I can't stand talking with others lately

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I've been like this for month or 2. I can't stand people who call me for a conversation when I am like this. It honestly drains my mental well being.

For example: my fiance calls me more than 10 times a day. I told him to text me to ask if it's a good time to chat. Even so, he'll be the one who talks the most. He'll ask so many questions that my brain is like "I give up". Phone calls with him can last over 2 hours of just him talking. Yes, I can definitely tell he is an extrovert, and I try to compromise with that.

Another example is a friend who also calls me every day. Unlike my fiance, she blames me wanting quietness on herself. Like, no, it's not her fault at all. This makes me feel bad, but my mental health sometimes comes first.

I don't mean to push my friend and my fiance to the side. I just prefer being quiet while doing my own thing. Yes I know I am an introvert. I just wish my fiance can compromise with my introversion and my friend to stop blaming herself.

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  • clitoriajustice
    3 years ago

    this is absolutely normal! your fiance should ask you first to see if you want to talk and he should respect your boundaries if you say no. so should your friend! your friend is guilt tripping you whether intentionally or not and by blaming herself she's putting you in a position to alleviate her guilt. she shouldnt do that. your fiance should not talk to you more than youre comfortable with and he should not disrespect your boundaries because it sounds like you've made them clear. it is not your responsibility to talk to people when you don't feel like it. even if your fiance and/or your friend feels bad because you won't talk to them, that is not your fault and they can handle it without disrespecting your boundary.

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  • Mammal-lover
    3 years ago

    Next time he calls in a bored tone say new phone who dis. And then hang up when he says its him

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  • raisinbran
    3 years ago

    Block their numbers.

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