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As a guy I don't know what it feels like and if I try to picture myself in the situation where a girl desires me in bed I feel awkward, I'm afraid that when I do get a girlfriend I won't feel good enough for her sexually.
You need not judge yourself for something you haven't even done yet. Girls are individuals and all have something different to get themselves going but it would be nice for them if you could boost your confidence somehow. If you keep self doubting, then when it comes to the actual event you might not even preform as good as you could of done. Just relax and listen to what your sexual partner/s will say
We're all our own worst critics (this I can attest to; I am definitely my harshest critic of my own body and worry about flaws that other people either barely notice, don't notice at all unless it's pointed out, or don't think are a big deal). Other people look at the overall picture of us rather than focusing on what we perceive as our flaws (which are sometimes just perfectly normal features).
I think this is a matter of improving your self-confidence. Maybe if you exercised and tried to mold your body more in the way you would like it, this would help.
Thing is I actually love my body I workout like 4 times a week minimum, I'm skinny but muscled only despite that I still don't feel desirable I think it stems from a very odd experience of sex when I was with a girl she kinda didnt do anything she just lay there while I did all the work. It was strange but as a guy I was just happy to be having sex I didnt realise that it would leave me with the subconscious impression that I'm undesirable sexually. You're right its about self confidence but I also struggle with E.D too which doesn't help the situation.. my head is just a little all over the place when it comes to sex and I'm worried that it'll be a deal breaker for any girl I start to date that I have a lot of confusion around sex and find it hard to feel comfortable with it even though I do crave it. I mean who wants to start a relationship by hearing their partner straight up tell them they're bad in bed, idk maybe I'm being too hard on myself I've only had sex a couple times I've no actual proof that I'm bad at sex I think I can learn I just freak out internally at the thought of having to learn because I want to make whatever girl I'm with feel good.
I think you're too hard on yourself as well. I admittedly don't know a lot about sex, but I don't think most people are going to turn down someone of great quality just because they're not the best ever in bed, unless all they are looking for is someone to have casual sex with.
Don't doubt !
You're surely a beautiful person !
I praise you because I am wonderfully made.
Your works are wonderful.
I know that full well.
Psalm 139 : 14 The Holy Bible !
Somehow my girlfriend finds me attractive and vice versa. Just got to find someone that has complementary needs.
I mean being desired on bed us a great damn feeling. The last guy I was with i desired alooot, we even had sex like a month after the breakup haha. So trust me men are desired by women just dont date a third wave feminist. Uts like they are allergic to dick
Hard to say precisely, I think partly at least it's due to previous sexual experiences that I've had, I was with a girl who just lay there when wed have sex and didn't seem to be enjoying or not enjoying it, later I found out she wasn't confident sexually and so kind of froze up when we tried. But it was like fucking a robot I didn't wanna bring it up because I didn't want to make her feel bad by saying that I thought she wasn't good in bed but she was like minimally responsive and I think it me me feel sexually useless and undesirable because I could never elicit any reaction out of her. I didn't know how not normal our sex life was until after because she was one of the first girls I did it with.
Have you considered there must be some deeper reason for her tension. Maybe she felt insecure or she had a bad sexual experience in the past, before you, that traumatized her
In that case you need to take things slowly. Start by finding a new girlfriend, don’t worry about the sex stuff. If you treat her nice and don’t want to jump into bed with her in the first 10 minutes she isn’t going to run away. Find your comfort zone with her without having sex to start with. Then as you get to know her better and when you are feeling good around her then take that next step. When the time does come start with plenty of foreplay. Massage her body, play with her nipples, lots of kissing and attention, use your hands on her to stimulate her, then when she is nice and wet and feeling totally into the moment you can take it from there.