I don't think children are worth the effort

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I don't have kids, and the truth is I didn't want them for the majority of my life. I had a few times where I thought I wanted kids. I'm honestly not sure if I want kids now, but I'm probably too old at this stage. I try not to get to attached to my wants nor to confuse my wants with my needs. I also think it's good to not push things. Some things are meant to be and some aren't.

I do, however, distinctly remember when I was relatively sure that I absolutely didn't want any children that there was nothing more annoying than people telling me that someday I'd change my mind, and come around to their way of thinking. I can't stand the presumptuous attitude of people projecting their stuff on me. I remember this one friend in particular who was always encouraging or rather pushing me to have kids when I was married to mistake number one, and she always sounded so damn tired and burned out, then she'd have the nerve to ask me when I was gonna get serious about my life. Ugh! Yeah, I was only working part-time and seeing a therapist, but I was at least working in radio broadcasting which was my field of study, whereas my friend with the psychology degree was working in retail. There's nothing wrong with working in retail, and I've worked in retail, but I felt like she and I weren't on the same page. I felt like my friend didn't respect or understand what I wanted for my life. I felt like this chick just wanted me to give up my dreams and settle for a life like hers. Not that there's anything wrong with her sort of life, but I couldn't help resenting her passive aggressive way of projecting her stuff on me. Misery loves company. Anyway, I did eventually start to feel a bit of a maternal want for a baby of my own accord, but a year later my husband cheated with a fat skank from his work. Needless to say I was very glad that I didn't have any kids with my stupid ex. It was a sad and difficult time for me, but I think it worked out for the best, because I have never wanted children enough to want to have them an my own. I think people who truly want kids aren't as conditional about it as I am or have been.

Well, that's enough about me, sorry for the long ramblings of my previous paragraph. I guess what I'm trying to say in my own round about way is it's fine if you don't want kids, and fine if you do as long as it's what you want and not the bullshit some codependent bitch is trying to project on you. Only you can live your life. Do yo thang, girl!

I don't know if you're the same person whose other post I just replied to, it was a similar theme.

Parenthood just isn't for me either, and even at a young age I know that. I don't want to be overstretched economically, having to spend thousands on my kids. I'd also be scared that they'd end up with depression like I've had, it would kill me knowing I contributed to bringing them them into the world just to go through all the same shit.

its a big commitment and its one of those things. I like my personal freedom but I know when I get to 60 if I've never had kids I will look back and regret it because for all the heartache it's something that provides people with alot of fulfillment.

Your parents should have said the same thing about you.

You should only consider bringing children into the world if you have a strong, healthy, happy, stable marriage, and it's what you and your spouse both truly want. Not your friends, not your parents, not your spouse's parents - you and your spouse. Ideally, you would also have a strong support network of kind, loving, emotionally stable friends and family members on both sides, as well - but the primary responsibility of raising your children is on you and your spouse.

It is crucial that you and your spouse both have the temperament for raising children, which means having a boundless supply of energy, patience and emotional maturity - not just for your own children, but also their friends that they'll want to have over after school or on weekends.

You should also be financially stable enough that one parent can stay home with the children until they are old enough to leave home - without the other parent having to work ridiculously long hours or multiple jobs. If neither of you has what it takes to feel happy and fulfilled being a long-term, full-time homemaker, then it probably isn't a good idea to bring children into your world.

It's also best if you could put your children into a private school, or be prepared to homeschool them, if private school is out of the question. Public schools these days seem to be little more than mental, physical and spiritual prisons, where children are constantly bullied - either by other students or the school staff. Not exactly the most ideal learning environment.

Do not be meddlesome micro-managers of your children's lives. You have to be willing to allow them to make their own choices - and their own mistakes (up to a reasonable point, of course). You and your spouse both need to be able to walk the parenting tightrope, where you are loving, caring, involved, supportive parents without being nosy, pushy, snooping busybodies who can't allow their children a moment of privacy.

You should both be reasonably intelligent and sane people. You don't need to be geniuses, but you should both be reasonably well-educated, and resourceful enough that you can figure out on your own what you haven't been taught in a formal setting. And if you're rabid racists or self-absorbed narcissists, please skip the whole parenting thing - we really don't need more of those people in this world.

Hopefully, I've painted a clear enough picture of what it takes to raise happy, healthy, well-adjusted children in the first world. How many people do you know who meet all of these qualifications for the toughest and most important job in the world? Personally, I can't think of many.

I would only EVER choose to raise a child if I found the love of my life, our relationship rock-solid. And we would be adopting.

Jimmy Savile and Rolf Harris didn't think so.

I'm not interested in having kids either, but I've virtually devoted my life to science. I'd much rather put all that energy into a research project or several - why raise children in an already overpopulated world with appalling distribution of wealth and failing energy resources, when you can divest that energy into a career that can help develop solutions for aforementioned problems and set a better stage for future generations to have kids of their own?
Besides, children are dirty and noisy. That's an instant dealbreaker for me.

I don't want them either.

It's a zero sum game. They bring equal joy and sorrow. They age you. If they are boys that get married someday, your daughter-in-laws will isolate you and you will never see your grandchildren.

Roll the dice only if you can accept whatever happens.

I suggest you volunteer at a hospital or daycare, or babysit your friends' children as a starter.

Personally, I want children someday. I have a lot of love to give, and have many plans to fill their childhood full of wonder; it's the teenage years and not being financially stable with a good job/career are what I'm mostly afraid of.

I agree with you OP. Hopefully, I never regret it :P

I think two kids make a happy family.