I don't like this girl in my friends group

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Let's say I have this 'gang' of 7 girls in my class. There is one girl in my gang who also join the same organization with me in school. But when we are in a meeting of this organization she treats me like I'm a stranger, sometimes she ignores me and prefer to talk to another friend, but when we are in class, with my other friends in my group, she treats me like I'm part of 'her' gang. Honestly, I don't really like her personality, she is kind of selfish, when she talks she wants to be listened but she doesn't listen to other. She is also an attention seeker, she always talking so loud and I can't stand her.

Here are the things why I don't like her:

- In our class, me and her, are the best because we always get high scores in every lessons. One day she said that she got a bad score but she didn't want to tell me what she got. But she wanted to know about the other scores. So I was kind of mad.

- We 7 planned to go on a trip together, we have prepared everything, date, hotel and transportation. Suddenly 3 weeks before we go she told us that she wouldn't be able to join the trip for some reason that she couldn't tell to anyone.

I mean as a 'best friend' there is nothing wrong to share about her problem, right? she made us worry, but she still doesn't want to tell us why she couldn't join the trip.

Beside she always ignores me in organization, I really can't stand her and would like to avoid her but I can't because it would break this 'gang' and I still want to be friends with the other.

What should I do? or maybe there is something wrong with me?

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  • Dad
    9 years ago

    7 girls + you, is a lot of different personalities.
    Since you repetitively stated you can't stand her! Then I suspect she may have picked up on this and in different times during the day she may decide to do what she wants to do and not what pleases you.

    With all these girl friends I'd say its highly likely that not everyone is exactly the same and all get along all the time, variety in personalities in a group is a good thing. This girl herself may be ideal to you in specific situations that the others aren't.

    Regarding why she didn't tell you about why she couldn't go on the trip (although my first pop answer would be finance) its MOST likely the reason didn't go along with the general concept of the group and therefore she 'may have been embarrassed or not willing to be hurt (in her mind) of others thinking she is wrong in some way or another.

    Generally ALL kids/teens are selfish.
    If you look hard enough you'll actually see this in you and others. It doesn't make her wrong or out of the group, it probably most likely makes her individual and independent (at times).

    I think you could remain close friends with her (or besties) as long as you respect she is an individual and part of YOUR group.

    Don't lose friends, make them and keep them. Some last for life.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      but what about she always ignores me every time we meet in organization? I feel the vibe that she probably also hates me

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  • curtisn
    9 years ago

    Honestly, you never know what someone else is going through unless you ask. It would be very big of you to put your differences aside and sit and talk to her about how you're feeling. Her response may surprise you. If she is not receptive to sitting and talking then you keep moving forward and building the strength of the other friendships. Regarding her cancellation of the trip, don't worry about it. It's over now and can't be changed and I agree that it was probably due to financial problems.
    If she's willing to talk, tell her how you feel when she is ignoring you and be as honest and open as possible.

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  • pixie44
    9 years ago

    Maybe she's just a fake bitch.

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