I can't stand my bf kids

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I'm 26 years old with no kids. My bf who I've I been With for 1 1/2 have 3 children (all girls 7,10,12). Omg!!! Theses kids are fucking spoil brats. I really don't like them. He gets them every weekend and it drives me crazy to the point I stay out to avoid going home to them. I love him so much. He's an amazing man and he does everything he can to make me happy but it sad to watch his kids disrespect him. And he doesn't know how to control them. Plus I'm dealing with baby momma drama on top of it all.I feel like she's putting shit in the children's ear to dislike me because she wants him back. They haven't been together for 3yrs way before I came into the picture. His children don't like me and I'm not kissing nobody ass !! When they around I stay to myself. I really can't deal with disrespectful children.I don't have the patience,However, I get along with everybody else kids. I really don't know what to do.. Should I walk away or should I stay and try to work it out and hope for things to get better ???

Should I leave and be with a man without children? 36
Should I work it out? 19
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  • Digge
    8 years ago | pl

    Find a guy without kids. This guy already has a family and you'll always be less important than his shitty little daughters.

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    • sillygirl77
      8 years ago

      Agree

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    When you get into a relationship with someone who has kids you should know their kids will always come first, as they should.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    8 years ago

    It's not going to get better. At least not any time soon and he doesn't seem to be able to handle the situation properly and/or the ex is such a raging cunt that she is willing to let her selfishness and anger get in the way of her kids leading a normal life.

    Unless they're actively taking steps to improve the situation, the kids will probably have to grow up and develope some communication skills to understand what's going on if there is any hope of this straightening out. Your only options, at this point, seem to be to just get out on the weekends or get out period.

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    End the relationship.

    Sadly, his children are being forced to pick sides, and the mother is probably bad mouthing the father at every chance she gets and taking advantage of how much influence she has over her own children.

    I can tell you now that until those girls become adults and can see their parents' relationship for how it really is (or if their mother matures and stop involving her children in a her problems), they are going to believe everything their mother tells them and hate their father (and you) for a long time. What's even worse is the chance of those girls understanding the situation is 50/50, so there's a chance you'll have to deal with not only the mother being a bitch, but 3 other adult women who behave just like their mother and will continue to treat their father (and you) like crap.

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  • Lanay
    8 years ago

    He's ignorant... But Thank you! I appreciate your advice.

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  • snarkygirl
    8 years ago

    Hi, don't mind some of the weirdos on here...I guess you have two options. You can look for a guy without kids and give up on this guy. But if you really love him and you think you can make it, wait it out till the girls are grown. I'd suggest you have as little to do with the ex as possible and if they disrespect him...let him deal with it. As hard as it may be, you will never be able to fix them so maybe ignoring them might be best. Also on weekends when they are there find lots of other places to be!
    Good luck and I hope you figure it out.

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    • deepdankstickygoo
      8 years ago

      Single girls with kids...............

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      • snarkygirl
        8 years ago

        :) yup

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    There are plenty of good men out there who will treat you just as well as this one does, without the brats.
    If you can't get him to control them, I don't see how you could continue the relationship. I couldn't.

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  • ☆☆I'm☆A☆Star☆☆
    8 years ago

    Have the girls watch me on television. They will become instantly mesmerized because ☆☆I'm☆A☆Star☆☆!

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    This is why I tend to not be interested in guys who have kids.

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