I cant handle compliments, is this typical?

i like giving other people compliments, but i don't like it when other people give me them because I don't like people trying to make me feel better

Well, I feel awkward getting compliments, but not really to the extent you seem to. Do you have low self esteem or anything like that?

I don't like getting compliments cuz idk how to respond. And my gf always gives me compliments. And when I give her one back like she's cute hot sexy etc. She gets mad and tells me to stop lying :(

yea i hate compliments too

you must not like attention, im the same way, i HATE,no i DESPISE people and their god damed compliments

I'm kinda opposite, i love being complimented and compliment people as often as possible for silly little things from keeping the little brother entertained to having a cute nose, i guess we're on the different sides of the extremes

P.S. i expect a compliment for giving such a mature comment =P

I don't accept any of the compliments i get. I play instruments really well, and when people say that i'm really good, I don't seem to take it in. it's just words of nothing to me, but when it comes to negative compliments i get silently angry. I don't show it off often, but once i broke every pencil in my pencilcase. (That anger management!)

Guess it has to be the perfectionism... I'm never satified with my music or accomplishments.

Must...resist...urge...to tease...must...not...compliment...

I dislike compliments because most of them are for an egoboost. The person who compliments you feels better for making sure you know that you did good. I dislike them in general because I also came from an place where nobody gives compliments. I also think compliments aren't very useful. I rather hear: You did it wrong! and I can make sure I won't do that in the future.

Years ago I met woman who said she was going toapy because she was almost 30 and had not been able to get married.

No1 is honest now days. Hard to tell if theyre sincere or two face. I cant stanf it when ppl compliment other and then they talk behind their back. Its like why even say anything at all if it isnt honest then dont say it

It's normal.
I dislike compliments as well.

Maybe its because you know they are lying.

I understand where you are coming from. I feel like when people give compliments, they have some dark ulterior motive for doing so. Mine stems from a general distrust of people.

Sounds like you think its not necessary to give them, kinda like "Yeah this is a cute shirt, thats kinda why i bought it. Duh." maybe not that bitchy, but you see what i mean. If thats right then it think its completely normal. You're just so comfortable with yourself that you dont see why someone else may need the approval of others. Good for you=)

That's kind of like me. Sometimes people just say it so they can expect a compliment back which pisses me off. I reply with a "Thanks" or "Thank you" but I don't complement them back (cuz' I think they're weird). Afterward's, they wait for it, so I just walk off somewhere. It's really awkward.

I don't how to respond when I receive compliments, I get anxious. People stare at me looking for a thank-you.

---> bobsyruncl

i agree with you!!! i wonder about that as well. when something is wrong, ppl will assume its something subconscious or what. you know what because of that i ended up thinking oh mabe i really don't have a self esteem! its facken annoying!

I AGREE WITH YOU. I don't like it. It probably depends if i can sense that the complement is sincere or a way to manipulate me. If a person is sincere no problemo.

I'm the same. I get very uncomfortable when people compliment me, but I think it's due to the fact I used to get sarcastic compliments. Never really got any heart felt one's...might be the same for you?

I'm the same, i hate getting compliments, which is reaaly difficult for me to avoid because i do really well at school and someone is always saying great stuff about it or how i look. I never know what to do or say i hate it so much

I know it has something to do with the fact that i am extremely shy and don't like to draw attention to myself.

heh. i learned that i have O.C.D. so thats why im like that. i can spot any imperfection in any way.

I think it's normal... I am a perfectionist in what i like to do... If i screw up or its the tiniest bit wrong when i finish ill get pissy about it and destroy it all; starting again.

why must everything be the result of low self esteem, child abuse or some sort of unpleasant sexual encounter? why is it that anything that can be argued as abnormal automatically makes someone a victim of something heanous? I do find it somewhat ironic that a narcisistic egocentric person would dislike compliments. Perhaps its because the compliments lack merit and seem patronizing to you.

I hate compliments too...especially on how one looks...

I'm exactly the same. When someone compliments me, I'd think they must be lying. I'd get all nervous, say thank you, I GUESS, and then laugh to cover my nervousness up (No, hun, I'm not even shy. I'm kind of that person who loves to joke and laugh a lot). So I honestly don't accept the compliments. I always give compliments though. It's obvious I have low self esteem. You might too. A lot of people have it, but for you, I think perfectionism plays a big part here simply because you don't give compliments.

If you want a stop to this, I think you probably would have to lighten up and believe no one is perfect. Imperfection is beauty. If perfection, it'd be all boring... like robots. Don't you think so?

You're the judge so use your judgement.

Compliments can be insincere and manipulative - i.e. flattery. The world is full of pricks and schemers. You could be hanging out with or just stuck with the wrong people, and you are staying sane.

But the world is also full of decent people, so if the compliments are sincere then you are being an ingrate and bonehead if you can't even say "thank you."

Yeah I can't take compliments either. I think its cos my friends have been making fun of me for so long I dismiss it as being sarcastic so when a compliment is genuine it gets awkward.
Anyway, when someone gives you a compliment, try to give one back. That way it will be something you will get used to.

It's because you have low self esteem. Are you shy? Maybe they're just trying to start a conversation w you

many perfectionits feel this way, they never feel a job has been good enough to warrent a praise, they say a good way to snap out of this is to spend some time with children, they are really easy to praise you can say well done to them for silly things like burping...

But it is normal for perfectionists to feel like this

People don't just give you compliments for the sake of it. They actually mean what they say most of the time anyway. So take the compliment and realise its because you deserve it because they cared enough to say it. Try doing something poorly or completely wrong and see if they compliment you then. They wont. Maybe at least you'll realise that the compliments they give you are for a reason.