I caught my adoptive son having sex with my daughter

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About three years ago, we fostered a boy (I will call him Rob) who was 12 then. We fell right in love with him. Rob got along with our daughter (I will call her Sue) who was 13 at the time and she helped him get used to the school. About a year ago, we adopted him into our family. We all got along with Rob including our second daughter, who is a pre-schooler.

A month ago, my youngest daughter and I got home early and we went to the basement, which is a playroom for my pre-schooler. To our shock, we found Rob and Sue having sex. It was embarrassing and disturbing. Rob always seemed like a son to me and a brother to Sue...

I had to tell my husband and he told his mother (who is currently living with us). We talked to Rob and he claims he is in love with Sue and wants to "marry her when he becomes 18". It set off my husband and my mother in law. I told the story to the social worker and she got Rob into therapy. I also had to take my pre-schooler to therapy because the incident traumatized her... Sue and Rob keep saying they are in love and want to "officially date" which we have forbidden.

My husband and mother in law have been seeing Rob in a different light since then and they both want to put Rob up for adoption. I don't want this at all! I have no idea what to do...This is tearing our family apart... Is this normal?

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Rusty-Rider

7 years ago | pl

First off, why is Rob getting all the bad press?
What if Sue initiated the whole thing?
I can't imagine a pre-schooler needing therapy just because they saw a couple of kids with no clothes on.
I think you're trolling out of season.

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- sandnigga
  
  7 years ago
  
  Or its a emotional over-reaction
  
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lundi

7 years ago

I think it's reasonable. The two kids met at 12/13y.o., spent most of the time together for 3 years. As they grow up and puberty begins, they're attracted to each other.

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NB4U

7 years ago

Well ummm you adopted a teenage boy that's the same age as your daughter . What did you think was going to happen .

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mrbrownfinger

7 years ago

Whats with all the therapy?

Rob had sex with an unrelated female - what is there to cure?

Why take your preschooler to therapy? Yes it may have been shocking to see but taking them to therapy will make them play it over and over in their mind. Couldn't you make up some bullshit (like they were naked fighting) and it would have been forgotten about.

Rob and Sue sound like the only decent people in this story.
You're shipping people to therapy
Husband seems stuck in his momma ass.

What's you're problem with Rob? Why don't you put your daughter up for adoption instead? It seems because Rob isn't your blood you've decided to put him up for adoption.

Let Rob and Sue enjoy their life, they'll be better off without you cunts.

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CDmale4fem

7 years ago

They are at the age of sexual curiosity, that's a natural "fire" , in essence your adopting Rob was the "fuel for the fire", Don't blame it all on Rob, and why is he getting the boot in the ass for doing what comes natural, AFTER YOU BROUGHT HIM INTO YOUR HOME.

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- AB1234
  
  7 years ago
  
  Not to mention there's no mention of the daughter's complicity. She was the older teenager and could easily have initiated things. But the boy, as usual, is expendable.
  
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Digsbie

7 years ago

They are not related by blood so its perfectly normal

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IMissMary

7 years ago

Guess you should have gotten Rob neutered first.

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- sandnigga
  
  7 years ago
  
  haha
  
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AB1234

7 years ago

Is it normal for attraction to arise between a teenage boy and a teenage girl who didn't grow up with (and aren't related to) each other? Absolutely. Biology has preserved that imperative through the eons. Moral codes don't circumscribe biological drives. I'm also confident what is happening in your family is far, far more common than most want to acknowledge. That said, I'm sorry for the pain you're all experiencing.

I notice you said that you caught your adoptive son having sex with your daughter. I'm sure you mean nothing by your word choice, but in the context of your husband and mother looking differently at this young man, I have to wonder how you're all dealing with your biological daughter. From what you've shared, they're both equal participants, though it seems like your family may throw away your son, even though your daughter is older and equally responsible. That's really tragic.

Hope you all find a way to resolve the matter without abandoning someone you already committed yourselves to as family.

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sandnigga

7 years ago

Sorry to say, they're not blood related no matter how much you think of them that way.

I say it's perfectly fine. They're doing nothing wrong.

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⑨Ball

7 years ago

A family that shoots pool together stays cool together. ⑨Ball is the answer.

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peterrabbyt3

7 years ago

you should film them fucking.

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CreamPuffs

7 years ago

They aren't related. They are both teenagers. Really, there's nothing so awful here. I honestly feel really bad for Rob right now.

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weirdnormal221

7 years ago

You probably fucked up your preschooler by overreacting to something completely normal. You are the one at fault.

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Rihyae

7 years ago

Marmalade Boy in real life.

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Tempest-au

7 years ago

Well, I'm inclined to agree with Rusty here that you are a troll, but let's assume you aren't, just for a moment. What does Sue want? Why was Rob initially placed into foster care? What country do you live in? What did your younger daughter actually see? Answer these and I'll respond, depending on your answers.

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- Lite3000
  
  7 years ago
  
  Sue wants to marry Rob.
  Rob was placed into foster care because of incarceration (his parents were imprisoned).
  I live in the United States.
  My younger daughter saw Rob and Sue having sex in the basement. I don't know how long she saw it.
  
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  - AB1234
    
    7 years ago
    
    Children have been catching older siblings and parents having sex since the human species' dawn without traumatization. I'd bet the trauma children supposedly experience is in part concocted culturally. Sex is a perfectly natural biological function, and instead of fueling terror around kids witnessing it briefly, our culture might benefit from discussing sex tactfully with children when they confront it--much like we have to explain death to children.
    
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  - Tempest-au
    
    7 years ago
    
    Firstly, I don't think your youngest daughter is going to end up too traumatised - I'm sure she isn't the first child to see someone having sex. Don't pay too much heed to the therapists who will tell you she needs months and months of therapy, after all, they are trying to drum up business for themselves.
    
    Secondly, I really think you all need to sit down as mature adults and talk about this. Irrespective of the fact that you've adopted Rob, the fact remains that he and Sue are not related and you need to treat this as such. Perhaps your "children" have been blessed to find themselves in a situation where they have found their soul mates, and deliberately "splitting" them may be setting both up for a life of misery!
    
    The fact is once Rob turns 18, there is sweet fuck all anyone can do to stop them doing whatever they like, and as they seem committed to being together regardless, you all need to consider whether trying to wedge them apart now is worth damaging your parent/child relationships with them - because if they feel strongly enough, they will tell you all to fuck off and move out together.
    
    Now I'm not going to lecture you on how I would deal with this situation, because frankly it isn't my place. I can understand you all being shocked, perhaps even deceived - but what's done is done. The only thing left is to decide if you want to try and make the best of the situation and support your children being happy, or end up with a family that is dysfunctional and full of bitterness.
    
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    - AB1234
      
      7 years ago
      
      Not to mention an already historically traumatized young man to whom a commitment was made nonetheless being tossed out, abandoned again.
      
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BENDOVR

7 years ago

How old are they both now ?
Was this the first time that Suzy ever saw a male 6 inch boner cock in person ?
She obvious was curious as to what a cock and balls look like and what they would feel like inside her cunt , ass and mouth.

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- sandnigga
  
  7 years ago
  
  omg this guy everytime XD haha
  
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bigfatdick4

7 years ago

I think that they are both of age to fuck all they want, what seems to be the problem here?

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- finn
  
  7 years ago
  
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