I don't want them to like me.

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Hi there. I'm not sure if posting this is a good idea but... What harm could it do?

So.
Along with moving to upper secondary, i feel like somebody changed me, even though the only difference i feel is not being afraid to smile and be the true social me. Suddenly everyone seems to like me and i'm told my smile beams like sunshine. So good so far.

BUT, I know of four people who have fancied me in the past 4 months, because of face-to-face confessions, a love-letter, a poem and a rose. And i don't enjoy it. It was sort of a confidence boost when a guyfriend first told me about his feelings, once i actually understood he was being serious. But all in all, i wish those people had never met me. I don't want to have that sort of power over anybody's happiness, when i can't help them.
My friends know how i feel about crushes, yet they still confess to jealousy, so i don't talk about this with them. But I would trade back to being (semi)ignored most gladly, i never wanted this in the first place. It's not worth it. Problem is, if being me and smiling and being nice to people results in things like this, i don't know what to do. I don't want to lead anyone on, but i can't really sacrifice being me either.

Also, I feel childish and stupid and selfish for even thinking about this, and not just enjoying it. But i can't. I feel like my emotions have gone all wrong. My friends know my feelings on the subject, but don't actually understand. This can't be normal. How am i supposed to deal with it? The culture i live in frowns upon even acknowledging any of your 'positive traits', so i'm not supposed to have a problem because i'm not even supposed to understand anyone could ever like me. This is probably the most ridiculous problem ever, but it won't leave me alone. And there must be people with similar problems out there? Thanks in advance for any kind of answers, if somebody actually has the energy required to read through my entire rant.

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  • GamerVoice
    7 years ago

    Men and Women can't be "just friends". It's normal for women to think otherwise.

    Researchers found that while women were generally not attracted to their male friends and saw the relationship as strictly platonic, the men usually had romantic feelings for their lady friends. Not only were the guys more attracted to their supposedly platonic female buds, they also mistakenly believed that the feelings were reciprocal, and they were more willing to act on their erroneously perceived mutual attraction.

    Don't be friendly with a guy unless you want to have sex with them.

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  • Celeste
    13 years ago

    I never invest myself with pointless relationships anymore, so tell them how you really feel.Maybe they'll hate you, but growing up requires this kind of experience so that it may be applied to situations like these that could possibly happen again in the near future...

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  • Lia
    13 years ago

    I know how you feel - not wanting someone's happiness to be in your hands. I feel the same way. My advice is don't go out with a guy just because they like you. Just appreciate how fun and easy it is to hang out with your normal (girl) friends.

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  • angelsspike
    14 years ago

    Wow. You can't help how your friends feel when it comes to being who ou truely are. If it bothers you so mix when it comes to attention to the opposite sex, try to stop converting with them so much, focus on your chick friends more. You don't hold their happiness in our hands. You hold to mug responsibility. Your not super woman. If something goes wrong you can't put it on your shoulders all the time. It will destroy you...

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  • littlelottie
    14 years ago

    Whoops, completely wrong category.

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