I can't stand visiting grandpa! iin?

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A few years back, my parents put my Moms Dad in a nursing home because his health got to a point where they couldnt care for him. She would cisit him 2-3 times a week a spend as much of their time with him as they could. Their business went under water recently and they have had to take up 2-3 jobs in order to pay the resulting debt. The problem is, they dont have any more time for grandpa and they want ME to visit him in their stead!

I know I sound like an asshole for not wanting to see grandpa but whenever I DO visit him, I spend 8 hours having to sit there and listen to how it was so much better back then and how this generation is full of lazy good for nothing punks. He turns on the tv and starts complaining about what he is seeing and how people back then had morals and values and nobody did any wrong because anyone was a perfect angle. Yeah this is coming from the guy who is part of the hosing down black people in the streets generation. Yeah,my generation is sooo much worse. There are so many things Id rather be doing than sitting there listening to how easy I have it and how he had to get a job at 12 and kids these days dont know the meaning of hard work and AUGH IVE HAD IT WITH THAT OLD PRICK.

I dont want to continue visiting him, I cant take listening to him anymore and my parents would be upset but Im done with this bullshit! is anyone else in my shoes here?

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  • Marisol
    11 years ago

    I loved spending time with my grandfather. It was amazing. You can learn so much from him in the time that you spend together. He doesn't mean bad things. He is just being honest with you.

    I would suggest talking to him about your life, your problems, to see how he might help you and provide you with best advice.

    As much as you don't want to, I believe that grandparents (for some reason for me, grandfathers) are so fun to have and be around. You have to understand that he is old and that it is normal for him to criticise today's youth as it was so different back when he was young.

    You might regret wasting all the time either way - whether you visit him and hate every minute of it, or whether you don't visit him. All I am saying is that you can learn so much from him.

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  • coolio75650932
    11 years ago

    well i bet he complains cuz thats all he can do i bet his life is ending slowly and he wants you his favorite granddaughter or grandson to know about his youth he had a good run just listen to his storys trust me once you listen theye get interesting

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    The irony is that... who's complaining more. The child or the grandfather.

    Although the grandfather has a point.
    Lots of people are ungrateful for what they have and act as if the world fucking owes them something.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      wtf you called me an ungrateful and selfish kid, whered that go?

      the irony is that he complains for 8 hours and this took me less than 5 minutes to type. im not saying that the world owes me anything, but I dont want to sit him his room listening to him literally do nothing but complain.

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        11 years ago

        Technically I never called you anything.

        I just suggested that you are complaining as much as he.

        And the "lots of people" group - if you feel that shoe fits you then you have answered your own questions without me having to really call you anything =)

        It is my belief that people really DO know the answers to their own questions. All you have to do is lead them to making the final conclusion themselves.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          i don't really know how to take that but i am tired and business is slow tonight so I'll just agree with you. i know i can be an asshole but i don't think sitting an a room for 8 hours on one of the few one shift days i get every other week to listen to someone call me a lazy ass is something that is entirely worth my time.

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          • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
            11 years ago

            consider this then... how you treat your elders reflects your society.

            and that karma may decide that you will be treated the same way

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    You should tell your parents no. If they can't understand how much you don't like listening to Gramps bash you and everyone your age, that's their problem.
    Unless your circumstances don't allow for that- which I hope isn't the case.
    Either way, you have every right to feel that way.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    I LOVE MY GRANDPOOPERS

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    I feel your pain. I've spent thousands of hours sitting in the crazy home with my paper booties on spending time with my mother. As you can imagine in a home like that, the content of conversations with the patients tend to do more with the the taste of their checkers than anything interesting.

    I still go back every weekend and see her though, because I recognize the bond between family and I respect my elders. I would rather sacrifice some of my time than let someone that is partially responsible for my existence sit alone in a room and rot away! Talk to him about his life, i'm sure with all the years he has lived, there are some fascinating stories in there!

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