I do not understand what intimacy is.

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It is very struggling for me to understand some basic emotional concepts. They are confusing because intangible ideas that you cannot hold do not actually exist other than as thoughts.

One thing I was reading about recently is intimacy and that it is something that makes us human. I'm having a hard time understanding if I get this or not so I will give more details.

I do have friends I like to hang out with and talk. Obviously if I hated interaction I wouldn't come here.

I do not like living with anyone though and I do not have much interest in getting too close to anybody. I do care about my friends and they know I will be supportive when they have a problem. I am not very good at emotional support because I don't understand and honestly it annoys me but I am pretty good at logical advise and help with actual things.

I do not care for emotional situations other than telling jokes and things that make me laugh but other emotions are either not there or annoying. I'm not quite sure what people are talking about when they explain them and it all seems crazy to me. It is unsettling being stuck in this crazy world sometimes.

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  • thr
    9 years ago

    I think it makes sense if you're an adult and you haven't ventured into a relationship that could have intimate aspects.

    I don't know if it is the same kind of thing, exactly, but I have lived my life without as much physical closeness to other people as other people have, and as a teen I was judged to have Asperger's Syndrome traits.
    At this part in my life, I can get the thought that I am missing some emotion.

    Regarding the first paragraph you write, I would say that emotions are not concepts. If you are not familiar with the emotion/feeling referred to by a certain word, then it makes sense, if you do not understand it.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      I've had girlfriends before and I think I'm as close to people as I can get. I get along with people as casual friends but there seems to be an emotional distance from everybody no matter how much I know them. I have Asperger's too and I realize it seems to be why I have so much trouble understanding emotional concepts but I still try to understand those things so that I can understand people better because they are so confusing to me.

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  • regisphilbin
    9 years ago

    people are generally quite hopeless and therefore inspired me to become a misanthropic nihilist.

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  • Riddler
    9 years ago

    So its impossible for you to understand abstract concepts?
    <a href="http://www.aspminds.com/abstractthinking.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.aspminds.com/abstractthinking.html</a>
    I typed in inability to understand abstract concepts and it sent me this website.

    Intimacy while often associated with romance is just a close fondness or attachment to another person or creature. You can be deeply intimate with your best friend but it is not the same as romance.

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  • EccentricWeird
    9 years ago

    www.dictionary.com

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  • toxic-mecha
    9 years ago

    Geez...you sound exactly like me, on a level that it's almost scary. As a child, I ended up sticking to books rather than people...I could never understand them and as an adult, it's gotten much worse. Does that mean I have Asperger's as well, or maybe I'm just a social failure?

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