I don't understand why this doesn't make my sister mad!

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My older sister recently married a man in the Navy. She had been living in her own apartment, had her own job, and was content where she was living. Now that they're married and he has his orders, they have to relocate really far away. They will do the same thing every three years until he is retired in his forties probably. SHE DOESN'T HAVE HER OWN LIFE ANYMORE! And she didn't even think twice about it. She doesn't care that she's going to be following around this man like a puppy, never being able to fulfill her own aspirations or dreams, never being able to become established in one place. She wants to go to graduate school, but the only place she can go is wherever the hell her husband is stationed.

I think this is such misogynistic bullshit, but she doesn't even care.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Love is strange like that.

    I will follow you whereever you go as long as we can be together.

    I think someone is jealous and needs a hug.

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  • dinz
    11 years ago

    Well I see she has made a large sacrifice. BUT in the end it is her decision if she wanted to continue a relationship that involves moving around every three years or so. Have you spoken to her and asked for her opinion?

    Compromises is a fundamental pillar in a relationship.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    That means she truly loves him. You apparently have never been in love and never known what it feels like or what it means. You do not seem to understand what it means to care for a person so deeply you would give up the universe for them. This also does not have to just be a lover it could be parents, relatives, siblings, children. You might not care about love but sister does. So you really should not stand in the way of her happiness. You sound like a very selfish person. If she is in love no matter what she probobly only wants to be with him. If as you put it she follows him like a puppy dog she is probobly only happy next to his side. Its sad you really want to take that happiness and joy from her. What are you mad you can not find someone yourself? Be happy for her you stupid cunt. Also you said she was content but was she happy? Maybe she is just happy being with the person she loves.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Actually, I have a boyfriend who lives in France and I have been trying to find a job there, but guess what? I have my masters in French and this move would only be beneficial to my skills and future endeavors. I love him very much and he is very dear to me, but would I be willing to make a similar move to say, Sweden, where it would be of practically no use to my career? I honestly don't know if I could make that much of a sacrifice.

      I don't want to take any joy or happiness away from my sister, I just don't understand how she never questions these matters at all. The way I see it, we all only get one life, and I think first and foremost, one should pursue one's dreams without being weighed down by the dreams of another, no matter how much one may be in love. If you don't pursue your own goals, you will never be happy.

      There was really no need for your profanity, good chap. If you are a woman, you are a disgrace to your sex. If you are a man, well, you don't understand the sacrifices women have to make in life, and furthermore, I have a question for you: would you follow your wife everywhere she went, and consequently sacrifice your dreams?

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  • charli.m
    11 years ago

    I really doubt she married a military man without being aware that this would be part of life. This is fairly standard for military families.

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      It's beautiful ai'nt it.

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  • slings_and_arrows
    9 years ago

    It's called being in love. It's a dangerous feeling and people do all kinds of things they wouldnt normally do. What if a man decided to go where a woman wants to live for her career? Or changes his life, relocates to another country for her? It can happen both ways. Its not misogynistic.

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  • Hannitized_Dittohead
    11 years ago

    How is it misogynistic? She married a Navy man. She knew going in what it was going to be like. He didn't hold a shotgun to her until the wedding was over, he didn't blackmail her into marrying him, she made the decision of her own volition.

    If that life would have been an issue for her she could have easily chosen to break off the relationship and find someone else. This life isn't a problem for her and the majority of military wives. If it's an issue for you don't marry a military man (or woman, if you're a guy). Problem solved.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    To all the other posters besides Vampireking, thank you for your honesty about this. I just wanted to make it clear that while I am happy for my sister, and I understand this is her choice, I was just confused why she didn't even stop to think twice about this and just took a leap of faith, but I suppose I can learn from her.

    I am extremely pragmatic, so it is hard for me to "do anything for love"

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  • JesusFreak93
    11 years ago

    Just because you can't take a military life does not mean she can't. Military spouses and children are some of the strongest people I know. They sacrifice so that you can have freedom, get over yourself and be happy for your sister!

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  • powerpoe
    11 years ago

    its her choice, she apparently loves him enough to endure this, if she has peace with it, so should you. because now you are actually the one people should get angry at, for not wanting your sister to be happy with him.

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