I cry when i think of being away from my parents

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I'm 21 female. A few years ago my dad went on vacations for a week and I figured I could be like a live-in caretaker (parents are divorced so mom lived about 20 mins away at the time) to see what it'd be like living on my own as i'd have to soon. but something about him being gone, even though he was coming back in a week, made me start to cry uncontrollably, like all day I couldn't stop crying for the whole weekend. so i had to go to my moms house after the 2nd day. It happened once before when I was lying in bed and realised how old I am getting and some day I would have to move away and i cried myself to sleep
that also happened when i would have to go to camp for school. whenever it was free time i would just stay in the room all alone crying.
I love my parents so much. I'm not very good at making friends cos i am extremely shy, but they were always there for me and we actually have a lot of the same interests (they are pretty open-minded, we always watch a lot of movies and stuff together, they even play video games)
so is it normal to cry that hard at the thought of them being away?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    At the age of 21.... my dad had been dead for 5 years, my mother was often away on business (about 2 weeks out of a the average month during my teen years), and I was not living at home anymore... Can't say I've ever been as emotional about it as you seem to be. But hey, that's kinda sweet you're so close to your parents.

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  • PKYAZ
    11 years ago

    You're so sweet <3
    Its not normal normal to cry that hard but i mean its not abnormal since it is kind of sad the fact that we have to leave eventually. I cry whenever i think about one of my parents dying even though they're perfectly fine (may god bless them)

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    Not normal at 21. In children, it's. called Separation Anxiety. You need to develop your independence by making friends. Find someone your age to do the same stuff with.

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  • Koda
    11 years ago

    I have the same problem... I've moved out a couple of times, but always came back. I just can't handle being away from my family. I've had close friends move, and I eventually get over it, but the idea of being "alone" just kills me inside. I feel quite sick and distressed whenever I'm away from home too long.

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  • disthing
    11 years ago

    It's not normal at the age of 21, and I'd say it could be unhealthy for you in the long term. Most of us eventually have to face not having our parents around. You need to become less reliant on them and find your own feet.

    Think about it like this: The greatest gift and sign of appreciation you can give your parents for all their years of supporting you and loving you is to show how strong you can be on your own, how they've made you into someone who can be independent, happy and successful without their help. Somebody who will be able to thrive after they've passed away.

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  • suckonthis9
    11 years ago

    Because (not cos) you're extremely shy,
    Isn't a reason for you to cry.
    You are a pretty young woman
    Who's reached the age of twenty-one.
    Your parents might be beautiful,
    But they're not beautiful open-minded.
    Beautifully open-minded, perhaps, but not pretty.
    This is for you to be reminded.
    There is no stuffing in this ditty!
    You don't always watch a plot of movies, really?
    And what about the other things? (Not stuff)
    Wait to see what tomorrow brings.
    Because (not cos) you're now twenty-one,
    It's time for you to find a MAN!
    This will help to ease your pain,
    Then tomorrow, maybe sunshine instead of rain.
    Yes, I know that you CAN!

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    • suckonthis9
      11 years ago

      Title: Very Pretty and Very Shy

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