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Why do people get into relationships; what are they looking for, and why is it sometimes considered necessary for happiness? Also, why does it matter so much they are a similar age to you?
is it normal to feel like this
Relationships aren't neccessary for happiness. Alot of people can be happy without a partner in their lives. You want to know why people get into relationships?
I'll tell you:
1) It can be a very enriching, very "This-gives-me-a-good-feeling", and for some, a fun experience. People love to feel good.
2) Societal programming and the encouragement of the Couple status.
3) Sex. Let's face it: people love to have sex and there's many different types to experiment with.
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4) This doesn't apply to all relationships of course but a big factor why people get with others is because of children. Many adore kids and want to have them in life. Kids can either really enrich a relationship, or break it apart (but this heavily depends on the bond between the child's parents).
As for lovers being in close age with one another, it's mostly a comfort or perference thing. I mean, would you feel more comfortable with a person 2-years-older than you or someone that's 30-years-older (old enough to be your mother/father)?
And to answer your last question, yes. It is normal. Not everyone understands it and that's perfectly fine.
sex
truth is, a real man dont need anything from a women expect sex. sure she can do other stuff like cooking and cleaning but its not a must.
that is why we need more submissive females in this world to be used as sex slaves
It's more common to not understand relationships if you're on the autism spectrum, but I think it can be normal and healthy for anyone who so chooses to be happy alone.
I think it's better to be alone than in a relationship with the wrong person. Since I've started working on myself and my own codependency issues around love, sex and relationships in the past few years I've been a much happier person. Sure, I get lonely sometimes, but I certainly don't believe I need another person to complete me. I figure if it's God's will for me to meet a so called soul mate I will and if not I'll be alone and that's fine too.
Just be true to yourself and don't compare yourself to the herds of sheeple out there. Honestly, if a Jinn popped out of a bottle and promised me that he/she could guarantee me one of two things in my life: either I would always have a significant other or always have a dog and or cat, I would not pick the significant other.
P.S. If you should come across a Jinn don't trust it as they are notorious tricksters and mythical creatures that don't actually exist.
;-)
Siamese cats, Shetland sheepdogs and French poodles forever!
:-D
*turns up the volume on the noisy beasts*
YaY!
For me it's a matter of having someone in my life who completes me. I know, it sounds so silly, but with my wife the two of us are more than two halves of one person, we almost become a super person. Everyone has faults and we each have our prejudices and blind spots to things about us in life. With the input from my partner, I'm able to see through my blind spots and prejudices, comprehending things in a way I never could have, alone.
Tackling a repair project on the boat, we share ideas and can come up with a solution that neither of us would have, independently.
I've always joked that I'm a better half a couple than I am a single person.
They're looking to fill some holes... :)
As for the age thing, well... people think differently at different ages, so it's natural to be most common and most comfortable within your age group.
You will never fully understand relationships until you've been head over heals inlove. Let's face it, you will never fully understand what you have not yet experienced.
For me, its about someone to share my life with. To laugh with, to cry with, to cuddle with on a cold day at home, to share your thoughts and dreams and desires, someone to love you unconditionally, but most of all, someone you can devote yourself to just because you want to.
I realise a lot of people think relationships and all the lovey dovey stuff that comes with it is kind of lame, but that's because those people have never actually had the feeling of being inlove, therefore their argument is irrelevant.
The age thing doesn't bother me so long as both parties are legally consenting adults. My boyfriend is 25, he's 6 years older than me and it doesn't bother me at all. I actually like it because he's a lot more mature than a guy who's like 20. He's got a job, has debts, life insurance, he's actually an adult and that's great because I can't stand teenagers.