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i don't don't feel anything for other people. not random people on the street, not my friends, not my family i just feel nothing. i know i am capeble of hurting them if i know it will benifit me. and still i have never felt remorse for anything i have done.
but i don't get how i end up this way? am i the only person that is like this?
i have, almost, the same problem. i do care about my friends and family, i always help them if they feel bad an stuff, but i can't feel any emotions. atleast, for the past year. for a wholeyear i haven't felt "love" or "sadness" as a emotion, and proberbly others for a long time. evrything turns into logical thinking. and not like RedAvarice, i do wana change this. because i remember how it was to feel love. but i really can't feel anythings. i see myself as a empty shell, just exsisting to help others. does somebody knows a way to change this? because i now feel, nothing.
Sijin, you seem a good person. I think it's really easy to be kind if you were born that way: you just ride your emotions when you do all your good deeds. On the opposite, it makes you a really great person when you try to be kind despite not feeling like it, just by the will of your mind.
However, in your case, I think, you just got over-exploited by your close ones. Seems like you don't get enough "fuel" to produce love. You maybe just need to be alone for some time to restore yourself. Or maybe you need to find someone who will love you, so she/he will share some with you.
I have the same problems. I like to help them but i dont feel emotional relationship with them. So it kinda sucks. I think this is because i didn't actually spend a lot of time with my relatives in my life. All my relatives lived in a different city. And I'm the only child of my parents.I also dont feel I have deep emotional relationship with my parents. 5 years ago i got admitted in a military school (cadet college), which is the best around (among all schools in my country). Normally the cadets (students) have deep emotional relationship with each other but I didn't develope any. Though i hang out with a loads of friends and I'm the best-friend of like three people who are mine too. But i somehow feel that I haven't developed an emotional relationship with them. So whats my problem. Am i simply uncapable of developing deep relationships?
i feel this way too occasionally. the trick is to be attentive of your surroundings. If you are with your friends or family and you smile,laugh, or feel sad/angry then freeze that moment in your head, and realize that though you may not care for others as much as they care for you, the people around you still influence and affect you and accentuate that feeling a little bit. If you take relationships from a more analytical and logical viewpoint(as I suspect you do) than this should be enough to make you care a bit more. At the very least this seems to work for me.
No you're not, I am just the same, I actually submitted a story almost exactly the same as this called Emotionless before I saw this. I would not physically hurt my family to gain something, but i am indifferent to other peoples suffering.
If I hear on the news how several thousands people have died I do not care, I really don't care about it. If I see someone upset and crying i don't care.
I consider this the best way to live life, I don't want a relationship or children. It is normal.
welldo you care about youselfe
it might be because people are stupid animals and you realize it
i feel the same way i dont give a fuck about anybody and i dont give a fuck about who dies i dont feel sad for anybody i think everybody is fucken stuiped crying about people dying one day ur going to die too i never fell in love i dont even know what love is i think people who fall in love are stuipd i dont want a family or kids when i grow up im just in it to hit it thats all.
if i seen a person dying on the streets i would just walk pass him and keep going i wont even look back i wont even look at him just another dying person big deal i wouldnt even care if i die tomorrow or even now or ten years from now i just dont give a fuck and i dont look at this as a problem but a benefit sure people might think im cold hearted but who gives a fuck.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apathy
when you realize apathy is actually harmful TO YOU, you will live more passionately. find a purpose, have dreams, live more with friends (not your regular colleague) and lover, experience new stuff and feel your life alive again
I also am the same, or worse I think. I do not care about hearing at the news that thousands of people are dying, I'm actually glad, the planet is over-populated anyway. I don't care much about my family, I'm almost certain that I wouldn't give my mother one of my kidneys if she were dying of kidney failure. My father I'm 100%% sure that I would let him die. Also don't care about friends, not that I have many, I don't like people approaching me, don't like being around others. I am attracted to women but I do not care about them, I can't connect with any and can't become intimate. I do not care about anyone suffering, maybe I would about an animal, don't know for sure. I just heard about one of my mother's friends who used to take care of me when I was little that she was attacked and robbed a few hours ago. I couldn't care less...
