I cut off contact with my online pen pals

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I made some online "friends" a few years ago and we got to "talking" very frequently, sometimes daily emails. A few of them even sent real letters or gifts, and vice versa. I was going through a bad time and I was depressed and at the time it was important to me to maintain these relationships.
Lately, I got a nice job and a real relationship and am lot more functional. I have mostly stopped contact with these people. I feel guilty but I don't know how to explain, that I just don't have the time anymore and I don't want to say "goodbye". I also thing the meds I take for depression make me tired so I don't have the energy to keep up with these online emails.

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  • TrustMeImLying
    9 years ago

    How about simply telling them the truth? Regardless of if you see them as penpals or actual friends. They at least deserve that

    Tell them that your life has taken a 180 degree turn, that your job occupies your time, and the gf/bf steals the rest of what's remaining. And that while you're trying to adjust to this new lifestyle, you won't be able to write as often, if barely. Don't keep people wondering, it's the worst thing you could do.

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  • anti-hero
    9 years ago

    Explain the situation and you don't have to say goodbye, surely you could find the time to send an email every few weeks.

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