I don't like it when guys get close to me- but girls are okay...

I am really friendly! I'm outgoing but sometimes this can give off the wrong signals. Recently I started to talk to this kid in my class and we weren't even close. He tells me "He was picked on in high school and middle school and even the teachers picked on him." He does this story and I felt bad. I listen to him and he begins to get really negative but I try to be positive. He murmurs a lot and I can't really hear him.
He started to sit closer to me in class and I didn't like it. He rubbed me the wrong way and maybe it is because he kept on referring to violence or even when something bad happened to someone like someone got hurt he would say "That's funny!"then start to chuckle or even make fun of someone and laugh. He's also very negative and I have had enough of it! He also looks down at people he's given me some of those looks which I don't like. I tell him often "That's not nice.." but he doesn't listen! I am also very dedicated to my education and he always forgets to do his homework and that often irks me. After class he started to wait for me. I rushed out of the class room and he said "You have another class?" I just responded "yes" and then He kept following me. I rushed out and then ran away. The next day he sits right behind me and starts to breath on my neck. When I hiss he laughs, and then he starts to make comments on everything I do ( negative comments- like that's stupid) and no one can hear murmurs except me. Is this normal? Is this bullying? What do I do? The teacher won't do anything!!!!!

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  • SirChazwickEsquire

    You may be the reason that he is driven over the edge one day which causes him to commit some violent act himself. You never know who you are actually messing with.

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  • Ms.Caffinated

    Run. Also, very misleading title since its only one guy. Also, he may shoot up a school if you stop being friends wih him so be on the look out for that too

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  • RoseIsabella

    His behavior of toward you is a discovery of sorts. He told you he was "picked on" in middle school and high school by both the students and teachers, well they probably "picked on" him for being a creepy, quirky little weirdo. He probably brought whatever life troubles he's lived through upon himself. I'm not at all saying that all victims of bullying bring it upon themselves, but rather that he himself probably is the cause of all his problems.

    If I were you I'd phase him out of my life via some ghosting. Please feel free to cut him out of your life if you feel so inclined. You may have to talk to the instructor if he doesn't stop trying to sit near you in class. I would, however, try to explain to him that you would like him to leave you alone. It's completely understandable if you're not comfortable telling him to leave you alone. If you can't tell him to leave you alone yourself please feel free to discuss this harassment with the instructor as well as the campus police. If he has your phone number or any of your social media stuff go ahead and block him. Please remember that you owe him nothing and you're not responsible for his hurt feelings, but do be careful as he may very well be crazy.

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  • Tealights

    He wants a relationship with you, but he's an abuser and stalker.

    Basically he gained your trust with the "whole world is against me" sob stories (because abusers never take blame for anything and feel like the victim no matter what). He calls you stupid and other hurtful comments to purposely make you feel vulnerable and flawed, which is meant to destroy your self-esteem. Waiting and following you are ways he can learn your schedule. He's doing all the typical things abusers and stalkers do.

    What's saving you is you're not stupid. You noticed something was off about him and you immediately started avoiding him. Do not give him any personal information. Nothing. Keep avoiding him. Don't lead him to any of your other classes. Tell him you do not want to be friends anymore. If he starts getting violent or harassing you, get school security or call the police.

    Lastly, it's not your fault. There are bad people out there of all ages and gender, and anyone can bump into them whether they're friendly or not. Now that you met this guy, you know what behavior to look out for and avoid the next time you bump into another bad person.

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  • Someonee

    Invite him to a tea party and secretly poison him, then he can never ever bother you again nor will you ever have to worry about this loser again.

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    • biirdprince

      and who's going to clean up? you can't just leave the body, if the police find it they'll run an autopsy and find the poison in his system, thus connecting it to OP.

      i'd say burn the body afterwards and scatter the ashes in separate. secluded places. if you don't got time just chuck them in the ocean or feed it to your pet lol

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  • Ellenna

    He's stalking you and as Tealights pointed out, sucked you in with a sob story so he could try & get control over you.

    He's a predator and I think you should tell as many people as possible about it: your parents; school authorities and teachers; other students and your friends for support.

    Please don't keep quiet about this: you've done nothing to deserve being treated like this except that you sound really nice and trusting of others. Keeping quiet allows it to continue and escalate.

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  • Bighohnson

    They guy obviously likes u but from the caption above your post sounds like you secretly lesbian

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    • Ellenna

      What rubbish! Most women are more likely to be uncomfortable around men than women, because men are more prone to violence

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  • pantychaffe

    Go to the principal. Insist on speaking with her. If this behavior escalates report it to you police dept

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  • CreamPuffs

    Sounds like it has less to do with guys and just this one specific person.

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