I disdain how women have high standards

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I am somewhat intelligent, articulate, and tall. I have a good personality and can converse on many topics. Despite this, on dating sites, and in real life, women treat me as if I am invisible. My standards aren't really high, but they never get fulfilled while women have absurdly high standards and they always get what they want.

it's like I have zero value in the dating world due to being a guy. Unless if you're super good looking, most women will ignore you.

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paramore93

6 years ago

For me, having a guy who can hold an interesting conversation is way more important than looks ..
People are really boring nowadays xD

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  The hell? Wow lol. You're one of the few girls who say that, but honestly I am doubtful.
  
  The thing is....I am okay with rejection. But it does take a toll on your self-esteem.
  
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  - paramore93
    
    6 years ago
    
    Yeah quality conversation is key :P
    As a girl it seemed to take a ridiculous amount of time to find an interesting guy, just give it time I guess ..
    It'll be worth all the rejection :P
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      To be honest, now that I think about it, I also find it difficult to find a girl who is interesting in conversations. Not just girls,, but everyone is boring as you said lol. Honestly, having banter would be better than sex for me.
      
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wigz

6 years ago

Most people I know aren't particularly good looking, some are downright hideous, yet most are in a relationship. Face it, the problem is YOU, not women.

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pendletonGibbs

6 years ago

Not your fault. Men in general are considered useless. Even the ugliest chick has high standards because she'd rather be on her own than with someone who doesn't fit a Hollywood stereotype.

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dirtybirdy

6 years ago

Malarkey

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[Old Memory]

6 years ago

Dating sites will be trash for you. When people go onto then they're looking for a template of their ideal partner rather than their ideal partner, that template being looks.

Try getting to know women in person in everyday life and if you're interesting enough then looks shouldn't hold ya back.

Good luck, bud.

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- fakeaccount2
  
  6 years ago
  
  This is the truth, and sadly a lot of people don't get it.
  
  i never understood how people are into dating sites or asking out strangers. It's like theyre going by looks first, and personality is only a secondary requirement. Really weird imo
  
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McBean

6 years ago

Women have high standards for looks, and low standards for everything else. They enjoy having sex with beautiful jerks. After the fun is over, they log into IIN and whine about low quality men. High quality men will always be invisible to them. Natural selection has wired their minds so that they are incapable of different behavior.

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- Ellenna
  
  6 years ago
  
  What total garbage: most women I know don't prioritise looks over intelligence, humour, empath and good communication skills.
  
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  - Rich_Guy
    
    6 years ago
    
    Hahahaha. That's what they all say.
    
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    - McBean
      
      6 years ago
      
      Right you are sir. She's the same woman that said 70 year old men have erections of steel. Sometimes, crap is the best you'll ever get from certain people.
      
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      - Ellenna
        
        6 years ago
        
        Well actually that's not what I said: I said I'm over 70 and in response to someone else, that 50 yo men don't all have limp penises.
        
        So who's writing crap?
        
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Bobtailcatgirl

6 years ago

Yea even if you girl is 5'2 and 200 lbs she'll still want a guy like Thor. I think both men and women can be shallow I think we're all shallow in some way or another

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JonathanOo

6 years ago

It's a Shame. It's terrible out there...

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Justmehere

6 years ago

What always gets me is, women who are average looking at best, or just plain not attractive, who have sky-high standards. I often think "You're lucky any guy looks at you, much less, has an interest". Craggy-looking, fat, whatever. When they see themselves a GQ-man worthy, but are really only trash man worthy, I laugh.

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BlackCatsAreAwesome

6 years ago

Men and women both go for looks but men admit it and women deny it. That denial leads to some gullible men falling into the nice guy syndrome because they hear women say they want a nice guy but omit to say he should be handsome too. When it doesn't play out, the 'nice' guy feels let down and becomes bitchy.

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deepdrowning

6 years ago

Maybe you need to change your attitude. You don't seem as bad as some, but you sound like you fall into the "nice guy" category. If someone isn't attracted to you, they probably won't date you. Most people come for the looks and stay for the personality.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  I don't fall into the "nice guy" category. I have much more to offer than being nice. I am simply calling out some women for having absurd standards.
  