Am I a monster?
its normal im the same your just not attached
its probbaly a benefit well i see it as one
you wont ever get held back by emotion people will say your heartless but f*ck them
i feel the same way also i do not care about my twin brother i am really close to him yet i still do not car about him...... also my mum died and i didn't care i slowly watched her die for a year and still nothing not even at her funeral.
I am exactly the same. If I see a news report about thousands dying(Using a previously stated example) I will most likely start laughing.
as a psychology graduate i would like to point out that SOME what you have said fits the classic profile of a psychopath, if you feel that you will hurt someone seek some help, and no, it is not normal.
As a psychology "graduate", I mean no offense to you, but unless you have personal experience dealing with this kind of situation or emotion, what you define as normal and not is entirely subjective.
What you read in textbooks or see in a thousand to a hundred thousand cases isn't necessarily the case of everyone. Personalities differ. There are six billion of us here on earth, and there is thus place for six billion to the thousandth different psychological and emotional anomalies.
In my opinion, it's not normal in that it isn't socially acceptable, and people have to deal with it as a "bad" aspect of themselves because people like you tell them it is. People can live their life as they choose. If they agonize about it, that's also a choice. One really only has three options available. You can either do the socially acceptable thing : act, or seek help to act like a more caring being. But you are what you are and that won't change. No matter how much help you get. This coming from someone who's seen over 8 different psychologists in 3 years, none of whom had any influence on me. Second option is self-rejection. Hate yourself. Destroy yourself. Complain. The weakest and stupidest path. The last option is just to be yourself. Calculate, feel when you want to, think when you don't. But that is both the hardest path, and the most useless to take, even though it would be the best. Why? Because people out there won't accept it. We have to live up to some stupid standard that defines the "Emotionless" as inhuman.
I agree with ll123 about Sijin, however, as he/she makes a very valid point. If you care enough to protect people from yourself, you have nothing to protect them from. Your personality may be a bit harsher than others, but you already have the feelings you're looking for. Try it on for size... like a second skin.
People who give in to too much emotion are also, in their own sense, too "raw" for comfort, just as we're deemed too cold in our own right.
That's pretty much all I think about the subject.
On a humorous note... yeah, people dying is good ^^. It's probably the only way overpopulation is manageable. Because as "humans" (utter hogwash in my opinion), we won't let anyone die if we can help it, and eventually just overrun the earth like cancer :D Hooray! Isn't life in this overpopulated, unfair, superficial, money-based, social joke of a world fun? :P
maybe your brain has been re-programmed by countless hours of war simulation games :p
If you think you will hurt someone you should check yourself into the hospital immediatley.
i am exactly the same theres nothing wrong with you.
i love my family but if i were to do something that would benefit me but hurt them i'd still do it and i wouldnt care i dont care about anyone really. i lost my bf of fourr years and didnt care im engaged but i feel like if he left me i'd just find someone else.
i love my self too much to give myself the touble of worrying about other peopple its simple as that.
The lack of empathy or remorse constitutes a predisposition for psychopathy, not the case of it. The very fact that the person is questioning whether this is normal means that he/she is not satisfied with it rather then let enjoy it and take advantage of it which would indeed make him/her a psychopath.
Myself as well...discovered this in myself since I was young...my dad was kinda psycho and beat me almost for any reason...at the beginning I used to cry of fear or pain...and later somehow my brain kinda built some defense mechanism...I used to talk to myself telling..its over he just left...pain will go away...as long he's not around...all of a sudden all the fear gone..from pain and even from death...somehow my brain convinced me to pass the time like a time machine without feeling anything...
In that part I lost my feelings...I can feel things only in action at this moment and it disappears when that person leaves...so I kinda act in front of them to show them that I care..but i don't at all...I love my kid so much when she's around but when she's not around i don't even remember her...
Anyway I'm not a bad person..I don't hurt people...and Im so thoughtful and always making sure anyone around me is happy and relaxed...but if anyone of them got troubles got sick or died...no any reaction...
So I started studying myself and others to see if I'm kinda sick or something...and with the time discovered that I'm a very logical person...my brain beats my passions...I calculate everything in a logic manner...somehow it's called Ataraxia...it's in Wikipedia...
