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I had it a total of 5 times. Its kind of boring and I never go anywhere. What's odd is my partners always a sweaty mess and out of breath. Even when I on top, not exerting that much energy. Is this normal? I don't understand how they getting so much joy from it. They look like they just ran a marathon or something.
You need to set the rules. Start with setting the scene, scented candles, soft music, warm room with a comfortable bed and clean linen. Have a relaxing bath, glass of wine and get nicely chilled out. Make sure he starts by giving you a relaxing massage, and tell him to take his time, minimum 20 minutes. Tell him what you want him to do to you, I enjoy having my boobs massaged and my nipples sucked and nibbled. I like to be kissed all over and I like to be brought to my first orgasm orally. You need to decide what’s good for you, and make sure he complies, if not just tell him you changed your mind you want to get up now, this is guaranteed to have him do things your way. Make sure he gives you at least one orgasm before his dick gets anywhere near you. Every time he complains or try’s to take charge add an additional orgasm required before he gets his. In other words make it all about you and your enjoyment. Once you feel satisfied then let him have his way with you, but even then remember you are in charge, have him slow down, speed up, stop a minute or whatever you want. You can do that just for the hell of it just to make sure he remembers who is in charge. If he doesn’t like it just say ok this isn’t working can you get off a minute. Then when he stops just tell him you can’t do this now, remember he has already satisfied you so what do you care. He will soon stop complaining if he thinks you might not let him finish.
Well ideally id have them blindfolded to a chair while I whisper what I going to do to them. That or even them inflicting torture upon me helps greatly. I sort of come across as a psychopath when I ask that though. Sex seems to never be a desire I had but I envisioned it being a big deal. I find it amusing teasing till my party is begging though. It seems normal penetration while some enjoy it just seems like a waste of time.
Sounds like fun and there is nothing wrong with a bit of bondage. You need to decide though if you want to be the submissive one or the dominant one, you seem to imply a bit of both, but I guess sometimes it’s good to keep your options open. Personally I like to be in charge but you should go with whatever feels best for you. You don’t have to come across as a psychopath, just tell them you are into bondage and you would like to tie them up while you have your wicked way with them. I would recommend having them lying on their back spread eagled and tied at the wrists and ankles. Then warm them up with lots of pain and teasing, bring them close to orgasm a few times but don’t let them cum. When you are ready get comfortable on their face for as many orgasms as you want. With practice and so long as they don’t cum in a few seconds, you can even ride their dick to an orgasm for you, without letting them cum. Once you are fully satisfied only then should you concern yourself with their orgasm. You need to make sure they get one the first few times to keep them coming back for more, but once you have established your relationship with them you don’t always have to let them enjoy an orgasm. You can either give them a ruined orgasm or just tell them you’re done now and you want to stop. Alternatively don’t say anything, just get off them and go take a nice long shower leaving them tied up for a while. When you come back make sure the towel falls off before thanking them and telling them how wonderful they were. Then put on some sexy underwear and wander around a bit looking for clothes, makeup items etc and basically ignoring them for a while before untying them. Just remember, have fun and ensure you are the important one, their orgasm is a bonus for them if they are lucky enough to get one.
Is it just that the actual feeling is bad or are you not attracted to your partners?
If it’s the first one follow Cuntsicklestick’s advice and also communicate with your partner about what you like, remember it’s not just about him.
If it’s the second you might be lesbian or even asexual?
Perhaps you need to spend time alone and figure out what you like? Look up masturabtion techniques or different kinks and see what works for you?
Do you think your partner(s) is/are sexy? If you're getting with people you are not attracted to, that could be a problem.
Haha yea guys can be like that. Shame you don't enjoy it though. I know I enjoy their attenions