  I get rejected based on my looks for the most part. Everyone is free to love whomever they want, and it's okay if no one thinks I am good looking, but having shallow standards just hurts everyone in the long run.
  
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  - Ellenna
    
    6 years ago
    
    How do you know you're being rejected because of your looks? You've asked all these women with allegedly "high standards"? Maybe it's something else entirely, how would you know?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      Yup. Pretty much most of them lost interest when I showed them my pictures, and some of them were frank enough to tell me in real life that I am ugly. When they hear my voice (I have a really deep smooth voice), or have conversations with me, they really like me, but as soon as they see my appearance, they are no longer interested.
      
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  - deepdrowning
    
    6 years ago
    
    Do you know what a nice guy is?
    
    What you're calling for is for people to lower their standards. At the basis of romantic love is attraction. You're asking that people sacrifice that.
    
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  - wigz
    
    6 years ago
    
    I can tell you do fall into that category because you are acting angry over this, blaming women instead of looking at yourself and you feel entitled to female attention. Those are the hallmarks of a 'nice guy'.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      Ahhh No. The thing is I am not "entitled". I stated several times that I don't mind the rejection. I just wish it was for a better reasons.
      
      And aren't women entitled when they demand a guy who's a 9/10 while they are average?
      
      It's always the guy's fault somehow. We are shallow for liking beautiful women, but women are empowered and free to have absurdly high standards.
      
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      - wigz
        
        6 years ago
        
        "I just wish it was for a better reasons."
        
        That's entitlement right there and it's also blaming women for your problem(s) and shortcomings.
        
        How do you even know that you're getting rejected for your looks? You don't. You're making that up so you can piss and moan about women, while not looking at yourself critically.
        
        Like I said in my other post on here, most people I know are not particularly good looking, many are even hideous, yet most are in a relationship. I am average looking, not fat and I am married almost 15 years to a fat, (usually) broke guy with awful teeth. That shit doesn't matter though because we enjoy each other's company. People will want to be around you no matter what you look like as long as you have something to bring to the table. Most likely, your personality is lacking/abrasive, maybe you put people off for some reason, maybe you look sloppy/lazy (like, things about your appearance that you CAN change). Obviously there's something going on besides 'just' your looks...ugly people have relationships, get laid, can have lots of friends, so figure out what your problem is and fix it instead of denying it and blaming others.
        
        I had a friend that would complain about trouble with women. He was average looking, good job, nice place, pretty fun to hang out with most of the time but he was a 'nice guy'...he was a creep and the way he treated women that he was interested in was just so gross but he refused to see it. He'd go on about all the qualities he thought he had, which were fairly accurate but a bit overstated, and wondered why it didn't land him a girl. Uh, because he had big issues with how he treated women. Controlling, boorish, know-it-all, creepy remarks/actions, gross jokes, etc. He also gossiped a lot, many people do not like that!
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        6 years ago
        
        I am blaming some women for being shallow. Not for my short comings.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        6 years ago
        
        Nope that's an entitlement. It's called an expectation. It's not entitlement to wish people had more reasonable expectation. I didn't force anyone to have lower standards.
        
        Read the comment above. I specifically said it was my looks.
        
        Okay? That's your anecdotal. My experience is much different. I know many guys who are good looking and have pretty damn good social skills but they barely get laid while even the ugliest of women can get laid easily. I like how you're hinting that I have a "creep" behavior.
        
        All of the girls that rejected me told me it was because I was ugly. I even had some of them tell it to my face real life. They said they wanted a guy with a good body, and that my face is just not pretty. They were always interested in me from my discussions, and never thought I was a creep till they saw a picture of me.
        
        Getting laid and dating are easier for women period. It's only easy for a guy, if you're very good looking and have a lot of money.
        
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Luke1234

6 years ago

women are full of shit what more do you want to know?

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EnglishLad

6 years ago

We're all bitches and assholes of varying degrees of bitchery and assholery. It just depends on our level.

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Stiffone26

6 years ago

Sex if great but not if that’s all you got. You definitely need an interesting female friend to confide in.

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  6 years ago
  
  Of course! I do wish I had an interesting female friend but most people tend to be shallow tbh.
  
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