I don't know how to handle this situation?
A very close friend of mine was drunk last night and broke down crying and telling me she missed me because we used to be best friends and now we're just friends. She says she had tried to be strong but she couldn't handle it anymore and that she was really sad for our distance lately and kept saying she was worried about me because of my new friends, which she thinks are bad influences. I honestly didn't know what to say I just kept wiping her tears off and saying "but I'm still your friend". I don't really feel sad about our distance because I've realized even though she's someone I trust I just can't be open with her like I used to. She's a good person but she's is very close minded, judgmental and has childish mind. I can't tell her anything without her making a huge deal about it. And the so called "bad influences" are just friends that I'm getting more close to lately, and they're not forcing me to do anything, not even persuading me. I told her having new friends does not mean I stop being her friend, I can have more than one friend at a time, but she disagrees and says I can't. I feel like a bad person for not being as affected as her and it hurts me to see her cry but I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I'll talk to her sometime this week but I still don't know what to say. Any advice is really appreciated. Also I don't want to lose her but we're both changing and we're naturally growing apart, should I accept it's the end or should I try to make our friendship work? Thank you for any advice.
It's naturally ending, let it go | 18 | |
Do what she says and leave your new friends | 1 | |
Keep her as a normal friend | 14 | |
Work on your friendship together | 9 | |
Other useful advice | 1 |