I don't feel good enough for her

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Hey everybody.
Last year I got my heart broken by the girl I thought was my dream, and it really brought me down and put me in the gutter. Well this year I have been flying solo, just too scared to get back out there. I met this girl recently and I have pretty bad crush on her. But I just don't feel good enough. I got braces this year (Only for a year) and I just haven't really got back out there for a while. I feel like I lost my mojo, and I'm just destined to be a hopeless romantic or however they say it.

I guess my real question is
Is it normal to feel so insecure and have such a wall up and not feel good enough because of what one girl did to me 6 months ago. And how do I build up more confidence.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    Yea dude, thats some normal shit right there. Best bet is to start going to the gym or doing some cardio or whatever. The endorphines it releases in your body will make you feel outstanding about yourself. Basically like taking confidence pills. Worked for me when I got my heart shattered into a 1000 pieces, and now I'm back out there, confident as hell and with a body to match! BAM!

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago

    Squeal is spot on, working out is one of the best confidence boosters there is. I recently got my heart shattered as well and it's also worked for me. Not gonna lie I also changed my wardrobe around a bit and I found that's really helped too, because people started commenting about the changes I had been making, and it feels really good hearing those comments. Your confidence will return, and I guarantee you'll find a way to make it happen. Good luck and I hope it works out for you!

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  • sweetheart7
    12 years ago

    Sorry to hear that one person could have hurt you that badly. You know you probably were good enough for her and she didnt see it.
    Forget about the braces hun if a girl see's how much you care about her they wont even see them.
    I wish you and Dappled luck

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    For once, I can't give advice. I got burnt badly by someone a year and four days ago and deliberately took a year out (coincidentally, this is also when I joined IIN as I suddenly had time on my hands and didn't want to use it thinking about what she'd done).

    But now the year is over, the old me that would have unhesitatingly asked someone out for a meal, or a drink, or a film, is finding himself a bit shy. I know I'm more than ready to start something new (I often go a full week without thinking of her even once) but I have this nagging self-doubt where I wonder why people would be interested in me, especially if they're pretty, or funny, or clever.

    Some of it may be fear of being stung again, but most of it is that I've become a "single" person and I've got out of the habit of being part of a relationship.

    I guess it'll just a bit of bravery on both our parts, because I'm not willing to spend the rest of my life without that wonderful moment when you're so crazy about someone that your stomach flips over every time you're near her. The temporary insanity of love is worth a few knock-backs.

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    • MBTHPS
      12 years ago

      Wow bro I know how you feel completely.

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