I don't find anyone attractive except my husband

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I mean every couple is attracted to eachother, that's normal, but I don't think that anyone AT ALL is attractive except him. I have married friends that are attracted to their husbands but they don't mind pointing out a "cute" guy or talking about a "hot" celebrity... but I just don't see it. Johnny Depp, Brad Pitt, men in magazines, even every day guys, whoever- I just can't see attractiveness in men. For the first few years of our relationship I was just like any other woman (I think); if there was a handsome guy around I would notice (not flirt or check out, just notice) and the last couple of years it's just become to where every man might as well be a shapeless gray blob. Also I used to watch porn when I m*bated but now it's a MAJOR turn off, and I can't use a d*ldo any more because it's not HIS penis- if I use one it turns me right off :/ I can only m*bate by rubbing and only if I think of him. also the greatest feeling in the world is no longer my orgasm, but feeling him have one. I am not saying this is a bad thing, I am just wondering if anyone else is like this?? Basically where you feel that your spouse or partner is like sex personified and absolutely EVERYONE else just looks bland. Like on a scale of 1-10 he's a 1,000 and everyone else is a 0.5 max. Is it normal to feel this way? Oh & it's not that I'm a secret lesbian either lol

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  • chaosdragoon1
    13 years ago | pl

    ^^^^Role model wife RIGHT HERE!!!!

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  • purplemoon
    13 years ago | pl

    Who cares if its normal? Its WONDERFUL!!!

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  • Underdogz
    13 years ago | pl

    Lucky guy.

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  • IfUwereOnlyassmartasme
    13 years ago

    It just sounds to me like your head over heels in love with that man. Enjoy it.

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  • Mitsyrules
    13 years ago

    I kinda used to be the same way until I realized that the feeling wasn't reciprocated.

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  • moomus
    13 years ago

    It would be great if everyone was like this!! As for a dildo, why don't u do a "clone a willy" and make an exact replica of his?

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  • HurrrDurrr
    13 years ago

    Wow that's so touching and sweet. Your hubby is a lucky guy. You are a true woman and I tip my hat to you madam. I hope you both have a long and happy life together and make many wonderful children. This planet needs more people with your DNA.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    its pretty normal once you find someone you love you just cant think of any other people you are such a good wive :)

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  • raining_skyttlez
    13 years ago

    You're his stalker and her married you...how perfect! hehe I think its nice to be so "in to" your husband :D I love mine, but I like looking at Vin Diesel too!

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    • raining_skyttlez
      13 years ago

      he*

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  • diamondbaby
    6 years ago

    Yes, it is normal! I'm 26 y/o and I feel the same way too about my husband. I don't find any man but him attractive. I don't notice the so called "hot guys" on the street/on TV/wherever, I don't flirt, I don't have eyes for anyone, but him. I love him so much! :)

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    • BootyGoddess
      5 years ago

      These all warm my heart so much. (I know this is a 7 year old post but omg I was googling because I felt like the only person like this and I'm so happy now)

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  • TheArchitect5198
    6 years ago

    I feel this way but I know my boyfriend doesn't feel the same way. I mean, he finds me attractive but not to the extent that I do. I also have a great problem with porn or looking at other people and he doesn't. A lot of my problems with it stems from scientific studies and that I consider it cheating. I think cheating is a physical and mental act. If he's watching porn he's getting off from another womans' body, there are more reasons other than that obviously. As bad as it will sound I will probably always find myself unattractive as long as his opinions remain the same, and I can't expect him to change, so.

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    • BootyGoddess
      5 years ago

      This is exactly how I feel. 1000000000% percent.

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    • Forreal2
      6 years ago

      It is like cheating. Someone explained it on an experiment post. He is basically pleasuring himself to another women and the fantasy is that she is there for him and he is doing things to her. The Brian can't differentiate between the two. So yes it is technically cheating.

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  • dan_d8b_dbline
    13 years ago

    TRUE LOVE!!!!!!!!! MY girlfriend feels this way about me and i LOVE IT!!!! Really every little thinkg you listed she has told me. in fact i feel like such a worthless piece of shit cus...i still find other girls attractive. Maybe its just cus im a guy cus I know I truly love her more then anything! I know I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

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    • Forreal2
      6 years ago

      By any chance do you watch porn? As alot of this "attraction" to others is actually an imbalance of the brain that is caused by porn Watching. Been many studies on it.

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    • dan_d8b_dbline
      13 years ago

      weve only been dating 2 years. but we spend every day and i mean EVERYDAY together. Im going to ask her to marry me after I finish school.

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  • moni18
    13 years ago

    you truly love him

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    Yep I'm the exact same way with my man :-) Hurrah for us decent women!

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  • red_star
    13 years ago

    Everyone says it's a natural human instinct to notice 'attractive' people, and I used to be like that... but now I just don't, zero, none. I am wondering why I used to have that basic instinct and now it is completely gone?? and again just wondering if anyone else is like this? I know it's not a bad thing, I just don't understand why it was I was like that before and am not now.

