I don't believe that cutting my wrist is a problem

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I have a long history of sexual abuse. My father is a physically abusive alcoholic. I've been clinically depressed for 18 months. I've attempted suicide three times.

I use cutting as a way to cope with the 'hardships' in my life. I've been trying to convince my psychologist that it's just our society that condemns cutting because it has a stigma, and that most people don't understand cutting properly. It helps me breathe, it keeps me sane.

I don't believe that I should 'give up' something that helps me cope?

Is that normal?

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Based on 83 votes (43 yes)
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  • Sharleyyy
    14 years ago

    I used to cut my self too, and i did not see it as a problem either.For me, it helped me get through my depression.

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  • phoenix_paradox
    13 years ago

    A phisical pain to supress a psychological pain... Well I used to hurt myself too time ago. Just be careful to not kill yourself.

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  • CharleSD
    13 years ago

    DOESN'T IT HURT!? I really hope you overcome all you issues ;)

    By the way, I also had a psychologist, she really sucked

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  • vaprick53
    13 years ago

    Cutting yourself releases endorphins into your body to relieve stress. It's like going into a mild form of shock. Yes it is helpful, but it's only a short term solution. In my opinion psychology is a load of crap on a crusty biscut. Yes living in a horrible environment like that can put you into a negative state of mind, and it can last for years, but the only way to fix things like that is to get away from it all. Trust me I've been there, I managed to finally get better when I cut all ties I had to everyone and started fresh. If you seek to attain inner peace you must first remove yourself from all that is negative outside. I picked that up in a fortune cookie ;)

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  • chimera
    13 years ago

    i can understand why you make that argument, but it's not going to really serve you in the long run. you're coping by hurting yourself. it would definitely be better if you found another way to express your anger and hurt and everything else inside. but it's great that you're going to therapy. just hang in there-- you'll get through all of this. one day hopefully you won't even want to cut yourself anymore because you'll have worked through the issues that make you want to do it in the first place.

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  • SomeRandomPerson
    14 years ago

    Sine your used to it and your life is pretty much messed up, I don't see a problem with it. Go ahead if you don't see a problem but just don't cut too deep.

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  • snavex
    14 years ago

    I know what you mean.
    It takes out the pain if your life and helps you cope and helps you have something that will alWays be there and you want to keep on with it.
    If it helps you keep going then why stop?

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  • braintrip
    10 years ago

    i know what u mean. its hard to stop, i tried to last month since its going into short sleeve season, but i just do it on my hip. ive been doing it for 7 years, trust me its normal that you dont want to stop!!

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  • nAt2017
    11 years ago

    Everyone has a different way of coping. Just please, be super careful not to seriously harm yourself. Don't cut too deep, and be sure that you're using a clean utensil.

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  • DeathNule:(
    12 years ago

    It is normal for somebody who has suffered great depression to want to cut their wrists :). But please don't, find another soulution to the problem.

    I would recommend you seek counciling, or call 1-800-273-8255 which is the Suicide Hotline for the US. Only use suicide as a long resort.

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  • im_bipolar
    12 years ago

    well, im just gonna say im almost the same, exept for your father.... and my username is truth full, and i know what your going through.... and yes, they might not consider it the best choice, but it is normal, and i agree it is way to relive most of it at times.... but doit if you have to, its better than suicide, my freind had same case as me.. she was the love of my life... but, her parents didnt allow her cutting... so she let the chair slip... so, hang in there... there are people who love you... suicide isnt a good option... it hurts everyone... makes people want to commit suicide, themselfs... so hang in there... youll be ok

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  • Stomps_33
    12 years ago

    Good Luck Coping In Your Casket Dumbass..

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    My opinian is its completly normal. i allso have a history of sexual abuse it started when i was 5. so i have a pretty good idea of what your going through. just try to keep it on the down low in public though i was thrown in a rehabilitation (dont think i speeled that right) clinic for a few months bc of it.

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  • (:sweet:)
    13 years ago

    I wish u didnt have to go through all that crap. i guess keep doing it if u like it. Just dont attempt suicide:( i honestly cannot understand what your going through im sorry. Things will be fine for u keep a good attitude

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  • <3pepe<3
    13 years ago

    Cutting is a way of keeping you in your sensations in your body instead of getting lost in the emotions in your head. If you don't let go of your bad feelings, you will always find yourself drawn to an activity that allows you momentary escape from your inner pain, like drugs, excessive exercise, overeating. So I would say focus on the sensation of your body instead of your feelings.

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  • Cold.2.The.Bone
    14 years ago

    It might help you cope but it's unhealthy. like smoking, for example. it takes a while for it to do real damage, but makes you feel good. try to cut the habbit slowly. baby steps.

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  • CrimzonRayne
    14 years ago

    There are healthier ways of "coping."
    You're not the only person on the planet who has had a hard life, and there are people who've had it worse, and they're not slicing their arm open.
    The only thing you're doing is making yourself look like crap.
    It leaves ugly scars and Neosporin doesn't make them go away honey.
    Think about your future.

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  • hottie_101
    14 years ago

    I was still the same way..but their is alot of negative things about it
    *can get wrong attention
    *can get infected,scarred or even be fatal
    *loss of self confidence
    *make you feel thats all you can do to feel better
    *can hurt relationships (bf,family and friend)
    STOP...its normal but not healthy...so please stop!

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  • kawa16
    14 years ago

    cutting yourself is just a way you deal with your problems rather then cutting yourself you should just on a 3 mile run it seems hard but its not after a week its easy i usually work out when im mad or just bored or want to get away from school

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    • rawrlexi
      13 years ago

      Everyone has different ways of coping. What may be a "better" way of coping for one person, may not be the same for another. Sure, when I'm having hardship and stress in my life, I could run 3 miles or write out my emotions and so on, but personally, it will never release the pent up stress or tension like cutting does. Cutting is just another way of feeling a type of control over yourself. I'm not saying it's always a good thing, but in my opinion it's better than starving myself or hurting myself and my body in other, more destructive, ways. When I cut the pain is the only thing that matters at that moment. And it's me FEELING something, one single moment of focus and release and it's a rush and it just helps me cope. For some people (most people), cutting is "wrong" and "shameful", and I'll admit that I don't like to talk to people about it and I don't like pointing out that I have self inflicted scars on my body. But as a feeling human being cutting has helped me get through many hard times, and it's not that I ever wanted attention or sympathy. It's just the way that I cope the best. A physical release is what has saved me, and continues to save me. I'd rather make a shallow cut in my arm than give up and kill myself. To me, cutting is the safer, saner option.

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  • t7796
    13 years ago

    NO. Die

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  • AlexFox
    14 years ago

    You can die from that. Do it if you wanna die or get infected. (I mean deep)

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