I cant cum! help? please!

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So, ive been dating this guy for 8 months, and through out the whole relationship weve had ALOT of sex, yet i cant cum for him. He tells me that he used to be able to make his 200 fat ugly ex gf cum while having sex, &now he cant even make me. i feel so terrible that i cant do it for him during actual sex. i can, during forplay sometimes. but its like, ive never orgasmed period before him, &yet i still feel like the bad guy.
Can anyone give any good advise?

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  • Thereisnogod
    12 years ago

    My gf will lay on top I me with her legs pointed straight and I'll be on my back. She can cum 3 maybe 4 times that way in a row.

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  • zii
    14 years ago

    Only a small percentage of women can cum from penetration. MOST, if not all, women can cum from clit stimulation. Just have him get you doggy and play with your clit while you do it. Teach him how you prefer it to be touched.

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  • DominiqueVA
    14 years ago

    lol. thanks guys. i guess i should take it into concideration to do it for myself&not worry about doing it for him.

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  • simba1
    14 years ago

    The above comment was aimed at budthewise by the way.

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      Sorry I don't agree with #1 - Bud's advice to "Shutup" is typical of his misogynistic attitude, which he has clothed in his rambling "sex expert" porno hooey. I agree with #2 &#3.

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  • simba1
    14 years ago

    1) You gave some good advice FOR ONCE - how true
    2)You say you "LOWER YOUR STANDARDS" - Well, they can't get lower than they already are!!!
    3) Unless you are related to a cow, there is no such word as UDDERLY. It is actually UTTERLY!

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  • moosedog_ck
    14 years ago

    Your boyfriend is probably kidding himself. First you have to do it yourself, alone and figure out what works for you. Then teach him

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  • Nazuro
    14 years ago

    Not many men are good at making a woman come....

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  • mrsjones
    14 years ago

    research female ejaculation and the varieties of organsm we have, this will help

    i felt like you once, but an experienced partner and research helped

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Also, this will work. Avoid the bed altogether and have sex standing up. Try it in the bathroom FACING the mirror so you can see him pounding you from behind. My fiance is heavy and if we can do this, you sure in hell can.

    My last piece of advice is to dress in a sexy satin outfit and wake him up when he is sleeping by rubbing him. AS SOON as he is hard, get on him and ride him hard. Try to get on him before he realises what you are doing. Do all of the work and don't have him do much. He will grunt and move a little and that is fine but YOU do the work, not him. I guarentee he will get there quickly but don't give up until he does.

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      WTF are you rambling on about Bud, you endless bore? Go get a blog. This person has a question.

      If you were able to orgasm on your own and with someone else before this boyfriend then it is likely something about the relationship - like performance pressure for example, or this crazy idea that YOUR orgasm is for HIM. There is something about the guy that just isn't doing it for you.

      But if you weren't able to orgasm prior to then see your Dr.

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      • [Old Memory]
        14 years ago

        Wow, I gave some good advice and you jump on even it. I bet if I logged in under a fake name and said the same thing, you would be apploding it.

        I have complemented you when it is due but jesus christ, come on. You are truly a sad person. This person asked for help and you jump on a comment to get to me and not to help him.

        Just shut up.

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    • tygeronherbed
      14 years ago

      no one wants to think about you and your "heavy" gf getting it on, thanks. spare the details, ew.

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      • [Old Memory]
        14 years ago

        Wow, I gave some good advice for once and you two fuckhead jump on my comment here as well. Each time I think you two are truly sad you two do something like this and lower my standards for both you and this site a little more.

        At least I know who I am and not do something UDDERLY FUCKING STUPID like ruin my health so others will like me more. I highly doubt you started smoking for the reason you stated and it shows a judge of character toward you.

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  • ieatrocksdirt
    14 years ago

    use a clit vibe while having sex. you will cum!!!!!!!

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      Try this, lay on your back and have him hold BOTH legs up. Then have him push them toward your head but not hard (Trying to get you there, not hurt you.) Also, you need to grab him by his butt and "guide" him so he does not slip. Within two minutes you will get there, I promise.

      Also, foreplay DOES work, try it.

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  • Silverlenses4
    14 years ago

    Not all women cum

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    • [Old Memory]
      14 years ago

      Yeah, it takes a lot of work for a guy to get a girl there. The biggest thing is to just be with a guy who puts your needs first. I won't get there until she gets there at least once and with my Multiple Sclerosis, I sometimes lose the ability to get there and I am a guy.

      NO, IT DOESN'T GO DOWN, my MS prevents my reaction to "flip the switch" to get there when the area becomes warm so if I don't get there within a while, I WON'T be able to get off.
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      Shutup, this isn't a good thing women. Would you feel bad for your boyfriend if it has been an hour and a half and he is trying but cannot get there although you get there consistantly? Also, wouldn't you start to think that you are the problem and not him? At least that is what Loverofbunnies thinks when we pull an "all nighter" and I go to sleep with it still up and loaded.

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  • peachfuzz
    14 years ago

    i would make you cum so fast you wouldnt know what hit you

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  • DominiqueVA
    14 years ago

    &browndoll, my boyfriends not gross.

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  • DominiqueVA
    14 years ago

    Okay. thanks marzipan. (:
    stuffed animal? uhh. a little odd. but okay. sure.

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  • lycrayum
    14 years ago

    get him to slide into you from behind then get him to reach round and massage your clit or do that together

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  • browndoll
    14 years ago

    Hes gross....

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  • sex101
    14 years ago

    Normal, why not try hving sex with a stuf animal in frout of him. When I can't cum, it always make's it where I can. Push as hard as you can!

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  • marzipan
    14 years ago

    Try and have an extended foreplay. The foreplay should go on until u feel that you might burst into an orgasm during foreplay. At this point, without any delays, get on top of him and you control the interplay till u cum. If need be, move your finger over your clitoris during interplay.

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  • DominiqueVA
    14 years ago

    Holy shit. can i have a regular person give me advice. not a 2 word answer?

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  • Senken
    14 years ago

    rub your clitoris while having sex.

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  • DominiqueVA
    14 years ago

    hmmm. mmmkay. :/

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  • brian987987
    14 years ago

    dont really know what to say :/

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