I don't know if i actually have real friends or not..

I am the opposite I like to stay in and play PS3! I am sick of people asking me to go down the bar and chat! I smoke so I have to go outside. I hate that! Fuck Bars since the Smoking ban!

these people aren't you friends :(

but there are people out there who will love you for who you are! love yourself first, confidence is what attracts people to you, and enough confidence will give you the strength to recognize those who enter your life for their own selfish gain rather than friendship. I've been there, man.. just try not to hate everyone (even it's the easiest thing to do with so many a-holes in the world.)find strength in your family, if you can! that's unconditional love and they should NEVER judge you.. you're their exact same dna, anyway :)

Story of my life! I have never had one close genuine friend. I get it. And honestly I don't even have any great advice at the moment b/c im still dealing with this too but I can tell you I know how you feel and it sucks. I just posted about this very topic and someone reminded me that ppl can be really selfish, whats important is how you choose to live. Move on with your life. your better off w/ out them. I hope you are able to find someone who cares just as much about you as you do them! You deserve it.

I feel ur pain.....

i found in my experience that if you feel excluded and pushed out. you are, and that you might be getting made fun of behind your back. I've been on both sides of this. a lot of people cant burn bridges but for me who can easily never talk to someone for the rest of my life. just find someone else, and i understand that if you know someone your whole life it can be hard. some bridges just dont burn. if your friend is a good friend then they will come to you.

I think she is a bit insecure and maybe you should show and tell her that u love her to make her feel better and make her feel more comfortable, also she might just be wondering what kind of girls you like to improve herself

I'm so glad i found this, because i've been going through the same feeling for the past 2 years. I went to a different high school then most of my middle school "friends". When i got to high school, i made new friends, but none of them i'd go out on friday nights with and hang out, like their other friends. I'm not weird, shy, or ugly or anything, i guess people just see me as a nice person who they talk to at school but thats it. I've made one real friend since the beginning of high school and more people like her as a person i guess, so she has other friends. i attempted to hang out with her friends for a weekend once, and i never was invited again. i've come to many conclusions about this. I've cried in the dark alot and i've went and layed outside in the nighttime, just imagining what it would be like to have a group of friends who are always there for me. At first i thought they didnt like me b/c i'm a little loud, and im mixed. then i started to think it was my personality. i dnt think thats ur problem though. and im pretty sure thats not mine either. i like to think that once i graduate, it'll all be over, and i wont need friends. So just live ur life, and be nice to everyone, and hopefully it'll work out for both of us

I feel the same way. Just that my friends aren't dating. They just keep bringing people over to where we hang out, making it seem that it's their hanging out place and that we're just there for decorations.
Honestly, you'll only find one true friend in life. Besides your mom that is. Don't sweat it, try to enjoy life. Although it sounds cheesy, by not stressing over social problems, you'll feel more relieved. Try to find friends who value you, for who you are. :)

Are you in a situation where you cant leave the area you are in? If not MOVE! I mean a big move! My brother (25) used to live in the extremely western part of Montana and when he lived with us he had no "real" friends so instead he moved to Minnesota. Now he has 2 of the best friends! I think you should move and go back to college or something.

I feel the same, but that is because I don't know how you really define what a 'friend' is.

Sure, I know lots of people from when I used to go to school. I'd say hi to them if I saw them again but I would never make an effort to go see them. Do they count as friends, or just acquaintances?

The people who I did used to make an effort for have now all moved away. But%%u2026they still seem to see each other a lot, but none of them contact me%%u2026

So, I can kind of see where you coming from with the 'been pushed out whilst their getting closer' feeling.

If I was to count the number of people I personally class as a %%u2018friend%%u2019, I could do it using one finger. Although I only see them every few weeks%%u2026

In short: I think it%%u2019s normal, because you're not the only one.. :(