I don't know how to tell my boyfriend i was raped

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I've been dating my boyfriend about a year and a half now. Back when we had only together for a year, we went to a party that a common friend was hosting. We both ended up getting kind of drunk, and so our designated driver was a friend of his that was going to take us home. My boyfriends house was closer, so he dropped him off first. After that he drove out of town, pulled me out of the car, and did things to me I don't want to say. I think he knocked me out because I remember waking up at home.

Its been six months, and I get terrified every time I see him around campus. I don't know what to do because I have no proof he did it.I'm always having to make up some excuse for why I don't want to be around him. I don't know what he might do if he found out I told someone, so I haven't. But last week my boyfriend tried to make an advance farther than he usually does, and I panicked. He's realized something's wrong, and I don't know how to tell him. What should I do?

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  • bimbobamboo
    6 years ago

    Just tell him he'll understand if he truly gets u

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  • potato101
    6 years ago

    Tell him if you already haven't you cant let someone use you like that. You need to tell someone that you feel safe around and try to get some evidence because the person that did that to you could do it again unless someone is able to stop it.

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  • Yennifer_Of_Vengerburg
    6 years ago

    Should tell him, if he thinks you fucked him on purpose tell him you'll take a polygraph test to prove your not bullshitting

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  • KnobOnMySlob
    6 years ago

    Sorry this happened to you. I'll share a quick story. My partner had been raped the summer before we met and didn't end up telling me till much further into our relationship. From her end, she said she felt so relieved that she told me about it because she was constantly worried if I knew or would judge her or think she was dirty. In all reality, the event wasn't something she choose but was forced into. Anyone who can't love and care for someone who has had there power taken away in such a way doesn't need to be in your life.

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  • nikkiclaire
    6 years ago

    Do you not want to mention here what he did or do you totally not remember what happened?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I don't want to say specifically

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      • nikkiclaire
        6 years ago

        Understandable, i guess I was more asking if you remember since you dont remember going home.

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