I caught my daughter having coitus and felt sick, is it normal?

Yes, it's normal to feel sick/uncomfortable about it, even if she is married and you know she's having sex. I doubt she'd be to thrilled seeing you and your wife going at it either. But knowing and seeing it are two separate things. I think since you knew your daughter was having sex but not actually witnessing it you could put it out of your mind. If I were you, I wouldn't bring it up unless she tried to talk to you about it. But personally I agree with you, what the hell was she doing having sex in your living room? I would never do that at my parents house... But since she's an adult I just don't see how you would be able to talk to her about it??? I think you should just try to ignore it. I have experienced similar embarrassing/sickening instances of my own and eventually if you try to take your mind off of it it will begin to fade. The last thing you want to do is to make a big deal of it, especially since it sounds like your wife doesn't want to get involved. I know it's hard, but try to relax - is sex really that big a deal?? It is a natural function even if it is awkward.

I sharted laughing

Hate to say it but your younger daughters are probably already doing it.

I take the side of your wife. When a couple is young, oral sex is something that is much more open than when we were newly married. (I wouldn't have even thought of it.....maybe if I were horny as hell....) Anyway, put it out of your mind. They are married after all. Be thankful that you didn't see your youngest daughter getting the same procedure. (It's not that unusual, especially after Clinton's experiences)

sometimes people get really horny im sure they would have rather not done it in the living but they proberly fought that was the safest place and i wouldn't worry about your other daughters there proberly aready into that stuff

There's nothing that will teach her a lesson more than letting her know that she needs to be smarter about where she's having sex.

See this is one of those situations...that I find hilarious. This is straight out of a movie...but a fairly common occurrence. Its ok for her to have sex with her husband. Its ok with her have sex with her husband at her parents house. It is NOT OK for her to get caught having sex with her husband by her parents. Her problem is that she was having sex with her husband in a PUBLIC area of the house.

Your daughter had a horrible lapse in judgement and she should pay the piper. Her punishment is her father telling her the following "Honey we need to talk. You're going to want to sit down."

At this point she is going to be freaked out. What could it be? She has no clue and probably 1000 different scary things going through her mind.

"I love it when you and Dave(whatever his name is) come to visit. However, there is something very important that I need you to know." Here you take another pause....Let her come up with her own ideas as to what you could be talking about.

"I'm very happy that you two have a great relationship. What I am not happy about is that you are expressing to each other how great your relationship is on my couch. What I'm even unhappier is that I had to walk in and see this. If you would like to continue to express yourselves in my house...I would appreciate it if you kept it to private areas....(wait for it)....of the house."

Bam. Hopefully she will understand the full grasp of what you walked in on. She needs to feel that embarrassment that only a father can give. I promise you. SHE WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN. You need to make this a game for you. Because this is going to be hilariously fun for you.

Oh and maybe sprinkle in the following words... intercourse....oral....copulation....grand-kids.

You're welcome

Off with her head! damn harlot! she will b flogged at my command.

Jeez I just read my post. I came off a bit strongly I apologize; it wasn't my intent.

I just get totally baffled by 'parents' that think their daughters are 'cute little angels'.

This poor guy has no clue. When I was younger 'very young' girls would jump on me and we'd get it on. Even at my age now as a man young girls still want to hook up with me but I won't because it's not legal and I don't need that kind of static. I'm talking waaay younger than what's legal here in the states. The truth is the human body doesn't know a number. People are attracted to each other or they aren't. Age means nothing with regards to attraction.

This country is very immature about sex which is pathetic in my opinion. Thank goodness for the internet. This poor guy needs to google some young girl action to see how girls really are.

I bet he can't even count all of the young girls getting it on. There's too many and they love it.

Nothing wrong with that.

coitus snigger.

I'm actually surprised that you felt sick.
Usually, with posts on IsItNormal.com, the poster would say something like " I caught my daughter naked and I was aroused!"

But, yes, I would also feel sick at catching someone having sex, related or not, and I think it's disrespectful of your daughter to do something like that in the living room. I mean, she could of went to her own room at least.