You suffer a real state of understanding everything around you and you can see through a curtain of emotion...as emotions blinds you from reality...for example when you fall in love with someone ...you stop seeing their mistakes...with us we see it..we can never be blind...we don't follow things cause our ancestors used to follow in habits and traditions...we are a individuals by ourselves we don't relate to anyone cause everyone else are blinded by their emotions...it's kinda God state...when someone die..you know that this is way of life..they die..and they sleep in their graves...no suffering no pain...so logically no reason for someone to cry for them...
Usually a person with Ataraxia is a very creative person...non lover for money...very intelligent...very independent..very weird to others...optimistic...no stress...lives longer....healthier...a believer could be in God or an idea...but logically all what he she does always make so much sense to God...that's why I said it's a God attitude...very helpful others...kind with all...never care about poor people but will help if they ask for help...hard to say no cause every experience he pass is adding to his experience ...loves to learn...can never follow a party or a cult...cause he's a cult by himself...
You should be very happy and proud to be Ataraxic...cause this is how human should be like...that's why we have brain...to calculate everything....emotional and heart thinking people don't usually reach anywhere ...
That's just my analysis....of my Ataraxic behaviour since I was 8 years old..hope this help
Strange if you ask me.People who are cold and have little to no emotion and can feel nothing as they hurt people.They have no empathy.People with these qualities are psychopathic.Psychopaths aren't all killers and axe murderers.They can be work colleagues,peers,etc,but they will manipulate people to get what they want and then dump them when they are no longer useful to them.They feel remorseless for what they do to people.Another type is the narcissist.They are all about themselves.They become enraged when they feel criticized or challenged,be it real or imagined criticism.They use a lot of defence mechanisms and blame others for their failure.Abuse does seem to be a possible cause.
No trust me you are not the only one. Sometimes I catch myself being like that and I'm like "what the hell is wrong with me" and I'm just so rude. But try to catch yourself in the act and stop then and there.
I was watching a show on that. It's a disorder, and you might want to get help???
Im a horrible, emotionless, cold hearted, bitch. Thats what im told and i know it. I dont care, i feel nothing though i do act as though i do. I do this so i can manipulate the world around me. I remember what it was like to have some sort of emotion, i was never an emotional child. The reason for that is because i was abused sexually for a very long time. I cut everything off and stopped caring. I have many friends, caring family and a boyfriend that would do anything for me. He is sweet, this i know but i have no feeling for him or any other person in my life. I pretend i do so i can do as i please.
When he bores me i will leave, its what i do. I use you until you are of no use to me.
I was with a boy named Jesse for some time. I made him love me and i ripped him apart. I enjoyed it, i like to see him suffer.
I showed him the real me, the one who doesnt care. I can cry on cue, and act out any emotion from years of doing so. He knows im a monster, that i like to hurt him but i minipulated him back into my life. I made him love me again simply so i can start the cycle over.
Hes a toy to me, nothing more.
I know im not normal, but its how i am.
Im a pretty 17 year old girl, i look sweet, caring and easy going but its only because its what i want you to see.
I change at the drop of a hat.
Coming from another pretty girl that does not feel anything, just because you are capable of hurting people without any remorse, does not mean you should
You aren't apathick, you are psychopatic. You like to see suffers of people and it make you alive, and in other side you make it to show what you really felt inside yourself when you was abused (before and after). You do it, because you haven't found enough aid to help you and may you was rejected by people in helping you, so in your side you discovered a hate which is your last friend who makes you feel better, your best friend who won't leave you along, when you want a help, and than you discovered a monster which convencied you on intolerance, which it makes you feel better than before, so you have reason to lose all emotions removing all sensibility. There are a lot of examples of psycopathics, I've never had sexual abuses, but I know what you feel and when I see suffering somebody, I enjoy it like baby with candy, I like hard and black humour and manipulating some persons for my benefits without any feeling, for me they are pure shite, who must be removed from Earth, get tanks out to streets and begin a massive killing. I think you feel it same.http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychopathic
I am also like that. Ive been dumped by 3 guys this year who told me that im cold and feelingless cause i never expressed anything that should come from my heart. I think its normal, thei're the fking weirdos who should try to be flexible in their expectations of us as their companions. I didnt even feel a shit when they dumped me! It felt like a huge burdain left me. And when people die, i dont cry. I see it as a blessing to be dead and gone, i think im pretty normal. Thank god im not the only one who doesnt give a fuck