I did not realize how much she hates blacks.

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I was married to my wife for almost a year before I found out just how much she hates black people. The problem (besides being wed to a racist) is that I have two very good black friends. A married couple who I've know since grade school. These friends of mine have been to our house a few times, and have recently told me that my wife seems kind of hostile towards them. I confronted my wife about this and was immediately showered with a flood of f-bombs and N words that piss the hell out of me. In a blink of an eye the woman who I thought I loved became so repugnant to me that I wanted to rearrange her face with my fist. I settled to just going out to my car and driving around the neighborhood for an hour. We haven't had sex in a week. Is it normal for a marriage to change so quickly? The person I married no longer attracts me. I need this to be over. Is this sudden change of deep feeling normal?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Wow, I feel for you. I think I would find it very hard to share a life with someone with that kind of mindless hate in her heart. I'm guessing there's nothing you could say or do that will change her, so you might be on the road to divorce. Then she can hate white guys, too. What a shitty position you are in; I'm sorry.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Discrimination is a human right; if she dislikes Blacks, then she shouldn't feel obliged to accept them in her home - and that's for the sake of everyone.

    Regardless, have you bothered to really sit down and try to get to the bottom of the matter? If need be, be blunt; ask her why she hates Blacks so much.

    Personally I've always despised "racial extremism" of EITHER kind. I don't hate other races, but I see absolutely no reason to "enrich" my life with their presence either. Therefore as far as race and racialism go, I'm what you could call a "moderate" (which is still far, far too "racist" for the leftists and egalitarians).

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    • ArmusWasTheFirstTroll
      9 years ago

      It is important that, as a society, we tolerate everything that is inconsequential to the progression of humanity. Although that covers race, sexuality and certain belief systems, blatant hate exists only to undermine progression.

      Anyway, yes, I do agree, everyone should have the right to say whatever their heart desires. Consequently, everyone also has a right not to tolerate intolerance.

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    • handsignals
      9 years ago

      I agree, everyone has the right to think what they want, you need to be tolerant of her views.

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  • sillygirl77
    9 years ago

    I'm sorry you found this out a year after marrying her. What a difficult situation you're in :(.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    It's called an annulment, my friend. Cut your losses and run from this one!

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  • RainbowFlash
    9 years ago

    She has vested emotions in this and probably has a reason why.

    You might want to tread very very carefully, by the sounds of it.. these emotions may have come from a traumatic experience in her past.

    All I can suggest is over time perhaps attempt to point out how unhealthy racism and hate is, and suggest she seek help for it.

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  • ArmusWasTheFirstTroll
    9 years ago

    Where do you live that you would have not encountered black people prior to this incident?

    That is beside the point. I don't find your aversion to people with ugly minds abnormal. Your reaction to discovering your wife's racism is similar to how I would react to any person I thought was physically attractive. They would instantly look disgusting to me. It is unfortunate that you had to discover this only after already being wed. Not to sound insensitive, but it is fortunate you live in modern times. Divorce is not as uncommon, stigmatized, or difficult to attain as it once was.

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