I can't withstand a real relationship

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I can't withstand a real relationship because of how I am. I personally want to have fun more so than be touching each other all the time... I'm not a very lovey-dovey person. I can say that I've been in a few relationships over time, but I would only call one of them a legitimate relationship because we did do relationship type things every now and then.

One reason I say that I'm not cut out for real relationships is because I am abstinent. I do not want sex and many people seem to be turned off by this or simply walk away as soon as they find this out. The few relationships that I mentioned before - one or two of them would have ended in a matter of minutes had I told my partner that I was abstinent as soon as we got together.

Also, I want to go out and do things all the time not just sit at my partner's house. The few that I've been with only want to sit around and well... "fool around". I want to go out and have fun all the time while they do not.

Then of course there is the issue of appearance. Through my eyes, it's quite obvious I don't look good but I'm not here to cry about ugliness.

All that I want in a relationship is a decently good looking person (appearance doesn't play too much of a role but it is slightly important) and the fact that they'd like to go out and enjoy ourselves. Is this too much to ask for? Is it normal to want a relationship like this? Would you agree that I'm not meant to be in "relationships"?

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago

    There are a lot of asexual people who still enjoy company or a partner. I agree that you should look into a club for either adventure or a specifically asexual website.

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  • DollyBoots
    11 years ago

    You should join an abstinence club or find ppl around you that aren't into sex, or an adventure club. Either way your bound to meet someone who cares bout you long enough to get past the sex issue(: n dnt say your ugly or 'plain' because to somebody you might be a perfect 10(: dnt feel like your weird for practicing your own beliefs you just need to find the perfect person(:

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  • Corleone
    11 years ago

    You can withstand a relationship. The only thing you can't withstand is a shitty relationship.

    Now, it's true that the abstinence thing can be a turnoff for most people. So... I suggest trying to meet some people in religious circles, where they also have this stance on sex.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    I'm the same, except I've never been in a relationship and don't plan on being in one anytime soon.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I guess I could say the same.

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  • disthing
    11 years ago

    Finding entertaining stuff to constantly go out and do is a challenge, especially if money is a consideration. It's a pretty hard thing to maintain - hence why a lot of the time the only thing to do is lounge around each other's houses getting it on.

    I don't necessarily think you're not right for a relationship, just that you may not be right for a traditional and usual relationship

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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    I'm sure there are more people like you, even if they aren't the majority. Usually people have to compromise a bit in a relationship, so don't expect everything to be perfect.

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  • Lady.Pemberlie
    11 years ago

    You sound quite narcissistic. No sane partner would stand up long on that kind of relationship you fancy.

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    • [Old Memory]
      11 years ago

      ...I don't know where you're getting your information of what a narcissist is, but this person definetly is not a narcissist, that is fairly obvious.

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      • Lady.Pemberlie
        11 years ago

        I could identify one. I happen to live with 2 people diagnosed with NPD. Long story and I just like to state here my opinion based from my experiences. :)

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        • [Old Memory]
          11 years ago

          Either you're lying or you haven't experienced much from the narcissists you have lived with. Nearly everything that has been said here and in the reply from the OP is completely opposite to what a narcissist would say.

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          • Lady.Pemberlie
            11 years ago

            Well, if that what's suits you the most, I won't suspend your pleasure of elucidation.

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            • [Old Memory]
              11 years ago

              Not that you could. I am not trying to sound like I know everything and that I'm right simply because I believe myself to be, the traits of a narcissist are absent when you actually look at how this person explains themself to be. He/she admits to have things that he knows others see as a flaw, they also mention that they don't look good in appearance.

              I am open to know why you think this person is a narcissist and how they have any traits that come under the narcissistic personality dissorder.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              Let's all use big words

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        11 years ago

        Yeah that did sound quite strange...

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