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"Be yourself" only works if you are a naturally good person. What if you are not a naturally good person, but still get lonely? Should you be alone forever, or be a (fake) good person so that you don't get bored? (Then again, keeping up a facade for your "friends" gets pretty boring too)
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Be smart, go to therapy and or the appropriate twelve step program so you can improve yourself by trying to be a better person.
What does your therapist tell you? Did you get a diagnosis? Depending on what you're diagnosed with you may need a specific type of therapy.
Idk I feel really guilty asking professionals for help so i haven't been able to express exactly. she referred me to a group. I finally told her i didn't think it was working and wanted to be schedule individually again,but I felt so bad for bothering her i started crying after i left
Please don't feel guilty, none of us can get better from this type of stuff without help, and oftentimes this is professional help.
I've done group therapy before, and it oftentimes feels excruciating especially when I one can't relate to the problems of others. Sometimes people would argue and bicker. A lot of times group therapy would just reinforce my feelings of isolation. I also did a group therapy class for several months with some people who had the same personality disorder as myself, and that sort of group therapy was so much better.
I do think it really helps to have a diagnosis.
Thank you, yeah I frequently just space out in the group cause I cannot relate. A diagnosis would be great but it seems like the therapists avoid them for some reason and just give general advice.
How did you get a diagnosis? If I remember right you have bpd? Do you take medication? (If you don't mind me asking)
Be the best version of yourself. Everybody fakes it to some degree. Just don't imitate somebody else, or do things purely because you think people will think that's cool - it never works.
The trick is to be yourself, but the best version of yourself, if that makes sense. Because the "real you" it's a myth imo - who's the real you? We're all multi-faceted people, with a million different ways of behaving.
So I think it's just - don't try and imitate somebody else, or something else. Because it comes across as fake.
But, it's normal to have to force yourself sometimes to be a certain way.
I'm just not understanding why/how people have friends/relationships and it's bothering me cause I feel wrong, and bored
Be yourself! I know it is hard, I struggle with anxiety/depression and struggle to love myself for who I am. Don't lie because it wouldn't be you at your full potential. Everyone is special in their own way, so don't let those voices tell you otherwise! Be strong and wake up every morning and say, "wow I'm not like anyone else, how awesome to be me!" I know it's cheesy lol, but I go to therapy since I almost died from an overdose. I was bullied by many girls and boys and let their voices stay deep within my head repeating over and over. It took a while, but I realized my talents and realized how worthless those other people are. I am an A/B student and they still call me a idiot, but I know I'll be the one on top and they won't. Be yourself! Stay happy! Don't let depression eat you like it did to me because death is not something you want to play with.
Be yourself and you won't need anyone else except you, because if you finally start being who you really are, you'll finally be happy
You're fine. Stop comparing yourself to other people or the 'popular' guys. No-one is 'popular' forever. And yes, everyone acts to a certain degree when we're with other people - we usually only let them see what we want them to see. It's quite a talent to learn how to interact well.
So you're not that different to most of us, I imagine.
Stop overthinking it.
You are who you are - learn to be comfortable with that.
If you act a certain way long enough it ceases to be an act. It becomes who you genuinely are.