I don't love anyone anymore.. is it normal?

I ended up enrolling in a different high-school my Junior year. I left many of my friends because I didn't want to feel anything for her ever again. Finally, now, I'm over her. I'm really done with her. I'll occasionally see her and I know for a fact that I really am done with her. I finally phased through the step I hadn't passed before. She had played with my feelings and emotions for the last time. I was relieved. It's been a while now, and I've tried having relationships with different girls.. and I've noticed something's wrong with me. I feel like I can't love anymore. I find girls attractive still, but not in the same way. They can be hot as ever, and cool as can be, but I don't have those same feelings for them. She must have really messed with my head/emotions. I can't see myself being happy with anyone. I've had several girls express their feelings towards me, but I let them know I don't feel the same. My family and close friends have noted that I seem depressed. I don't know what to do, but I'm longing to feel those feelings. I've tried opening my heart to relationships, and I just have literally no feelings of love for the girl(s). I have plety of hobbies, and I have plenty of friends. I feel fairly happy, but there's a void I'm desperately trying to fill. And it seems impossible to be filled. I use to always have one/some of those "dream-girls" in my mind, whether real or fantasy, but now I don't have a single one. It now feels like all girls are mere toys and distractions, and not something I can actually fall in love with. I find it sickening that I even feel that way. I want to love, but I just don't feel that it's possible. It's been close to a year now, and I've yet to feel feelings for anyone. Maybe everyone feels this way at one point in their life, I'm not sure..

Is this experience normal? Whether it is or not, how should I proceed? Please, help..

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Based on 84 votes (64 yes)
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  • chick756

    I felt same way after few guys played on me.I got through it and became stronger.Just try to besy yourself,time will do it's work.After some time you will change your mind and will be happy again.

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  • I'm sorry man I've never really been in your position before...the only thing I can probably come close to is that I can't feel anything anymore.

    But its normal that you're going through this. Maybe you haven't fully forgiven her and still feel a bit of resentment towards her. Maybe you're keeping your guard up because you're scared that what she did to you might happen again. Or maybe the other girls that you're dating doesn't compare to that specific girl. Yeah the others may be cool and everything but none of them stand out to you.

    I may be wrong but I'm not fully sure on what to say. Try to find a new interesting hobby so you can have something to be excited about. Or just stay single for a while...its only been about a year so its still fresh in your mind about what happened. Just take some time for yourself.

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