I don't want to feel this way..

Three days ago would have been my boyfriends and my 9 month anniversery. I know not a big deal but I really did fall hard for him and though I didn't show it the best way I could of he told me he loved me anyway, I believed him. 4 days before 9 months hit he broke up with me (a week ago). I can't get over him. Every night I have a dream about him in some way. We have agreed to stay friends so we still talk on MSN and sometimes the phone but I miss him like crazy and I have accually cryed over it. Is this normal? Am I just clingy?

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  • RogetBrit

    Listen dear, don't pretend anything. That will only make you a hypocrite and whatever you show outside, you are still going to be crying when you are alone in your bedroom.
    See - you didn't do anything wrong right? You were in love with this guy. So when that relationship broke, you are bound to feel down for some time. It's ok. But remember, you have to face the fact that this guy doesn't love you anymore.
    The fact is: Fortunately, life doesn't end when we want it to. It gives us experiences that make us ready for what is coming. Now how could this guy have loived you for 9 whole months had you not been an amazing person? Now, for whatever reasons, if he is no more with you, does it mean that you are no more a good person? Come on! You are. You most surely are!
    You know what? There are thousands who don't get their love even once in their life. You have experienced some amazing moments with your ex, right? So that qualifies for you two to continue being friends. The only change is: you have to look at him in a new light. You have to be happy for those beautiful times with him, and move on. You have to return back to your old self. Get your confidence back, get busy, maybe help someone around to cope with their troubles. And in general, add some value to your personality. Point is: Do what you do for your own happiness. If you do this, you will end up making people around happy too!
    Don't put on a brave face, take the situation head on, and make sure you don't develop an inferiority complex. You have nothing to be ashamed of. So you have nothing to be unhappy about. Cheers. Keep smiling :)

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    • girlygo

      i really appreciate ur comment :) i have been in a relationship for 8 month and we broke up almost a month ago. ur comment gave me a push forward :)

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  • toomanyassholesonthissite

    It is completely normal. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and I'm only 19 now. We broke up for awhile and I was devastated. the best advice is to act like you don't care, change your style, act happy even if your not, i know it sounds cliche but it will work

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  • This is 100% normal. Trust me, I know how u feel. I was dating this guy for over a year and he moved away. Like to a different country. We still talk on facebook and on the phone but it's not his voice that i miss as much, it's him physically. I can't sleep at night unless i'm hugging a teddy bear he gave me for valentines day when we first started dating.

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  • PsychoNikki

    You seem a bit clingy. I have a feeling you're a young'n. Honestly, You just need to let him go. I think when two people break up, the worst possible thing in the world is to "just be friends." That stops one or both of you from properly moving on because you're still clinging to the hope that some day, the other might want to "work things out" and get back together. You need to cease all correspondence with him, allow yourself some time to grove and move on.

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  • awatcher

    Love can mess your with your mind. The saying goes tis better to have loved than never loved at all. Sometimes I whole heartedly disagree. I am so sorry.

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  • k_s79

    Just my personal opinion, it makes things harder if you still talk to someone after you've broken up. You need some time away from him to get your mind off of him. Not saying you should never talk to him again, but just take a few weeks off. Who knows if he goes a while without talking to you he may realize how much he misses you and rethink his decision.

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  • supercute99

    I always care what people think of me and i hate it about my self i feel my confident when im with a guy or friend try getting a boyfriend to boost your confidence

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  • tell him how u feel and if he still turns u down then go look for another guy

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  • buriedalive

    It's completely normal to feel how you feel, but unfortunately, there's no real way to make yourself feel better. All you can do is keep yourself busy and do your best not to think about it and one day, you should be over it : )

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