I cheated on my girlfriend, with a guy.

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I've been dating this girl for over a year. I always prided myself on being faithful. But I also was curious about experimenting with a guy for a long time before I met her. Anyway, a few nights ago I lost control of my curiosity and went out of my way to find a guy to experiment with. I knew I would regret it after but something forced me to just go through with it. We didn't do much, not even kiss, just fooled around with each others... areas. I am feeling so guilty right now and I need to tell her. But how am I supposed to tell her? This is all my fault. I'm not trying to play the victim here, because my girlfriend is the victim. I also believe this has stemmed from years of watching internet Pornography. So I have decided to try and kick that habit.

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  • dandyLion
    11 years ago

    ok, so now im scared of my boyfriend spending so much time with his bestfriend who is a male. stop being in denial kid, you like guys and what youre doing to your 'gf' is very wrong and youre a hippocrite for possibly telling her youre faithfull when youre not.. for a fucking year bro? seriously? and you decide to screw a guy? come on, just be HONEST for once.

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    • losthere
      11 years ago

      Agreed!! you do have sex issue that you need to work on! And you should have sorted them out before jumping into a relationship!!

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  • WasThatAMoth
    11 years ago

    Well that sucks. You have that guilty conscious. Well I think you should tell her. You may not want to, but the guilt will not leave you while you are in the relationship until you tell her.

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  • polarpandakittie
    11 years ago

    some girls like bi guys :)
    don't fret, she might not mind, :O

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  • ahole16
    11 years ago

    If you feel really guilty, maybe you enjoyed it more then you thought. And if you did, it doesn't necessarily mean your gay, you could be bi sexual. Either way there's nothing wrong with experimenting. I would tell her, there's a chance because it was a guy she might not break up with you! Good luck

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Won't know until you tell her.

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    Why don't you invite a guy round for both you and your girlfriend to play with? That way everyone is a winner and it won't be seen as cheating.

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  • Apple_mint
    11 years ago

    I think its normal to be intrested in the same sex, especially when ur young but u need to decide if ur really straight or gay or bi. Haha really spend some time to think about it. And tell your gf, from your heart. If u remain calm and speak from ur heart I'm sure shell understand. Just don't forget to tell her that u still do like her (or love her if u truely do, don't lie) good luck! :)

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  • ShovedUpTheDonkey
    11 years ago

    Hmmm well I see your dillemma, you were just curious. It really is a tough one because your girlfriend might not ever get over it if you tell her. I know it sounds awful, but maybe not telling her would save your relationship. Doesn't mean it's right. The best thing to do would be to really stop and think about your sexuality and what you really want. If your experiment with this other guy has proved to you that you really are straight then simply tell your girlfriend that you really needed to do this and find out to know for sure, but it's confirmed that you're not gay. If, on the other hand, you liked it and wanted to do more then you possibly may be bi. If that's the case, you've jut gotta tell her the truth. If she doesn't understand, then obviously she's not worth it :)

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  • dandyLion
    11 years ago

    just tell her, write her a note if you have to and hand it to her,

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    If you are scared about the experimentation with the guy, then leave that part out. Cheating is cheating, and you were wrong for doing it. You should come clean about cheating, but that does not mean you have to come clean about who you cheated with, as that is personal due to the experimentation with the same gender.

    Tell her you cheated, but don't say by a man if you do not feel comfortable saying it. If you need to lie, just say it was a girl you met at a bar.

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    • Dtgirl
      11 years ago

      You do have to say who u say cheated with because that makes a big difference. The honorable thing to do would be to tell ur gf, the whole story.

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