I cant feel anything. i'm not depressed or sad, i'm just so empty.

Hello. Today is one of those weird days so I'm looking for an answer. I feel empty. Like an empty container. I dont feel stressed, depressed, happy, sad, anything at all. I'm not angry or mad. All I can say after "I feel" is lost, maybe. I broke many people's heart too many times until now, just because I couldnt guess how they would react to my words. I lack emphaty. I never felt sorry for those children died at war, for poor people, for people who lost their loved ones. But I thought I should be, so I pretended to be.
I never cried for a movie. I never fell in love nor loved or missed someone so much. I dont know how love would feel like.
I feel physical feelings, though. I feel pain physically, not mentally. But never felt the need to touch someone like, hugging or kissing or anything.
I dont like talking to people. I always thought I didnt belong here. I mean, this universe, this world is too hollow for me. You know, being so away from home. Surrounded by strangers who dont know my language, places I dont know, everything I cant understand.
I get so confused, trying to understand people. When they try to talk to me (which is very rare) its like I traveled from another dimension. Like those aliens in movies, I try to fit in the crowd.

I'm currently a high school senior, 18 years old. I have literally no friend, my teachers and parents got worried about me being so quiet and antisocial many times so I had to get professional help a few times but when the psychologists ask me about my feelings, I couldnt say anything and it bothered me. So I stopped seeing them. I was diagnosed with social anxiety once but its not like I cant talk to people, I just prefer not to.

I like to be alone (not exactly alone but I'll talk about it later) all the time. Its like I'm introvert, an extreme one. I am an artist, I draw, paint and write. Because I think too much and cant keep my thoughts in so I feel the need to transfer them to somewhere.
Teachers no longer care when I draw in classes. My mom no longer complains about me locking myself down in my room, not seeing or talking to them the whole day.

To be honest, I havent been totally alone. I had that guy since I can remember, who never left me. He was in his twenties when I was 4 or 5, he still is. He used to stand next to my bed when I went to sleep. I was so scared to meet him then. Had nightmares and I wanted him to go away. My mom says that I used to scream and cry all the time, all the time. They took me to a doctor. The doctor asked me what he looked like, what he wore, what he said and she told me not to watch horror movies anymore.
I hated seeing the doctor, telling her about him each time. My mom started to sleep next to me and sometimes she would let me sleep in their bed. She told me that guy wasnt real.
I never told anyone about him again. When I started school at the age of 7, he was still with me. He would come to school with me but didnt talk much. He was like a spirit, as quiet as me and almost invisible. Actually, we were both invisible. Nobody seemed like noticing us nor talked to us. We were always alone.

I thought I had a friend when I was at 7th grade. She used to be kind to me, even if I was -in a bad way- different from the others. And I told her about him. She said "Dont tell this to anyone else or they'll think you're crazy."

I started to question his existence. I knew he existed, though, the question was if he existed in our world, or in my head.

And now here I am, 18 years old and still got no answer to that question. I feel like there's something very wrong with me. But I dont know what. Do I really not belong here or am I mental? Is it just that I have low eq? What should I do to be normal, acceptable for society? And since I have bad experiences with psychiatres, I dont wanna get help from doctors.

P.S. : I consider myself pretty successful in school. I study at one of the top high schools in my country and I want to study biochemistry in MIT. I have high SAT and AP scores.

Thank you.

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  • greygraygrey

    i don't cry at movies too. though, i'm used to watching horror movies alone at night. i draw and write alot too but not because i think too much. i haven't felt the need to kiss or hug someone too. i'm not a hugger, all the friends i have are(not fully humans) one is a mother now. she is 16 as me she is not wayward she just felt like having a baby that has no daddy. and my other friends are way younger and way older. so yeah, i'm not feeling empty but i've never loved. annnnd, you're normal. that's just you.

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    • Thank you. That makes me worry less.

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  • ShepherdRough

    I voted it's normal but I'm not sure it is. I know as a kid I very much cried at movies and felt connected to people, and now age 17 I feel I relate quite strongly to you. I don't want to become someone who doesn't cry at movies and I'm afraid I am. Personally I can't know your situation in life but I hope you can find yourself in a place to cry at movies.

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    • Thank you. I think its society or the system we're in that turns us into empty robots.
      I also wish the best for you

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      • ShepherdRough

        Thanks. God I guess so. I know my parents are the best and I love them so much but it seems like the rest of america is shallow and has difficult being there for people, and too often parents become part of the system.

        On the topic of society I feel the benefits of being forced to live with other people are not granted and living in gated communites or small villages often appeals to me, but being the "go to college" raised kid I am (and I am thourougly convinced I'm going to college for me (althought I wonder if I'm just doing it to stay in my class)) I doubt I'll ever move to one. That seems to be part of the importance of college college dorms however. I know I've been focing myself to get off the comptuer and go socialize, maybe choosing to live in the dorms at MIT would do you some good.

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        • I understand it. Actually my dream is to live on an island, by the beach, on my own.

          Have you tried to tell your parents about it?

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          • ShepherdRough

            My parents have always been there for my emotions and will make time if I need them to listen but they don't usually seem to have answers for me, I haven't told them because I don't think they'd be able to help aside from making me feel better.

            But I have some news friend, last night I decided to try creating a "mama bear" in my head to love me and protect me. During my day I've been much more exuberant and happy feeling love and support. Luckily I knew I needed this because I know that I'm an "8" on the enneagram whose basic desire is to protect themselves. Based on your description of feeling detached it sounds like your most likely a nine https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-9/ whose basic desire is to be at peace with themselves. I know finding out who I am has really helped me understand what fulfils me in life and maybe reading up on the enneagram could help you too. I just thought about my good day and how it contrasts your state and thought you might find this advice useful.

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