    @moomus I laughed so hard at the clone a willy idea! His name is William!! LOL

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    • BootyGoddess
      5 years ago

      I don't believe in natural human instinct to notice "attractive" people. I never did, I still don't. I think it's mostly an excuse for people to behave poorly. It's not terrible that you were like that at one point, but I don't think it's very "in human nature" either, because not everyone does it or is like that. :)

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    • Forreal2
      6 years ago

      Just mentioned similar to a guy above. Was sit about the same time you stopped Watching porn? As it has alot to answer for. Many studies have proven it can be as addictive as heroine and can cause loads of imbalances in the brain.
      What you feel is completely normal and it annoys me so much that people tell people that its normal to find others attractive. Think it's to relieve thier own guilt.

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  • BoredGuy
    13 years ago

    can I clone you?

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  • DannyKanes
    13 years ago

    Which is good

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  • BootyGoddess
    5 years ago

    This is normal! I have never met anyone that has felt the same way as me. I am so happy to see a post like this. My boyfriend is the only person I've experienced any attraction or feelings towards (physical/sexual, romantic, etc). I don't think anyone else is even remotely attractive; pretty much exactly how you've describe this, except nothing has ever turned me on before him either. I don't ever look at other people and I never have. They're all just bland and unattractive; I could write an essay about this. You are an amazing human being and I wish there were more people like us on this planet. I hope he never loses you because you are a gift. It hurts that it isn't always reciprocated --because it should be if you are truly in love and what not-- but at least there is someone out there who feels the way I do towards their partner. It makes me incredibly happy and warms my heart that people like me really do exist.

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  • maddybear
    11 years ago

    wow finally another woman like me! i hope he feels the same way about you like my man does! :) i just thought about this and googled it and here this was! i had to sign up to make this comment! i call it true love <3

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  • kdasilva
    13 years ago

    This is rare, but ROCK ON! I hope he appreciates this.

    ps Explore the world of sex, to it's fullest

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  • askmesomething
    13 years ago

    YAY!!! THERE ARE PERFECT WIVES OUT THERE!!!!

    YOU BRING ME HOPE!!!!

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  • Treynine
    13 years ago

    That guy is lucky! He probably NEVER has to worry about you cheating on him (which is a good thing)

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  • Devilsummoner
    13 years ago

    just a perfect role model wife! ^-^

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  • babylady
    13 years ago

    dude...its kind of weird. Its great that you feel this way, but it seems maybe a bit extreme? I wonder what your husband thinks of this, to have you so reliant on him.....
    If its a turn on for him then its all good

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  • aderrick72
    1 year ago

    My husband and I have been together since 2011. He's always watched porn until this year and I've tried but it never did it for me. Now, trying to watch porn is a turn off. Cause they're not him. It's frustrating because he's always been able to do it,stopped only because we had an argument and he realized that watching porn is more harmful than beneficial, at least that's what he said. But I tried, I just can't find any man attractive and women just turn me off. Seeing other people naked except him disgusts me. It's frustrating.

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  • iamnotfortheweakhearted
    10 years ago

    Thank you. I thought I was the only weird one. I am like this with my boyfriend of 5 years. For some reason, even though I am like this myself, when my boyfriend out of the nowhere told me this, I couldn't really believe it. Reading that others feel this way too besides me reassures me!

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  • aaa83
    13 years ago

    Lucky him.... It's great... you really love him...

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    i meant wife

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    • Not_Who_I_Say_I_Am
      13 years ago

      If he feels the same way then ur the luckiest girl in the world. Enjoy! <33

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  • oneonone
    13 years ago

    Luck guy dose he know how strong your feelings are. I would feel suffocated. I look at porn but my wife never would. I'd like to use a dildo but she would not. What will you do when he wants to do those things with you?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Well it's normal and also very good,when you love someone(and it's very good that he is your husband)very much and don't notice any other man,it means that it is the real love and it's very very good that you love him this way.Not many people can love this way,hope that he loves you so much too)

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  • EbonyMT
    13 years ago

    I'm like this.. in a weird way... I'll look or notice other guys and be like... :/ *shrug* or ew.. it's weird lol. I have been dating my bf for a litttttle over two years now. Hes told me that other girls or women don't interest him at all.. but who knows.. guys will be guys. When we fight I feel that what he said was a lie but I'm sure he thinks the same when we fight. It's stupid. But any ways yeah I'm like this. Gross I hate dildos haha. Never used one and Id really like not to. :|

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  • pinktrench
    13 years ago

    thats bullshit! don't believe ya.......

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    • jessicia16
      13 years ago

      i dont think her post is bs , I feel this exact same way to my bf.. and other guys just gross me out ... like thier smell , their sweat on their hand ... their character and fake smile like celebs ... not one man ive ever seen since my bf has got me to look twice in an attracted way..... and no reason to lie here... i feel that way after our first 6 months together and its been 4 years now.

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