I don't know what to do about my boyfriend, i'm so lost

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So me and my boyfriend have been dating for over half a year, he is very clingy.
For example when he had to go home from sleeping around mine he started crying, he does it every single time he has to go home.
Another example would be that he constantly want's to text or message on facebook, i have told him i'm not really into constantly messaging someone but he continues to try get me into it.
I lately stayed at his for a month and ever weekend before that, but now i just want some alone time, he does not seem to get that which i have asked him for, he keeps texting loads, asking when hes going to see me, crying and other stuff. I have explained to him there is nothing wrong but it feels like hes making something wrong now as i feel like the more he tries to cling the more i want to distance myself.
Help i'm so lost.

Is it normal for me to want more and more space?

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    God yes, your response to his neediness is totally understandable.

    I don't think I could be with someone so obsessive, so emotionally dependent on me. And for your boyfriend, it's certainly not healthy behaviour.

    He needs to learn a little more independence, and most importantly trust; he needs to trust that the person he's in a relationship with won't disappear the moment he takes his eyes off them.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    I don't know how you stood it for so long, but being with someone who is needy and clingy would drive me up the wall. I honestly would end it with him. If he keeps bothering you, get a restraining order.

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  • CDmale4fem
    8 years ago

    Im thinking by now you probably broke it off with pussyboy. He is very insecure, hes afraid of you meeting someone else better to you than he is. If you are still with him - why ? You can do much better even if you started dating a crossdresser. Hopefully you told pussyboy to grow up or take a fuckin hike.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I think he has some serious mental health and codependency issues. He should be in therapy.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I'm thinking it's his childish behavior that is driving you away from this cat. Honestly, it sounds like a horrible relationship and I don't see it lasting much longer.
    You might want to start distancing yourself from this guy; he just doesn't sound very stable to me. I'm sure he's going to be very hard to get free from, and there are sure to be many childish outbursts, but I can see no reason why anyone would want to maintain a relationship with him.
    Good luck.

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  • Blue_Velvet
    9 years ago

    I had a boyfriend like that. Anyways i don't think your'e ready for commitment, why i'm saying this is if you were married to him, you would stay under the same roof together all the time. It seems your'e not ready for that. When you have your alone time you should take time and think if you love him enough.

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  • TheJester
    9 years ago

    Why are you in a relationship if you constantly want alone time, get annoyed when he wants to see you, and you couldn't be bothered to text him?

    You're his girlfriend, you should want to see him, miss him when he's gone and want to text him when you're away from him. I think you're too young for a commited relationship so you should allow him to move on.

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    • sandraasiilva
      9 years ago

      Well, she's always with him/texting him. He doesn't give her opportunity to miss him.

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