I don't give about my bf.

My first boyfriend--my current boyfriend-- is a gentleman. He's polite, charming, and flexible. He's never once raised a hand against me, been upset with me, or treated me badly. Overall, any girl would be lucky to have him. But I do not have romantic feelings towards him. TBH, I wouldn't care if he broke up with me tomorrow. I wouldn't care if he were gay. I wouldn't care if he confessed to a decade-long killing spree using a dull fork...

The only reason we're together is because we are best friends. But I don't feel that extra "romantic" element. Above all, however, I do NOT want to hurt him, which is why I can't bring myself to cut it off permanently.

I actually tried once. He begged me to take him back. I caved. Here we are.

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  • BurnaTwist

    you have a good man and you want him gone? smh so many women claim to never be able to find a good man and here you are givin one away, i know a lot of good men out there who are single and its kind of comical to hear women complain that there arent any left, theres plenty. if you dont want him anymore find a good woman who would appreciate him and introduce them, and when your stuck with asshole after asshole youll think back and say damn i shouldnt have let him go

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  • derp

    I have been in a situation just like this before and it's really hard. You can't force yourself to feel romantic feelings that aren't there, but you do care about this guy so you don't want to hurt him. You will probably be able to be content with him for now, but once you meet someone new that you are romantically attracted to, it will get complicated.
    My advice is to continue trying, for now, to find feelings for this guy. He sounds very nice and supportive which is hard to find in a partner. Even if you fall in love again, the next person may not be like this.
    If nothing ever comes of it, you may have to try again to let him go, but it won't go over well. Trying to keep a friendship going won't be fair to him, since he wants a relationship. You will probably need to permanently exit each others lives, because otherwise he will not be able to get over you and he will suffer.
    Again, this is a hard situation. I was in a similar one and it was the hardest situation I'd ever found myself in. It didn't end all that well, either. Good luck.

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  • XxKatiexX

    Man up and do it

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  • cannibus14

    First of all you are not a bitch, if you were you wouldn't care about his feelings. It is absolutely ridiculous to call someone who can't break up with someone a bitch.

    Relationships need to have the best friend element too, so it's not like there's nothing there. A lot of relationships are only the 'romantic' part and not the 'best friend' part, and no one calls a girl a bitch for staying in these types of relationships. Do what you gotta do, which has to come down to what makes you happy. But if it makes you happier to stay with him because it would make you sad to hurt his feelings, then there you go.

    You sound like a really nice person and there is no black and white answer to any problem. Follow your heart, you'll both recover either way and it'll be a life lesson.

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  • joybird

    This sounds like the reason many people stay in marriages :o(

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  • What'sMyName?

    You don't give about your boyfriend?

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  • ThisIsNotAUsername

    You don't want to hurt him, but you're leading him on?

    That makes sense!

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  • Emerald33

    Make him wanna break up with you?

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  • TareBear20

    I've been in you're shoes, lasted 6 years. Instead of the begging to stay it was "I'm going to kill myself if you leave me" If you are not romantically involved, do yourself a favor and him a favor. Just leave. Trust me, you'll be happy you did.

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  • ZinZin

    If you dont 'give about your bf' Then just dump him. If you dont care what he does, or eats and when you say 'I dont give about my bf' That ALSO means you dont have feelings for him so why care if he's feelings are hurt or not? He'll soon realize you are not worth it to him... :p

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  • Troll

    U betch

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    • Recreationist

      Thanks buddy. I'm trying to be honest here. I love him as a best friend, just not romantically...

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