I don't want to have friends

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I don't desire to have friends.... I'm 19, just graduated high school last year, and lately having friends just seems like a social chore or expectation.
I have had many, many very close "best" friends and every single one of those relationships has ended pretty unfavorably. I'm just sick of the whole run around. In high school friends are a need. But in college and the real world I would rather save myself the time. I'm not stuck up or thinking I'm better than others. Just generally in today's world people are entirely self serving and willing to cut everyone else down including so called friends, who get in thier way.
I feel like every time I start getting friendly with a new person thier true colors show. I've had people try to use me for money, rides in my car, try to put me down to make themselves feel good in an endless competition. I work at a job full of many young people. They are all cliquey and always going out together and I am like the odd one out I suppose. It doesn't make me feel bad because I don't even want to be friends with these people.
I am semi friendly with a couple people and when they ask me to go out it is always such a drag, I never want to go, I never have fun. I usually try and come up with an excuse in order to avoid them.
I don't know, I suppose it's just an odd quirk and I'm desiring some feedback....
Does anyone else feel this way at all??!!!

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  • AmvEditor
    12 years ago

    It is normal and in some points true, but believe me there is always exceptions, but i guess you must keep getting disappointments until you find a true friend.

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  • Gixie
    11 years ago

    There is a difference between true friends and mates. True friends are few and far between, Mates.... theres a pub full. Im 43yrs old and i have 2-3 true friends i know will always be there when i need them. But i used to have thousands of clubbing buddys thanks to the clubbing internet forums.

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  • telly34
    11 years ago

    When I was younger, there were a lot of people who had no loyalties like the ones you described. But be patient. I was in my mid to late twenties when I started to have true friends, but it was worth the wait. I wouldn't trade my friends for anything :)

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  • [email protected]
    11 years ago

    I agree.You're better off alone,the same as I.

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  • Seustewart
    12 years ago

    Friends, who needs them? When all is said and done friends are nothing but trouble. They will screw you in the long run.

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  • instazombiinaboxx
    12 years ago

    I'm in the same position but it's a little different. Often it isn't that people want to use me because that's what people call "teamwork". I use you; you use me. Lol.
    Anyway, my issue is that people just don't interest me anymore. I find them all very dull and boring.

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    • glittersisgold
      12 years ago

      I know what you mean, and those people are leaches that you must try and avoid like the plague.

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  • shag776
    12 years ago

    I recently had my best friend talk all kinds of shit about me and my family becasue I told another friend that I thought that he did something that he obviously did. It was a payphone call to my house while the three of us were in wisconsin (I live in illinois) that costed $33. He could have just owned up to it and agreed to pay for it when he got money (he doesnt have a job) Also I would pay for him to see movies because I wanted company. You just need to wait for the right friend that wont be a complete dousche when shit goes south.

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    • glittersisgold
      12 years ago

      Oh gosh please just cut him out of your life. This person sounds like such an asshole...I wrote this story and I deal with people like this all the time. I'd rather just be alone.

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    • shag776
      12 years ago

      Ive come to realize that he is a piece of shit and will never go anywhere in life. He took shots at how messed up my life is, Im 21 with a great job, going to school to be a math teacher and my car functions well. He is a 19 year old high school student with no job and his car doesnt work because he cant afford to fix it. Yeah he tried to give me life advice

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  • Malk
    12 years ago

    I feel the same way. These superficial relationships based on outside circumstances and mutual exploitation just aren't for me either. Although I admit that I have found several people with whom I am friends with, without this dilemma being apparent.

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