is no shame in being a virgin for a while. Personal preference is okay.

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  • candid

    I agree with other comments about saving so much energy not chasing sex or relationships. I have noticed that when I am single I achieve so much more and get so much more done. It must be kind of liberating in a way, like when you're a child before puberty and you don't have all the distractions

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  • fashionstar11

    Well,is maybe...you don´t like to have a twin.

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  • I think this is bullshit. Your saying you never thought about anyone in a sexual way? You never wanted to cuddle in between her thighs? You never jerked off? I think asexuality is crap just an excuse not to deal with your real issues be it psychological or physiological. I bet if I injected you with enough testosterone, Viagra and pt141 you will be humping fire hydrants in no time.

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  • purple-girl

    some one told my if they don't like girls or guys that there it's.But I think it is normal I was thinking about that

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  • crawlerz

    This may or may not be normal, it could however be a sign of depression or a hormone imbalance. Its not a bad idea to talk to a doctor if it concerns you. If it doesn't concern you (but posting it here suggests it does) then you don't have anything to worry about.

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  • BADMAN

    Troll??

    Don't matter man whatever you feel....I would go see a psychologist just for the curious....

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  • AYN

    I like to name this condition
    JBP
    Justin-Bieber-Puberty

    You likely have puberty in a very late time
    And your sex drive is just slightly off

    Or you just play with your joystick so much your sex drive cries for help

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  • olivia82

    At least try it with both sexes.

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  • mikits

    You're asexual. You need to take certain hormones to get your sex drive up. Go to the doc and ask for a prescription for small dose of testosterone then you'l get an increase in aggressivness and a sex drive. Or take estrogen and become a woman. You're choice.

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  • InLovewithA

    I don't know, dude! I think there are a lot of people who CLAIM that they are not into sex, b/c they can't get any! No offense!

    You said you had girlfriends. Did you sleep with them or... Are you a virgin? Because if you are, you can't judge things you have not tried!!!

    Sex is not the most important thing in life, but it sure is essential!!!

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    • spyderr

      did you actually read the question before writing that moronic response?

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  • christine

    That is by no means normal. You should see a real doctor because a psychiatrist wont help. You need to take hormones to fix this ASAP!

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