I don't feel like i can relate to people

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I have always felt detached from the people around me. I've never felt apart of a group and when I make friends I rarely feel close to them and doubt that they feel close to me.

I care a lot about the people around me and want to be there for them, I enjoy listening to my friends problems but I feel as if everyone is so involed in their own lives that they don't notice or care when I need someone to listen.

I find it hard to socialise especially in groups, I worry a lot about how people percieve me it makes me feel awkward and self conscious. I wish I could just live and not care so much about the people around me and what they are thinking.

It's hard to feel comfortable around people but when i'm alone i'm constantly thinking about everything: life, death, people, everything. It gets me down and makes me irritable.

I feel like i'm not really living, I want to feel excited and I want to have fun but I'm not sure how. My life just feels like a mudane cycle i'm forever going round and not getting anywhere I just want to get out.

Is this normal?
(sorry it's so long, bit of a rant)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    find somone who is exacly like you dont try ace special and think there is no one like you because there always is i found someone who was exacly like me we done loads of fun shit which was good for us but not so good for everyone else or the town we were in lol

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  • UhhhOK
    11 years ago

    I relate 100%. the thoughts end up running my life. We just need to distract ourselves from these intrusive thoughts.

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  • samemistake
    12 years ago

    what you've said, is actually EXACTLY what I feel right now. You couldn't have described it any better.
    I also find it hard to socialise because I'm always thinking about how other people are going to judge me.
    The thing is, there is a way to change this.
    You said you are always thinking about how other people pereieve you. The truth is, everyone else is thinking the same thing about themselves.
    Try not to think about it too much, the best way to become confident is to fake it until one day you'll realise you have become confident.

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  • aliwashere0609
    12 years ago

    same here, its called social anxiety disorder and it sucks):

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  • windowlicker
    13 years ago

    I think you're pretty cool

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  • LAW13
    13 years ago

    I used to have a lot of friends. I lost them all. It seemed to easy. I'm so alone and don't know how to make new friends. I feel like I am different from most people. I am kind of weird. But only because I get nervous around some people. Ugh

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I don't know, like alienation?
    I don't understand why whatever/whoever created us made so many people feel like this.

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  • Reverie
    13 years ago

    i feel like this alot

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    There is a name for wat ur trying to say u have but i cant remember it srry if u go on wiki pedia u culd find ot

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  • jrphotographer
    13 years ago

    Me too. I'm exactly the same way. It sucks.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    ahah most likely.
    I feel like one.

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  • diabolic_mushroom
    13 years ago

    Everyone needs to socialize! Everyone!!! I can understand you perfectly. It can be hard to find a group of people who share your interests, that you can spend time with and have fun. Maybe you should focus on having a good relationship with one or two close friends to start with before you plunge into a group dynamic.

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  • confusedteen33
    13 years ago

    I'm right there with you. You put it perfectly when you said I would just like to live life. I've had some bad experiences with my last two groups of friends. Its led me also to over analyze the things that shouldn't even come to mind! I feel as if the only way ill get better is to be at the center or heart of the group and its fun. Unfortunately I don't think my current friends will ever let me. They enjoy putting me down. Hang in their man.

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago

      ahh yeah I do the over analyzing thing aswell. I always get annoyed with people because i'm forever trying to figure out their intentions and I always think of the worst.

      It's hard to trust anyone really cause I think everybody has a certain degree of selfishness and they'll do anything for themselves even if it means letting you down and messing you around.

      It's nice to know i'm not the only one though, thanks.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Sorry but your an alien

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