I disliked guys i liked, after they told me they liked me back. iin?

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this first happened when i was 16 (now i'm 20 and i'm female btw). so i became close with this boy in my class and i kind of liked him after i got to know him. and one night, he texted me he liked me. at first i wanted to text him back saying that i like him too. but i kind of feel... disgusted? i'm not really sure. so i rejected him, though that was the first time someone confessed to me. then after a year or so, a guy i had a crush on for a long time said that he liked me, and i said i like him too. then the feelings came back. but he lives in another town, so it was easy to avoid him for a while. after i avoided him for days, i felt okay. i started to liked him again. so, is it normal?

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I think it's shitty. It's a sign of low self esteem and a fear of intimacy on your part.

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    • factionless
      9 years ago

      yeah maybe you're right, cause guys i like usually don't like me back. well, most of the time

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Once he stopped chasing. What's the diff?

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    • factionless
      9 years ago

      he didn't. they're 2 different guys, if that's what you mean.
      and for the first guy i mentioned, i felt guilty cause i couldn't return his feelings and i apologized to him so many times.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Once it's in reach, you lose interest.

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    • starie
      9 years ago

      This really captured my attention since i have been having the same problem.

      A guy i liked admitted his feelings for me and once he did so i just pushed him away and explained that i didn't want a relationship. It was like a switch turned off in my head out of my fear of being in a relationship with someone.

      In reply to your comment, that is not always the case. It might seem like a bitch like thing to do but some times there is a deeper reason for it.

      In my case: The idea of being in a relationship makes me panic. I feel like i'll lose my independence/freedom and question if this person is even the right one for me. Once this phase is over, the feelings i once had are switched off in order to protect myself and protect the other person. If im not 100% sure about being with someone than it wouldn't be fair to go though being in a relationship with them, therefore the best thing to do is express your feelings and keep them at a distance.
      It's not that: once we have it, we lose interest. We still care, we still feel bad about not predicting our future feelings/actions and personally, i still want that person close. It's just harder for some to let people that close to them.

      Im just saying, it is easy to judge someone without knowing the reason behind their actions. Not everything is what it seems.

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    • factionless
      9 years ago

      well i'm sorry for not being able to control my feelings. did you read that i also wrote 'after i avoided him for days, i felt okay. i started to liked him again.'? i didn't just 'lose interest once it's in reach'.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Ugh. You are one of those women that only wants what they can't have...

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  • RainbowDischarge
    9 years ago

    I did this too a few times when I was younger. I think RoseIsabella is right.

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