Ask Your Question today
Sometimes I want my boyfriend to stop and he won't even though it hurts. My friend told me if I consented at first I can't change my mind because guys have to finish or it hurts their testicles.
Your friend is full of crap! No means no. That includes even after the fact. If you want him to stop mid sex, tell him to stop. Make him stop. If you have to shove him off of you do it.
Your friend is full of shit.
Is he/she suggesting that if you consent to sex, that means a guy has the right to do whatever the hell he wants to you for as long as he wants?
In both ethical and legal senses, consent to sex can be withdrawn at any point.
Your friend is also talking utter crap about the effect on guys if they withdraw before ejaculation. Yes, it can be uncomfortable, but I assume the guy has a hand or two, so there's no reason he can't finish the job himself if wants to.
Bottom line: your boyfriend is clearly an asshole and your friend is an idiot. Find a new boyfriend and tell your friend to get educated.
I can't believe your "friend" says something like that, what an idiot. And your boyfriend is a rapist.. I wish best luck for you, get rid of them both.
You're friend is wrong on both counts. If you tell him to stop halfway through, even after agreeing to have sex with him in the first place, then he has to stop. Otherwise it is rape, he has raped you. And I mean that, I'm not just exaggerating to prove a point. I'd never want to water down the word 'rape', but here it is perfectly appropriate. Plus it doesn't hurt our testicles to stop, maybe it'd be a bit disappointing, but not so disppointing that it'd make any normal decent guy want to rape someone.
He sounds extremely disrespectful and if you want my advice, you should break up with him. Consent is not infinite and you're very allowed to change your mind, especially if he's actively hurting you. If he had an ounce of logic he would go jack off to relieve himself rather than keep hurting you. Please stay safe and understand that is is NOT ok for him to do that, as other commenters have said it is rape.
Its not entirely false. But the testicles hurting is about orgasm denial not sex. There are ways to orgasm other than through penetrating an unwilling participant
I agree. Tell him to go in the bathroom and Jack it himself if he needs to "finish" so bad. Otherwise when you say no, if he continues, put your knee into his nut sack really hard.
Yeh, but he needs to save his penis rub sessions until he's no longer in the same house as her, and she should not see him again after trying that on her. She can get a new boyfriend while he permanently keeps his distance walloping the one eyed monster on his own.
guys have to finish because if they don't the woman is offended that she is not attractive enough and she will punch guys testicles
So you missunderstood what your friend told you
I dont think his testicles will hurt if he doesnt finish, why dont you lket him go and then finish him with your mouth or your hands?? just do that
Why should you give a fuck about his testtcals when he's not giveing a fuck when your in pain why should you be the only one hurting share the love share the pain
He definitely shouldn't keep going after you tell him to stop, and your friend is giving you false information
He should do proper foreplay and use lubricant so penetration would be smooth.. if it still hurts you should go see an ob gyne and get checked. Btw if your bf gets mad and doesn't stop when you're obviously hurting then dump the asshole coz he obviously lacks empathy and that will show in different aspects of your relationship sooner or later, not only in sex.
I agree with all the responses and can only add this - why do you want him to stop? Is it because he's too large for you? Is it because there isn't enough natural lubrication to feel good? I totally agree he should stop when you ask him to stop. But I think we (and you) need more information before we can give you advice? And no, it doesn't hurt or damage him to stop. In fact, that's a great way to delay his orgasm and extend the sex until you become more excited and eventually orgasm yourself. Can you share more about this?