I can't relate to people...

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I am a very quiet, timid person, and I do not mingle with any groups. I rarely let my emotions show, even to my close friends and family, I keep everything that goes through my head and heart buried deep. I cannot bring myself to open up with anyone, even my closest friend. The few times I even began to hint at wanting to discuss some concern or insecurity of mine, they seem to shrink away, as if they were uncomfortable, and do nothing more than shrug their shoulders and look at me as though they are at a loss of words, and wait for me to say "nevermind" and go on to something else. It is the same with everyone. I feel like I have been there for so many people in their times of need, and no one is there for me. I feel like I am emotionally on my own at all times.

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  • Princess280
    15 years ago

    I know how you mean, you listen to people in their time of need but when it comes to you asking for help noone takes you seriously. This is not really healthy because if all your worries build up you are likely to explode or do weird things that you cannot explain yourself because it is deep in your head, the deeper it is the harder it is to take out.

    You need to find someone who you trust and feel comfortable with, then you tell them that you are being serious and you really need to get things off your chest. You start the conversation, do not let them waffle on about themselves and do not hint, get straight to the point. If it helps do it by text or IM, some people find face to face interaction uncomfortable.

    If they care for you they are obliged to listen to you and it will make you feel tones and loads better because you have less to think about and therefore you are more open within yourself. The way you see youself is the way others will too.

    Sorry its so long but i hope it helps

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    • Jenna15
      14 years ago

      Cling to someone. Get to know, one good friend and that is all you will need. ^.^

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  • mprocida
    14 years ago

    Been doing the same for 18 years

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  • niicocofosho
    15 years ago

    gett a good friend and tell 'em.

    in school, in the begining of the day be like i have to tell you something later.
    next time, AGAIN say ive got to tell you something.
    by the end of the day, theyll be coming to you asking whats wrong.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Good advice here. It could be the people you are trying to relate to aren't all that sensitive or deep and just don't care about you much. In that case your holding back is pretty sane - you could be hurt otherwise. And the answer is to get a few new "for real" friends.

    On the other hand, if you are holding back from sharing feelings etc. to the point of emotional constipation - don't blame your friends for being nervous about your neediness & their fear of being dumped on. In that case you are just going to have to practice opening up as a part of normal day to day life. And thats just an interpersonal skill anyone can learn.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    I feel the exact same way. It gets tough keeping everything inside, and when you try to tell someone, they're not interested. So frustrating!

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  • DarkThoughts
    12 years ago

    I'm exactly the same, the advice I'm given is to find someone who I feel would help and in which I can trust. That doesn't help me at all, but depending on your life it could help you. Do you know someone you feel would listen? You feel a relief when telling someone, or though it's difficult at the time.

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  • Deltoran
    14 years ago

    It will depend on the friend, what they are doing and how they are fealing

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  • Kassidy363
    14 years ago

    I feel you, but the past year I've met some people like me. Crazy, random, and spontanious. :)

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