I choose to be anti-social because i'm ugly. iin?

Why not socialize through Internet?

I've met tons of totally awesome people on IRC, app games, online games, and Facebook. The issue of looks doesn't usually come up, since you don't need to see each other to communicate. Once, I thought for a long time that I was talking to a 26-29 year old guy in America, just to realize half a year later that it's an 18 year old girl, living in Palestine.

As for real-life people, you say you hate judgemental people, but after reading your post, to me it feels you might be judging others too soon yourself. The brief flicker of aversion might not be what you assume it to be. And even if it's aversion, that only means you won't be that person's first choice for a sex partner, but it doesn't mean they don't want to socialize with you.

Insecure and talentless middle school kids are nothing compared to adults. Don't let that experience colour your current life. We're all unique and you can't say someone's better or worse than you simply because they're prettier.

So, you're ugly. Big fucking deal. Embrace it. Have you heard of "Elephant Baba"? Google for his pictures. When asked, he says he's happy. Be more like him.

I feel like your not making your situation any better. I've had acne for a while now and never felt ugly or self conscious while surrounded by my peers with nice skin. It never crossed my mind what other would say or think about me because I was to busy having fun and being myself. People are attracted to others that are comfortable with themselves. "I totally believe that we create our own reality by projecting our own thoughts and beliefs onto the world – so it makes perfect sense that if we are judge ourselves and obsess over it, we feel like we “know” that other people are doing the same things. And because we think we know what other people think, we act in accordance to it – we act under confident, then people don’t respond as well to you because of that, and then you see that as confirmation that people don’t like you because of your skin or are judging you for it. And the cycle continues…" even with acne that was worse than it is now ( I guess its getti g better idk) in the end people would call me sexy and and make moves on my virginity. They loved my personality, they way I dressed, the way I carried myself, the way I walked like I owned the world, the way I looked like acne never impacted me, even though I knew I had it and wanted it gone.

I learned that it's their problem if they can't see what an awesome person you are. I am absolutely certain that not everyone will judge you because of your appearance. And most certainly, I won't judge you. We have the same exact problems and I am very grateful to have met another person like me (I am also physically unattractive). You will live your live so much better if you don't focus on your outside appearance and if you just don't give a shit about what others think. Have you tried volunteering at an animal shelter or a "green team"? No one judges you at all there, it is surely a wonderful community because only people with great hearts work there. I'm sure that sounds corny, but it's true. From what I read, you have a very low self-esteem and working at a place that is focused on helping will help it skyrocket. You will learn about self-acceptance and will most likely no longer run away from socializing.

Sorry you feel this way. But youre probably not as ugly as you seem and even if you are, being depressed isn't attractive. Try to find people with similar interests the internet is a good lace. I know a lot of not great looking people but they are attractive because they are funny or talented or fun.

I aint gonna lie. Being good looking opens doors to people that 'plain' people can never hope to open. You can't dress it up, that's just how life is. It depends on the individual how they are going to deal with that. Life aint fare. I fell for the usual trap of marrying a girl for her looks instead of who she was inside. If there was a 'next time around' I would marry a girl with a beautiful nature rather than a beautiful skin. But there isn't so I made my choice and I have to live with it. Don't give up. Lot's of guys have been burned by beauties and are now a little wiser.

We're not all like that, so it's worth getting out there.

Honey, listen:
Friendship has phases. During the first phase, people are attracted to you by how you look or hold yourself or seem to be, but by the second, once the first impression is gone, they CHOOSE to stay your friends because of how you are.

Which is to say that after a while nobody will give much of a damn on how you look. Even the most self-centered popularity preoccupied people follow this rule.
So good looks attract people, but personality makes them stay. And good people really won't care how you dress or act! I speak by experience, I'm chubby, dark skinned and eccentric and in my country I stand out a ton. I mightn't be popular or "cool" but I have a great deal of close friends, that I love and love me.

Lastly, if you feel like that, why don't you try doing your hair differently or new clothes? Something that'll uplift you but still leave you feeling like yourself, only improved. Bost up your self confidence!

My best friend says; beauty is only a question of how much money you invest in yourself. You don't need to use that much to look good, but it just goes to show!

Just keep a good attitude! It's how you'll keep your friends. Otherwise you might, inadvertently, make them think you don't like or care about them.

Have you ever stopped to consider that it is that attitude that might repulse them more than your looks?

Shit, I know a few people who I would consider to be unfortunately unattractive through no fault of their own AND who I (and many others) speak and associate with on a regular basis. They have great personalities and make great conversations.

Yeah, you're gonna be judged negatively. Everyone gets it to some extent. The issue of looks will automatically deduct points from your perceived value as a person. So what? It's not the end all be all, it's not the end of the world. If you have a halfway decent personality and have a desire to be around people and to be a FRIEND (caring, considerate, loyal, giving etc.) then you will make many friends. Good friends are always in short supply.

Unfortunately we live in a world where many people are judgmental and outcast people who are not like them.
I don't look different from average but I act different so I can get not fitting in with the crowd.
It's important to face the world anyways because some people are forced to be put in a position where there isn't many options left. Life doesn't usually give choices like it or not.
What I have found is everybody is quite different from each other and even when it seems people generally suck there are always people who are not judgmental, although it is inevitable they will have their own problems because everybody in the world is messed up.
Also ugliness is only an opinion.