I can't talk to anyone i have feelings for or find attractive.

Hey!
I kinda know how you feel. I'm a 20yr old girl and never been in any relationships. If I like a guy I can't really talk to him and feel very awkward, however if I don't have any feelings for him I can talk off my head and he will think i'm interested when I'm not! It's so annoying! When I like a guy, I don't ask him out either because I'm also scared of rejection. I don't think your're abnormal, I know some girls who prefer quiet guy's so don't be too despondent!

I am 21 years old, i have jern with Manu girls, this is not to brag, but to tell you that i also have veen rejected many times.. :) If you dont bet, you cant win, so just take the chance, if she walks away, shes not worth it anyway.. But imagine what could happen if she stayed? Life is all about taking chances mate, and life will most certainly punch you in the face, but that will only teach you about yourself.. So just go ahead, the World goes on even if you get rejected, cuz you will meet a new girl who will attract you :)

Think of it this way: What's worse- getting rejected or NEVER getting accepted because you never tried? Your only young for like 7 or so more years and then it'll be over and you'll have like 50 some odd years left to be a shut in. GET OUT NOW!! Get off the computer and go kiss a pretty girl! Rejection is like getting a shot...it's not bad at all and over before you know it.

I feel you friend. I too am almost 20 and i am very shy. I had a girlfriend once, but that was only because my friends set me up with her so i never had to do any of the initial "asking out". Though i have found that just smiling makes a huge difference, it makes girls around you feel at ease and will hopefully even approach you. Even though i am still a little self conscious i have learned that most people are very accepting as long as you don't try to be someone you're not.

emotionally over-whelming indeed

i am in a similar situation. ive been thinkng that im just going to have to talk to them anyway even though if i get rejected it will hurt, because it hurts just as bad when you have no one

Why wouldn't you look at counseling and/or personal development workshops? Would you rather live with a debilitating shyness, lack of confidence/skill that leaves you alone, possibly for the rest of your life?

you have to have rejections to learn dealing with them and getting wiser,dont be afaid ,go for it and u will be happy,women dont like insecure men ,try to be confident

i feel like that aswell, and i try soo hard to talk to them but i'm worried ill like embarras myself or do something stupid. its only face to face aswell if i was on webcam/msn talking to them it doesnt bother me. I dont know really how to stop the awkwardness but it gets easier the more you meet up and the more you sit there in awkwardness cos the feeling of it just goes away after you have been by the person you like for awhile. its also easier if they have some hint of you liking them and they know that you find it awkward or hard talking to people you like.x