I don't know what to listen to

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I'm so exhausted trying to figure out what to do in this "thing" I have with this guy. Finally I came across an article where the author writes one of the things she'll do in her next relationship thats different from her last relationship. Shell listen to her gut and only friends and family that know them in person rather than reading online for advice and getting everything in her head and mess her relationship up.
I felt relieved she felt that way cause to be honest, I appreciate the advice from here and all the articles but at the same time, when I listen just to me and my heart, I feel fine. I'm fine if me and him are not official and that there shouldn't be any boundaries if you love them. But I don't wanna look like I'm being played. When I tell pple I'm fine with the way things are honestly, most people say "watch out" "you're getting played" "be careful." Like ugh if only u can put yourself in my place and understand that I feel fine.

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  • reminiscent
    9 years ago

    Well I dont know tye whole story...as long as you are happy :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Thanks. Well its just me being in a non-relationship although we act like a couple. So the things I hear about this subject are usually on bad terms such as "he's already getting everything he wants so don't expect him to be in a real relationship with you" "he's not busy he just doesn't want a relationship with you" etc. I didn't feel bad until people who used to hang out with us would question his motives when i would tell them "no were not official but its mutual." They could give me this stare like "mmmm ookayyy..." And on here and other articles, its said that he's using me. When I look at us and some things that are being said, they are compatible but then I look at the big picture and ask myself "do those things REALLY bug me?" or "are they just SUPPOSED to bug me?"
      A comment on that same article mentioned "why decode behavior when we can just be honest with each other and let each other know what's the deal?" It hit me that people don't mean anything much with their behavior. Its no wonder every time I confronted him about his certain behavior, he would be clueless and be like "I didn't know thats what I was doing?" I think some situations vary and its not what other people think or believe. So its important to listen to yourself and focus on whats in front of you more than an outside source. I look forward to going back being happy, healthy and okay with what I have with him. :)

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      • reminiscent
        9 years ago

        Well to be honest its none of their buisness...they dont even sound helpful as friends...I could understand if they sound worried about you...but they just dont seem helpful at all.
        As long as you keep communication open with him I think thats good.
        and just be happy if your happy thats all that really matters.
        Its best in any relationship to not let the little things get you down

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Yeah thanks tho. I know they weren't worried because they're not really friends just pple we hang with. So I feel like they were just inputting their perspective which was pretty typical. Not saying that I'm an exception but I just think differently.
          But yeah, def gonna try and go back to how it was I was fine before I believed others more than my instincts.

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