I can't stand my mother

Too bad your dad didn't feel the same way about her. Then you wouldn't have to stand her, cause you wouldn't have been born. Problem solved!

your just like her :)

Dont answer every call. Go out, do your own thing.

I feel bad that you don't have a good relationship with your mother but still it is a relationship even if your not loving it all the time or at all but its there. There is another way it could be where she doesn't acknowledge that you still live see cos that way you don't even get a choice you can hate it but theres is no way ever that you can change it. I don't know I guess I'm just jealous becos even though I was never the little light that burned the brightest for my mother I was basically forgotten about after my gymnastics career tanked except for the 6 therapy sessions the insurance paid for concerning my eating disorder but it felt to me like she was glad when that was all over becos it was really boring for her to take me and sit in the waiting room and not be able to get the doctor to tell her anything we talked about. And its not like it was a issue that came up over night there is a ton of pressure to perform and be perfect.

Maybe not interesting but I'm feeling chatty so why did it tank becos of her. I don't remember a time I wasn't in gymnastics everything I did revolved around my dance and gymnastics activities. I kinda traded cheerleading for dance in high school but we did alot of dance routines and stuff so it was alot the same. But it was trying so so so hard to get her acceptance or even a little attention or maybe show that she noticed I was a person. I wasn't told to not eat or to chew and spit but I was told how the really successful girls did it nudge nudge. And the diagnoses for my anorexia is what knocked me out of any chance to my on the Olympic team. Do you know what its like when the only thing you were allowed to care about gets taken away it hurts so much and then you can't even get 10 minutes in the car on the way to or from the gymnastic school not that I was even getting that more than once a week I had to find rides with other girls. And the therapy came with so much guilt that I probly should have got therapy for that to. I wonder does your mother look at you like your a mistake or a disappointment does she remember your birthday do you get invited to Christmas did presents show up with you were at university? My parents could have sent me through any ivy league college I wanted or they picked but you know how I did it? Scholarships and grants but I have no idea what a scholarship means when its not cos your good at being smart which obviously I am not but its becos you competed at the junior elite level and damn that would be a good addition to there program and then I was having to help girls that didn't have the hand eye coordinaiton to ty there shoes to stay on a balance beam and tell the teacher all the mistakes she was making and bad habits she was teaching the other girls which of course she hated me for doing but someone was going to get hurt doing things her way. So got off track.

Anyway I have a few years until I'm 28 and to hear every one tell it I won't live that long becos anorexia kills you. I don't think I will die though cos I'm a high functioning anorexic lol but still I'm just saying its nice to have a choice cos you could cut her off easy if you wanted to I haven't talked to my mom on the phone for over a year and even then I could practicly hear her checking her watch over the phone cos she has these little key phrases she uses when shes trying to get off the phone with some one and thats all I am anymore is just someone not her sweet little girl that she wants to spend time with and tell all her boring stuff to just some one and somedays I wonder if its even that good.

You probably inherited your father's temperament and personality. Why not make friends with him?

You didn't get to pick your family. No one says you have to like her. You're not crazy. And good for you for admitting the truth. If you plan to have children one day I would at least respect her though. For them. And why do you have to keep getting together with her or answer the phone? If you don't want to then stop making plans with her.

That's your mother. If you feel this way maybe you should consider family therapy.

it's not good for either of you to cut off contact or hate each other. it's ok to hate things about her,but just accept them and be friendly and get along with her. she's controling but she's not evil.