Humans are fucking animals. They will have sexual activity pretty much anywhere if the mood takes them.
And it is okay for your daughters to think it's okay to take part in sexual activity. They are 18 and 20. Chances are, they already have!
I'm not sure what it's like to be a dad, and never will clearly, but it is normal for dads to be protective over their daughters. I'm nearly 20 and if my dad found out about my sexual history I think he would be very sick too.

I think the word you meant to use was cunniligus. Coitus is penile/vaginal sex.

My opinion? Lighten up. I wouldn't want to see that either, but I do hope my daughter has a happy, fulfilling sex life when she grows up and gets married. Might be risky getting caught like that, but young people tend to be adventurus. Explaining a healty marital relationship is easy enough to do if the younger ones caught them.

One does not simply... have... coitus.

Probably a typical father reaction. But she is married, so get used to it.

Normal to feel sick. If I caught any kid of my having sex, I would feel sick too. I know she's married, but I have to agree with you in that it was disrespectful to you, your wife and the home to have it where they had it. If they had to do it, it should have been done in the bedroom. It would have been more discreet.

no enough info. did they have their own room and they chose to "eat" in the living room? when i built my house, i purposely put my room on the other end of the house, specifically for this reason. both ways. was there a room available. no, then kick one of your other daughters out of their room and give your married daughter some privacy. serves you right to get sick. think, man, think.

It's normal to feel the way that you did when you witnessed that happening to your daughter. All's I'd do is set some boundaries if they are to stay in your home.

At least you didn't start masturbating

Sick? Eh she's a married woman. You may want to accept that she's going to be doing more than holding hands.

however at the same time, it's YOUR HOUSE. You have every right to tell her to do that in her own home not yours.

Feeling sick is a strong reaction to something so harmless and suggests some repression in the father witnessing the daughter. The extremity of being "horrified" suggests a measure of unnecessary hysteria.

Some brief embarrassment or flustered discomfort would be a normal reaction, followed later by a shrug and acceptance: she is, after all, a grown woman behaving normally.

She had every reason to expect privacy in the living room since it was over an hour since everyone had gone to bed. There was certainly no "disrespect" shown. The father's response is an over-reaction. Calm is advised.

Thats normal, they are married and they had an intimate moment thinking no one would come down and see them. Just be glad they are married and love one another. Laugh it off for gosh sakes!!! It could be way worse. And another thing, the harder you are on telling the ones you love, and married btw, on what two people who are in love can and cant do in your house, the farther u push them away. No one became blind did they?! Joke about it with them and tell them like adults to at least cover up and dont blind our family! They'll catch on and no ones feelings got hurt. Havent you ever been in love???? Your grown up kids, believe it or not understand more than the older generation plus theyd probably laugh it off.

I think it's normal

Take it easy. I think back at what Mrs & I did at her house when we were 17...naughty. Your daughter is married. They thought everyone was asleep. The house was quiet. They wanted to play on the couch like they used to when they were in school before they were married. Give 'em a break. Clearly you need to loosen up a little. Your daughter is a newlywed barely out of college. Newlyweds have sex. It was only a couple of years ago she was having casual sex and giving BJs to the guys for fun.

Whats that?

XD

Don't ya'll have a guest room?

wait for me!

I can understand the disrespect aspect a little bit, but I really don't get why it would be sickening. (Unless it's her husband that you find disgusting, I guess?)

I know you can't expect emotional responses to make sense all the time, but I find this, as well as similar things such as people being grossed out by the thought of their parents having sex, particularly baffling.

Does the thought of your family members having sex at all mistakenly trigger incest aversion or something?

(To be clear, I realize I'm probably the weird one here. It's one of those alternate universe things like lobsters in xkcd #1268.)

It's normal you felt weird about it, and really they shouldn't have been doing it in the living room. However, it is completely ok for her to be engaging in that sort of activity, and you should know that.

Tell your daughter what you saw... She needs to know.. So she'll know not to mess up the next time! Even the husband is a jerk to allow it to happen in such an area of the house, and your two youngest daughters are probably already doing it.. So don't worry about them..