I don't want children, but will have one anyway to keep my husband.

A child who is rejected by its mother will never be "fine" or have a normal life.
A child who is resented by its mother will never have a normal life either.

If you are not ready to be a parent, then DO NOT have one! Even if it is for the benefit of someone else (husband), it is still a cruel situation for the child.

Tell him how you feel. Don't let him railroad you into doing it for him and your marriage. If he cannot accept it, then you will have to split apart. This is something you both should have discussed before you were married, now the consequences of keeping this secret are higher. Take responsibility for yourself and your actions.

I kind of agree and disagree on some points here. I always think that whenever someone mentions having a dislike of children people automatically jump to the defensive and call that person horrible and a freak of nature for not liking them but there are plenty of men and women out there who don't.

However if you really hate kids and the idea of them you should not have one and then fob it off onto someone just so you can keep your husband and lifestyle. It kind of reflects how shallow your relationship is with your other half if he would completely disregard you because you won't have children with him - you both need to talk to each other and either do it as a joint effort or go your separate ways. You shouldn't force yourself to have children if you really feel this way about them, it will only end in disaster for you, the child and your husband.

Children aren't bloody gifts. Not every one wants kids, and half of those who do shouldn't have them.
Everyone saying she's horrible and wrong for not wanting kids, and that her 'poor, wants-kids-so-must-be-normal' husband needs someone deserving, willing to pop out babies, and waste time and money; you all sound stupid.
Back off people's lives. She needs to make it clear to her husband that she doesn't want kids and why: if he says no then HE is the horrible one.

Actually, I think the OP deserves better than him. If he wants kids, that's his problem. She doesn't need to be burdened by children if she doesn't want to. But she should find someone who also doesn't want to be burdened by kids so she can have a happy, honest relationship.

This sounds like a horrible and incredibly stupid idea. Sorry. A kid is not something you can take back, and it's not like getting a pet. To me you are an incredibly selfish person, willing to trade a human life for your own benefit. This "plan" of yours cannot possibly work out, the shit will hit the fan eventually.

having the kid might keep y'all together for a little while.. Then what? When he finds out you never wanted it or hate being a parent, you will get divorced..(and have god awful stretch marks)

You're not a horrible person for not wanting kids.

just don't have them if you don't want them. You and your husband should maybe reconsider the marriage. or maybe wait a little longer. If he wants kids, he should be able to have them, just maybe not with you.

Children are a gift, not a burden. Maybe your husband needs to find a new partner

Leave your husband. He deserves better than you.

you sound nasty

You're a twisted lady, you serious? I'm sure your mother didn't feel about you that way.

I was in exact same situation as you are. I did not want babies and keep my husband. So I HAD baby. I am not happy anymore since I am still in guilt that I had baby that I never wanted, made myself and my life miserable. I so feel bad for my baby, the guilt does not go away and I still do not find myself being a good mother.
I found pregnancy beautiful but noone told me how horrible life would be after having baby.
If I could go back and do it all over again, I would "not" agree to my husband for a baby, no matter what it costs even the marriage.

If you hate kids do not have a child. I understand you want to be kind to your husband but this is not fair to the kid. If you resent it the child is going to grow knowing you hate them.

Well it's a tough call...but maybe once you see your baby he or she will change how you feel they may melt that idea from your head and heart. I am not a huge baby lover and I hate bratty and annoying kids but I think that if you do decide to have one then please have some involvement in the raising of your child because if you let someone else raise it like a nanny or your husband solely then your kid may become exactly what you dislike in kids. You can not seriously blame someone else for raising a bad child as you stand by and allow it. I believe in tough love at times and I am proud to say that I have two wonderful, respectful kids and I constantly get compliments on my job as a mother. I have spanked them when they needed it I love them with all my heart but all the compliments are due to me parenting, I never stopped socializing I may have cut back a little at the begging but again it's really up to you. I have kids but I always made sure I had a life my kids did not dictate or define me but the other way around. My siblings have kids that are super annoying at times and are bad mannered not here. Trust me you can really have it all but you WILL have to get involved someone as smart as you should know that. Good Luck what ever you decide to do, just don't settle but at the same time don't settle it does n't seem like that will help either.

my cousion has a 2 year old he is 30 and his wife is 26. They still go out on the weekends and have fun(drink,go out atv riding,play cards) they are def not boring. Maybe you see your friends as boring now because they really werent that fun to begin with or they are just up tight

It's completely normal not to want or like children. I don't like kids, and am never going to have any. But you REALLY have to be honest with yourself and with your husband. If you have a kid just to keep your husband, not only will you resent your kid, but you will resent your husband. You enjoy your time with your husband? You enjoy being the number 1 person in his life? If you have a kid, that all is going to change. That kid is going to be his number 1 priority and you're going to take a backseat to the little beast.
And for all these idiots bashing you, don't worry about them. They are the people who think it's a woman's duty to have and love children. You all need to back off, seriously. Not every person should be made to looooooove kids. Back to the OP...Just really, you should give yourself the opportunity to meet a man who also doesn't want kids. It makes things SO much easier when both partners are on the same page. Join a Child-free site, there are many wonderful eligible people to meet through those sites :) And you never have to hear from people "lookatwhatmykiddiiiiiiidomgwtfbbq!!!"

Having a child is the most special feeling in the world, once you hold that beautiful little life that you and your husband created, it will be the most precious thing in your life. And if its not then your just not meant to be a mother, and if your husband wants that then you should let him find someone who wants the same thing he does.

please leave your husband to give him a chance to find a loving wife who shares the same dreams as he does and who isnt going to use him just for money.