I don't know if i have true friends anymore.

A couple of days ago one of my friends had a birthday party and invited another one of my friends but I wasn't invited. At first I just shook it off but then another one of my friends threw a party and invited people that she wasn't even that close to and I still wasn't invited. It made me start thinking if I had true friends. I always seem to be the odd one in the bunch and my friends don't tell me anything about them. They never help me with my problems and I feel like they just use me. I'm not sure if I have friends or they just feel bad for me and think I'm weird. I don't know if there's something wrong with me or it's all in my head. This has gotten me very depressed and I never have anyone to talk to about this stuff, I'm really confused.

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  • williams

    I once read this quote and it said "forget those who forget about you"

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    • nobby

      this is too true
      i've been through the same and your true friends come out of it in the end

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  • mongrut

    I understand exactly how you feel. I recently had a bad experience that helped me realize that the loyalty I felt towards my friends did not go both ways. It is at moments of crisis that you find out who is real with you. I can not give you advise as I am as confused as you but I can tell you that you are not the only one going through this. To the point I actually searched "I don't know if I have true friends anymore" on Google and found this. And contrary to what someone wrote here, no, life is not as good without friends.

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  • Well that does suck. Don't blame yourself. Seems you are part of a group, but not as close to these guys as you thought.

    You could let the party throwers know that you felt left out. Nothing to loose. Or maybe its enough to learn where they stand.

    In a way the disappointment is good. It means you expect to be treated better and to not be taken for granted. Hang onto that. Who in this group, or elsewhere, can you start cultivating better friendships with?

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  • DrQuinnMedicineWoman

    Well you sound young. Which in this case, the best advice unfortunately is no good to you. What you should do is pull one or the other if these girls aside and ask them what's really up.
    What is it about you that they are beginning to shun you. Is it because your selfish, you always have bad breath? you cling onto them? have no independency? flirt with their boyfriends?
    And if your friends were actually mature, they could answer you honestly. Then you could fix whats wrong, or realize they are idiots and don't deserve you.
    But since your young..your friends probably won't just give you the answer you need to hear. They will make something up, or tell you there is nothing wrong.

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  • pinkfingers

    Somehow it seems pretty obvious that they didn't really care about how you feel.
    You should try talking to them. maybe they have their own reasons.
    friends are supposed to bring you happiness most of the time, not make you gloomy and anxious.

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  • KindnessFriendship

    Maybe they aren't really True Friends.But you never know.They might be kinda shy.They might not be use to you.Try to talk to them about it.I hope it goes well.:)

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  • Royallaw28

    There probably ahead of your time I had "friends" like that in school and they were doing things I couldn't even imagine don't be a follower fuck them lol

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  • shed505

    similar thing last year with weddings. People can be really nasty about things. Occasionally it's just cos they forgot but when it is something like a birthday or a wedding. It is obvious they are just throwing their weight around and using other people to make themselves feel better.

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  • LastYearStudent

    Wow... you are telling my life story. What exactly happening to you is what my life is about. I feel all people i know always use me and never consider me as a friend.... Do you need to know what i've done to change it? Not a fucking thing!!! I don't give a damn so i don't care about friendship. And remember.. this experience will move you to another level and self-dependence. Life can be good with no close friends... believe me :)

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  • coolkid94

    That happened to me! But I ended up moving colleges and having to see a psychologist... They accused me of making up fake friends to try not to look unpopular, and they even ended up getting people to send me death threats! I spent a whole year alone and didn't think I fitted anywhere. and now I realise all you have to do is try and socialise with other people, once you're out of a very close group for a while, it can feel great. So try and get to know some other people and see if your feelings change :)

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  • Brenda626

    i felt the same.... i was the most popular girl in the grade in 8th grade(i was even voted it yearbook and for some kids science project)... but i felt like i didnt have a true friend to my name... i still dont

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  • Ash4dramaiskillingme

    Don't feel sorry.Bcuz i'm sure they don't.If I was u i would make some other friends and throw a party and don't invite them =) Revenge is sweet !

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    • MaggotMayonnaise

      If she/he is hurt by not being invited, it's not likely revenge would do anything. Revenge is hallow, and it would mean that she is becoming something she doesn't like

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  • smiler

    That is strange that they both didn't invite you, maybe they forgot, or maybee you have said something to one of them or someone in the group is spreading rumors and they are blowing you out. try blowing them out a bit and find some more friends....

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    • AMANDAHEWITT16

      I AM IN THE SAME BOAT YOU ARE IN BABE . IT HURTS NOT BEING ONE OF THE GIRLS .ITS SAD AND YET THESE PEOPLE MAYBE SOMEONE YOU CAN GO TO THE MALL WITH AND GET THAT GREAT NEW SHOE BUT THEM BEING THERE FOR WHEN YOU NEED IT. IT SHOWS THEY DONT CARE. MY GIRLFRIEND IS THE SAME WAY ITS ALL ABOUT HER DRAMAS AND NOTHING AND I MEAN NOTHING IS ABOUT ME EVER.

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  • iLoveMyGSXR

    Do you smell or anything? Just try to be clean, helpful, and an enjoyable person to be around, think of yourself in their shoes, would you be your friend?

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