I cannot forget

I'm the same. I'm married 5 years and still think of my ex (first love) from time to time. Not every day or week even, it just happens. I have dreams of him also. There's some things I miss and other times I'm glad I'll never see this guy again. I'm over him, but not over the pain of losing him. There's a difference. I'm happy that he is out of my life and I now have a better man to share it with. Im not sure if I'll ever get past the dreams & thoughts, but I leave it at that. :-) There are different levels of love. For me, he was my first real love, so I'm sure that is why I can never forget. Good luck. It will take time.

The grass is always greener on the other side BC there's usually a lot more manure there. and it's all manure, so stick w ur spouse, and just accept things.

I've been in love with a girl that has a boyfriend. They're madly in love and I accept that, but I can't seem to let her go. :/

The phrase is actually "The grass is greener on the other side" which is a farming metaphor. I remember my daddy telling me the story when I was a little girl.

Three cows were eating grass in their field. They see other cows grazing and eating grass on the other side of the barbed wire fence.

Every day they look at these cows accross the fence and 2 are jealous and want to be as plump as the 'other cows' are and have the green grass that they have. The third cow tells them that they should be thankful for the grass they have. but every day the two cows keep wishing for they could be on the other side.

So one day, they try to pass between the fences they get caught in the barbed wire fence and die.

The meaning of the metaphor is that no matter how happy or well off you are it always seems that other people are happier and better off than you, but when you 'try' the other side, you get tangled in the mess that is on the other side and realize you should have just stayed where you were orignially.

The grass is NOT greener.

From the smallest things like picking consumer brands to the biggest ones we always wonder what could have been and if it could have been better. But don't let it control your life and destroy you.

Well I think you should go back to simply enjoying pleasant memories without the syrupy drama and putting this woman on some kind of marble pedestal. Geez - that "none compare" - what an insult to your wife and life. Bleahhh...

i have the same problem, i am also a fool but i'm enjoying the feeling.

"however i will never see her again." THat right there is the answer. If you aren't going to see her again, its perfectly reasonable for you to move on. Besides, it sounds like you already have.

I think it is normal. You never want to forget wonderful memories. The thing is that life goes on, and this person has moved on and so have you. Things did not work out for a reason. I don't think you have to ever forget that person. The thing is there is a difference between thinking about them now and then and acting on your thoughts. The grass is not greener on the other side. Cherish what you have.

You don't need her, you just need to know that.
I know how it feels, trust me. For somebody to be plastered in the walls of your memories, while all you want to do is be free. Do you really?
Do you really want to be free from her memory? Maybe she's like a safety blanket? Something you can't let go of, because it brings you comfort and hope? If so,
Stop right there.
You have to tell yourself that you don't need her. You don't need the past. You really, really, REALLY don't. Forgive the past for making it hard to forget her. Forgive it, pick up yourself and move on. Because one day you might be strong enough to forget it.

I really, really wish you luck.

What's wrong with enjoying a pleasant memory? I wish I had your problems.