I can't make decisions!

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I honestly cannot make any important decisions. It becomes extremely stressful when I'm thinking so intensely about it and can't come to a conclusion with someone feverishly expecting an answer. I sometimes feel like crying because I can't make up my mind.

There's a reason why. I fear hurting or offending someone. I consider both parties involved and how they would feel or be affected by my choice. That's where problems arise. Because of this behavior, I often have others making the decision for me. There was one time that a decision I didn't make scarred me emotionally. Did I learn? Not at all. I continue to rely on others.

Is this normal? How do I overcome it? What happened to me... really changed how I interact with others. I don't want to be any worse than I am.

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  • Treez
    12 years ago

    Make a decision before it's too late

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  • selvan
    12 years ago

    hai, ur fear is normal.. i believe it has to do on the way of ur life. the good thing is u r careful of not hurting others feeling. that speaks ur good nature. i also have problem on making decision even in small little thing. like u i care what other people wil comment of my decision. sometime i cry thinking that.im stil fighting over it coz i believe its all natural process of self discovery. whatever jst realize u r not alone..remember law of universe..nothing happen by mistake n wat is happening is happening for the best..bst luck...

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  • blop
    13 years ago

    You can't always make people happy. You have to make decisions based on what feels right to you deep down with in you. You should not worry if you are going to hurt someone's feelings.

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  • Mateus977
    13 years ago

    Your fears aren't real and have no tangible power over you. Remember, it's your life, not anyone elses. Follow your gut. How does the decision feel to you? Don't worry about what other people think. If they judge you thats on them. This is life. You will make mistakes. That's how you learn. Stop taking everything so seriously.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      I'll try very hard to remember that. Thanks a lot, I found your post to be quite motivational.

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  • Christoph
    13 years ago

    What decision did you make that scarred you emotionally? .. please explain..

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      13 years ago

      Where's my comment? O MAI. Um, ah... I'm not trying to avoid the subject, but I was just saying that because of what happened, I should have learned to stand up for myself and make decisions (but didn't). If you'd really like to read then I wouldn't mind. It's just that I didn't use the experience from my mistake to correct my behavior. Nothing else seems very related in my opinion. God that was difficult to think through and type out... sorry if it's totally incomprehensible. My wording is Godawful.

      NOW, CHRISTOPH... VEE MUST GO INTO ZE VOUDS, FOR ZE SAKE OF EXPLORATION! IMMEDIATELY! (You should understand. If not, remember the comments you make.)

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  • almostunreadable
    13 years ago

    Insufficient info, were your parents involved?

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